So Close Yet So Far
How much more outrage can a father endure trying to get participation in the lives of his children.
The Manukau Family Court issued a declaration that my children were wrongly removed from New Zealand to Sweden on 4th November 2005.
The Skane County Court in Malmo, Sweden convened a hearing under The Hague Convention, Aspects of International Child Abduction and the children were found to be abducted and their return was ordered on 2nd December 2005.
Congratulations Paul, give our regards to the children, you may very well be saying.
Not quite so fast though, it has now been further ordered that I have to pay for the children and their abductor to be repatriated back here to New Zealand.
Unfortunately, with the illegal and controversial demand of Child Support that I have been challenging but still had to pay throughout this period of criminal behaviour by my ex-partner for the past year, I find I am no longer in a position to fund their return as Child Support has slowly been taking me to a point of near insolvency.
It is an excellent example of the the classic “pulling the rug from under ones feet” and I am completely at a loss as to how to progress from this point.
Your comments, advice, empathy or encouragement would be greatly appreciated in my despondent state as this as a conclusion is the hardest yet to swallow.
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hmmm Paul,
This is a tough one. The justice system certainly has a slant towards the custodial parent (usually female).
The system appears to allow this parent to basically run free. While laws plus agreements may be willfully disobeyed by the custodial parent, it is treated like a hiccup.
Heaven help the non-custodial parent, who can have all manner of allegations and actions put upon them.
At least you have continued the fight. However, the legal system is never fair. You have a legal ruling that the law was broken, yet who is expected to pay the price.
My advice, go to the media. Bring the issue out into the open. You may find support that you never knew existed.
Good luck.
Comment by Lyn — Mon 19th December 2005 @ 9:33 pm
You might approach the project re-union trust, who help
re-unite fathers and their children.
After all its xmas time.
Comment by Bevan Berg — Mon 19th December 2005 @ 11:06 pm
Some suggestions -
contact Fathers for Justice. Start with thier UK branch which is the oldest and most organised.
The most powerful pro-fathering organization I know of at present. Surely someone there can offer some form of help.
Try contacting your local M.P.
Climb something large and refuse to come down until justice prevails. That could get media attention, possibly even internationally!
Comment by Stephen — Mon 19th December 2005 @ 11:50 pm
Fight on my friend. I and many others are with you
The system is designed to increase the “Empire of Injustice” not to work in the “Best interests of the Child” as it claims.
Do not lose site that only DAD can do DAD’s stuff
The ideal compromise to loving Family is HandsOnEqualParenting.
Aim at it without expanding the “Empire of Injustice” if at all possible
Pray, raise the money somehow. Fight on
The fight you might say will never stop.
Parenting is the hardest job you will ever do, made worse in the compromise of “Equal” Parenting when you get the chance so, get used the fight my friend you have the skills
Comment by Jim Bailey — Tue 20th December 2005 @ 12:29 am
Paul,
Be strong.
It seems you should approach the New Zealand government in the first instance.
There is, from memory, some kind of arrangement between governments about the costs of deportation…surely there must be a similar facility available for the repatriation of criminally abducted children.
But, you do have to ask “Why the f*** do you have to pay for the vex?” - would the [in]justice system not bring her back to face up to her crimes anyway?
Comment by Mark Shipman — Tue 20th December 2005 @ 9:25 am
Just count yourself lucky, the Swedish courts have a very poor record of enforcing breachs on the Hague Convention.
Comment by Ed — Tue 20th December 2005 @ 9:41 am
Best of luck Paul, Although not anywhere in the same league of your issues, I have just started my fight to protect my daughters best interests by ensuring continued access to her extended family based in Auckland after her mother sent me a xmas present in the form of a notice of intent to move her back to Whangarei to live with her new partner. Stated in her letter was the benefits of said move of which one was, “The move would be financially beneficial as she will be part of a dual income family and her needs will be met”.
Excuse me but how have her needs not ever been met with the exhorbatent amounts of CS I pay to her mother that fund multiple overseas holidays and a small warehouse of toys to buy her love??
And yes we are still expected to pay CS even though it could well being spent on children we have no relation too and pay for the costs of access. Its F$%^kn great isn’t it?
Anyway Paul, best of luck in your fight and I do hope we all see justice done one day soon for our sons and daughters.
Comment by MarkL — Tue 20th December 2005 @ 9:54 am