Comments on: Proposed Convention on the International Recovery of Child Support and Other http://menz.org.nz/2005/proposed-convention-on-the-international-recovery-of-child-support-and-other/ - promoting a clearer understanding of men's experience - Thu, 20 Nov 2008 13:00:53 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.3 By: John http://menz.org.nz/2005/proposed-convention-on-the-international-recovery-of-child-support-and-other/#comment-5255 John Wed, 16 Mar 2005 22:14:47 +0000 /?p=175#comment-5255 Ko Nga Tamariki Te Tuatahi. Children Come First. Ko Nga Tamariki Te Tuatahi. Children Come First.

]]> By: Nik http://menz.org.nz/2005/proposed-convention-on-the-international-recovery-of-child-support-and-other/#comment-4616 Nik Mon, 14 Feb 2005 20:40:09 +0000 /?p=175#comment-4616 it IS NOT Child Support - it is really benefit recovery. When one gets down the line and engages "the officials" and the "reviews" the stated view gets more and more clear on this. At this point in time all one can do is: meet in person with your MP and tell them your concern (remember it's election year and your vote counts); try like hell to get to the magical 40% of nights; file for joint custody in the family court as a self-litigant (this may count as siginificant other for IRD and shared care). And spread the word: We do not need put up with the Child Support Act. it IS NOT Child Support - it is really benefit recovery. When one gets down the line and engages “the officials” and the “reviews” the stated view gets more and more clear on this. At this point in time all one can do is: meet in person with your MP and tell them your concern (remember it’s election year and your vote counts); try like hell to get to the magical 40% of nights; file for joint custody in the family court as a self-litigant (this may count as siginificant other for IRD and shared care). And spread the word: We do not need put up with the Child Support Act.

]]> By: Morris Lindsay http://menz.org.nz/2005/proposed-convention-on-the-international-recovery-of-child-support-and-other/#comment-4614 Morris Lindsay Mon, 14 Feb 2005 09:45:37 +0000 /?p=175#comment-4614 After my recent seperation the IRD are forcing me to pay $720 monthly for 'child support'. I have only child, a 7 year old boy, whom I love dearly. It costs nowhere near $720 to look after all of his needs. In fact it costs about $230 a month. Where does the extra $490 go? These Govts need to recognise their excessive taxation of one parent is really an act of child abuse in itself and further promotes child abuse. In effect crime and and violence today has been caused by the Govt. To illustrate, I can no longer afford to buy my son any toys, any new clothes. I cant take him on outings, pay for swimming lessons. Neither can my wife because she chooses to work only 4 hours a day, 5 days a week. The worst thing is, I can't save any money. I can't save any money for my son's future education. My son is deprived. Even now, he recognises other kids get better toys, clothes , meals, have outings and so on. He feels depressed. He feels left out. He feels lonely. In later years will he steal, commit crimes? I wonder. I love my son. I have him overnight 3 nights out of every 8. Not enough for the IRD. I have to have for exactly 146 nights a year. I am a shiftworker, so I can't quite manage it. I fall short by 9 nights, meaning I still have to pay $720 a month, and provide for his meals and clothes on top of that. I would love to be able to save some money for my son to go to University. I am 50 years old. I have no chance of that. My son has no chance either. Why does the Goverment has to me rip me off and destroy my sons life through excessive taxation? Why can't I just pay a fair amount of 'child support'...i.e. $230 a month rather than $720 a month? Now I know why so many men committ suicide and why so many others skip the country. Both have an impact on a childs life...either a dead father or one who cannot afford to see them. The IRD impact on a child overall is...child abuse. Helen is one lady I have always deeply respected until I seperated. Now, to me she is just one more person who knows her Govt is killing people, driving them out of this country, and worst of ...yes, promotes child abuse. After my recent seperation the IRD are forcing me to pay $720 monthly for ‘child support’. I have only child, a 7 year old boy, whom I love dearly. It costs nowhere near $720 to look after all of his needs. In fact it costs about $230 a month.

Where does the extra $490 go?

These Govts need to recognise their excessive taxation of one parent is really an act of child abuse in itself and further promotes child abuse. In effect crime and and violence today has been caused by the Govt.

To illustrate, I can no longer afford to buy my son any toys, any new clothes. I cant take him on outings, pay for swimming lessons. Neither can my wife because she chooses to work only 4 hours a day, 5 days a week.

The worst thing is, I can’t save any money. I can’t save any money for my son’s future education.

My son is deprived. Even now, he recognises other kids get better toys, clothes , meals, have outings and so on. He feels depressed. He feels left out. He feels lonely. In later years will he steal, commit crimes? I wonder.

I love my son. I have him overnight 3 nights out of every 8. Not enough for the IRD. I have to have for exactly 146 nights a year. I am a shiftworker, so I can’t quite manage it. I fall short by 9 nights, meaning I still have to pay $720 a month, and provide for his meals and clothes on top of that.

I would love to be able to save some money for my son to go to University. I am 50 years old. I have no chance of that. My son has no chance either.

Why does the Goverment has to me rip me off and destroy my sons life through excessive taxation? Why can’t I just pay a fair amount of ‘child support’…i.e. $230 a month rather than $720 a month?

Now I know why so many men committ suicide and why so many others skip the country. Both have an impact on a childs life…either a dead father or one who cannot afford to see them. The IRD impact on a child overall is…child abuse.

Helen is one lady I have always deeply respected until I seperated. Now, to me she is just one more person who knows her Govt is killing people, driving them out of this country, and worst of …yes, promotes child abuse.

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