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…. Girls aren’t violent, of course not, oh no …

With reference to an article on Stuff.co.nz yesterday

“Butchering a Barbie doll has become a rite of passage for many young girls, research has found. ”

“Researchers at the University of Bath in Britain were astonished at the violence and hatred shown to the doll. … Dr Agnes Nairn, who led the research, said girls saw Barbie torture as a legitimate play activity and saw the torture as a “cool” activity.

Now of course, if boys are ‘violent’ with their toys, that’s symtomatic of the inherent violent nature of boys (men).

But for girls: “While adults could find the action of children smashing up their toys disturbing, Nairn said from the child’s point of view they were being imaginative in disposing of them just as they would crush a can for recycling. ”

The balance of the article basically commends girls for their violent response to these dolls, which of course we all know are purely designed to promote the patriarchal all-women-are-sex-objects society …

How much more outrage can a father endure trying to get participation in the lives of his children.
The Manukau Family Court issued a declaration that my children were wrongly removed from New Zealand to Sweden on 4th November 2005.
The Skane County Court in Malmo, Sweden convened a hearing under The Hague Convention, Aspects of International Child Abduction and the children were found to be abducted and their return was ordered on 2nd December 2005.

Congratulations Paul, give our regards to the children, you may very well be saying.

Not quite so fast though, it has now been further ordered that I have to pay for the children and their abductor to be repatriated back here to New Zealand.

Unfortunately, with the illegal and controversial demand of Child Support that I have been challenging but still had to pay throughout this period of criminal behaviour by my ex-partner for the past year, I find I am no longer in a position to fund their return as Child Support has slowly been taking me to a point of near insolvency.

It is an excellent example of the the classic “pulling the rug from under ones feet” and I am completely at a loss as to how to progress from this point.

Your comments, advice, empathy or encouragement would be greatly appreciated in my despondent state as this as a conclusion is the hardest yet to swallow.

WE NEED HELP.

Let me introduce myself,
we have a 5 month old son called Alex. Alex was born in Chch Womens hospital in June of this year and was very premature coming 11 weeks early and weighing only 780g. My wife had a very troublesome pregnancy as she suffers from several health problems which made conceiving a baby almost impossible, so it was a miracle that she found she was pregnant on 24 Dec last year.

In March of this year her pregnancy became worse as her bad back was starting to give her trouble as was her diabetes. I at this stage gave up my work to be able to stay at home to care for her as she was mostly bed ridden and unable to do day to day chores in the running of the house. This put a strain on our financial state as we had to go onto a benefit to survive. It took WINZ a month to put a benefit in place and we struggled through the whole of March with no income.
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I was stunned and aghast at today’s news that a policeman was able to rescue a child in Mt Maunganui yesterday. Sergeant Dave Thompson found the girl 45 minutes after she was taken by a youth in a car while walking to school with her 7-year-old brother. Are there not police women who could have handled this case? Why was Dave Thompson in a position where he could be alone with this already frightened and vulnerable child? I trust the Police Commissioner with the help from Children Commissioner Cindy Kiro and the Air NZ “policy by simplicity” committee, will put end to this.

It stands to reason that where children are concerned only female officers should work on the case. We are lucky in this incident that Dave Thompson is not a paedophile but a loving and caring Officer whose instinct to protect a child paid off. However, how long can we rely on luck. Are all male Officers SAFE? Children’s safety must come first.

As Hitler once said in the early 30’s “….. Where there has been a proven incident of a people who have betrayed the trust invested in them by the state, they must then be eliminated for the welfare of the state.” I’m not suggesting we should eliminate men, goodness no! just keep them bringing in the money and away from children.

sent to EDITOR NZ Herald

The Domestic Violence Industry of Waitakere would seem to permeate within all levels of the Judicial System thereby control.

What started off with a simple request which would verify the accuracy of data provided by the court is now starting to become either a rightly or wrongly, a “Kennedy” conspiracy.
Jim B suggested that I post this side issue for the Peoples Court to decide.

Copy of E-mail to Mark Burton, Minister of Justice and others

Dear Sir,

I have recieved a minute from Judge Lisa Tremewan which is copied as follows:

(1) Mr Catton seeks copies of the Court tapes of the hearing to be personally released to him.

(2) Transcripts have already been provided to him, The Court does not consider that there are justified grounds, in law, to release the the court tape recording.

(3) This request is declined and the Registar is to advise him accordingly.

This is Judge Tremewan’s final recorded position.
I dispute the content of the transcript against what I believe to be on the recording due to anomalies in the transcript.
This might be due to a simple misinterpretation on the transcribers part, an oversight, or perhaps my own recollection of what was or was not said.
The stance by Judge Tremewan throws weight into an allegation of something more sinister that would now require investigation.
The trail of correspondence is documented below.
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Last week’s North Shore Times had an article titled: Men’s group says they’re victims, too.

Men’s Centre was responding to White Ribbon Day on Nov 25th - the International Day for the Elimination of Violence against Women.

Jim Bagnall was quoted:

“People need to get the whole thing in perspective. I think in most cases violence is a relationship issue rather than a male thing or female thing. Not all men are abusers.”

“It’s a myth that it is male is that are doing all the abusing, which gets perpetrated by organisations run by women.”

Just received a beautiful calendar in the junk mail from my local council.
The whole of 2006, featuring artwork by pupils of local schools.
Each with a small photo of each contributor
10 boys … and 20 girls.
Ah - equality rules!

The following quotes are just some of those I have accumulated in my travels.

Feel free to post other stats!

Note that if you doubt the accuracy of these statistics (and who doesn’t!), take it up with the authors of the various studies, not me.
Yes, I too have serious concerns about definitions etc. Wait till I start quoting from ‘The Courage to Heal’!
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The intersection of Albert and Customs Streets in Auckland was filled with a cacophony of car, bus and truck horns at lunchtime today. Protesters outside Air New Zealand’s main office held signs which read: “If you are male and not a paedophile — toot!”

On the opposite corner, Jim Bailey sat on the top of his War-4-Kids Wagon, asking (rather loudly through his speaker system) why Air New Zealand wants to stop children having contact with men.

Bryan Norton attempted to deliver a letter of protest addressed to Chief Executive Officer Rob Fyfe, but the airline didn’t want to know. The staff member who initially came to make sure Bryan left the building said he would take it but refused to identify himself. Eventually he agreed to send someone down to receive it within 10 minutes, however nobody came.

After about 20 minutes, Brian went back to reception, this time followed by two video cameras, and it was agreed he could leave his letter with the receptionist.

About 15 minutes after all the other protesters had gone home, Murray Bacon and I were still talking on the steps outside the building when a lone policeman arrived. Spotting a placard left leaning against the wall behind me he came over and asked if we were the “surging throng of protesters” he’d been sent to settle down.

“Oh you’ve brought us a beer then have you?” asked Murray hopefully, but the policeman just grinned and replied “not till after work.”

The New Zealand Herald supports the airline policy. In an editorial entitled Airlines protecting children they demonstrate that they understand the principles involved, and that the actual risk to any child is negligible:

That they should not be deeming all males untrustworthy because of a worst-case scenario. And that such a scenario is highly unlikely, given the crowded nature of most airliners and the watchfulness of airline staff.

But then they switch into sex abuse hysteria mode:

people who prey on children are masters of cunning and trickery… It could be an opportunity for contact to be made which might lead to “grooming” of a child…one in five English children had been the subject of unwanted sexual advances outside the home.

Anything goes in the name of ‘protecting children’ according to the Herald:

as in all matters bearing on such abuse, society must make the protection of children its paramount concern.

When major newspapers join the lynch mob like this, and fail in their responsibility to uphold human rights, the foundations of our society are undermined, and everybody becomes less safe.

Nation’s Children are the winners, by Peter Dunne, which I have found in Friday December 2, issue of Harbour News, gives the Revenue Minister’s opinion on Child Support.

The main thrust of the article is to outline the financial efficiencies intended as a consequence of the child support amendment bill, and that is what we should expect from a Revenue Minister - financial efficiency. The article concludes with a veiled suggestion that fathers should shut up, pay up, and the state will see to it that the nations children will get the financial support they are entitled to.

If I was to draw conclusions from parallel legislation in other countries, then I would expect that the consequences of this legislation will be:

1. An increased number of men refusing to participate in society.
2. A further increase in male suicide.
3. Fathers being criminalized and jailed for failing to comply with discriminatory legislation.
4. A further decrease in our live birth rate.
5. Increasing numbers of men permanently leaving NZ.
6. An increase in gender violence.
7. An increase in child neglect cases.

It should be remembered that this is the man who took the stage at the opening of Union of Fathers, to tell us how he would make a difference. The man who told the country he would support family values, and conveniently left other more blatant anti family clauses from the amendment out of his article.

I certainly hope that the media will familiarise his Wellington Electorate with the content of both his article, and the bill he supports. They need to made aware that Mr Dunne has turned his back on Fathers and Families.

Surely the United Future Party must be questioning his credibility and his leadership.
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