Comments on: So Close Yet So Far

By: MarkL

MarkL — Mon, 19 Dec 2005 20:54:29 +0000

Best of luck Paul, Although not anywhere in the same league of your issues, I have just started my fight to protect my daughters best interests by ensuring continued access to her extended family based in Auckland after her mother sent me a xmas present in the form of a notice of intent to move her back to Whangarei to live with her new partner. Stated in her letter was the benefits of said move of which one was, “The move would be financially beneficial as she will be part of a dual income family and her needs will be met”.

Excuse me but how have her needs not ever been met with the exhorbatent amounts of CS I pay to her mother that fund multiple overseas holidays and a small warehouse of toys to buy her love??

And yes we are still expected to pay CS even though it could well being spent on children we have no relation too and pay for the costs of access. Its F$%^kn great isn’t it?

Anyway Paul, best of luck in your fight and I do hope we all see justice done one day soon for our sons and daughters.

By: Ed

Ed — Mon, 19 Dec 2005 20:41:05 +0000

Just count yourself lucky, the Swedish courts have a very poor record of enforcing breachs on the Hague Convention.

By: Mark Shipman

Mark Shipman — Mon, 19 Dec 2005 20:25:21 +0000

Paul,

Be strong.

It seems you should approach the New Zealand government in the first instance.

There is, from memory, some kind of arrangement between governments about the costs of deportation…surely there must be a similar facility available for the repatriation of criminally abducted children.

But, you do have to ask “Why the f*** do you have to pay for the vex?” - would the [in]justice system not bring her back to face up to her crimes anyway?

By: Jim Bailey

Jim Bailey — Mon, 19 Dec 2005 11:29:00 +0000

Fight on my friend. I and many others are with you

The system is designed to increase the “Empire of Injustice” not to work in the “Best interests of the Child” as it claims.

Do not lose site that only DAD can do DAD’s stuff

The ideal compromise to loving Family is HandsOnEqualParenting.

Aim at it without expanding the “Empire of Injustice” if at all possible

Pray, raise the money somehow. Fight on

The fight you might say will never stop.

Parenting is the hardest job you will ever do, made worse in the compromise of “Equal” Parenting when you get the chance so, get used the fight my friend you have the skills

By: Stephen

Stephen — Mon, 19 Dec 2005 10:50:55 +0000

Some suggestions -

contact Fathers for Justice. Start with thier UK branch which is the oldest and most organised.

The most powerful pro-fathering organization I know of at present. Surely someone there can offer some form of help.

Try contacting your local M.P.

Climb something large and refuse to come down until justice prevails. That could get media attention, possibly even internationally!

By: Bevan Berg

Bevan Berg — Mon, 19 Dec 2005 10:06:14 +0000

You might approach the project re-union trust, who help
re-unite fathers and their children.
After all its xmas time.

By: Lyn

Lyn — Mon, 19 Dec 2005 08:33:28 +0000

hmmm Paul,

This is a tough one. The justice system certainly has a slant towards the custodial parent (usually female).

The system appears to allow this parent to basically run free. While laws plus agreements may be willfully disobeyed by the custodial parent, it is treated like a hiccup.

Heaven help the non-custodial parent, who can have all manner of allegations and actions put upon them.

At least you have continued the fight. However, the legal system is never fair. You have a legal ruling that the law was broken, yet who is expected to pay the price.

My advice, go to the media. Bring the issue out into the open. You may find support that you never knew existed.

Good luck.