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Teletext Again – Domestic Violence Campaigners told a hui in Hamilton this weekend that Judges and Lawyers were not using the domestic violence act the way it was intended. The court was failing battered women. This is wonderful progress, the court must no longer be failing men and children as well, and all this while the psychologists still argue whether it is a duck or a rabbit. Confused: you may need to watch soap. In the meantime does any know what the rules for the game really are? Well, if anyone’s got a copy of the new rules please post them here so we all play by our own interpretation.

Freedom is a wonderful place. Many pursue it, whether it is freedom itself, or whether it is a specific freedom: Political, intellectual, cultural, religious, spiritual, sexual, however with personal freedom comes personal responsibility, something many would rather not have.

Within the confines of a social contract we agree to sacrifice that degree of freedom which we accept is irresponsible. Our laws should reflect that boundary that differentiates between responsible and irresponsible.

Society in this respect becomes a security that many willingly trade their freedom for. It is far easier to be a prisoner of the world than a child of the universe, far easier to be held responsible by society, than to be responsible for yourself. At this point we must exercise caution, if we absolve that responsibility it must be to a leadership that respects our trust and seeks our acceptance, not to one that abuses our fears and takes advantage of anyone’s ignorance.

Is it the vain dream of one man in every language that there may be a number among us that would sacrifice self interest for the mantle of leadership, to preserve the integrity of society, and perhaps the peace of the world.

Juxtapose if you will the actions of dealing with the domestic violence industry by the police and courts today and in the movie “The Devils”, directed by Ken Russell in 1971. It is set in the Middle Ages when the church and state were one. The movie had a tremendous impact on me because of its ability to expose the abuse of power.

Cardinal Richelieu and his power-hungry entourage seek to take control of pre-renaissance France, but need to destroy Father Grandier – the priest who runs the fortified town that prevents them from exerting total control. So they seek to destroy him by setting him up as a warlock in control of a devil-possessed nunnery, the mother superior of which is sexually obsessed by him. A mad witch-hunter is brought in to gather evidence against the priest, ready for the big trial.

The ignorance of the general public and the shrewd conniving cunning of those up the chain of command were evil personified. Owing to the churches control over the general public, (all media) what ever the Cardinal deemed as evil was evil. Demons were to be found everywhere, particularly if they could be utilised to cover truth so the Cardinal could pervert justice. (sound familiar?) Sometimes, as a temporary measure, they would tie rocks to the suspects take them out onto a lake and ask God to not let them sink if they were innocent. (ever had an Exparte order slapped on you and been thrown out of your home, then, when you react to injustice have the state tell you that indeed you do have an anger problem?) The state employees of this evil regime acted as they were told. It was a good thing they did, they thought. The devil was being dealt to and they were eradicating evil. (Don’t expect Police in NZ to see your point of view because they must carry out their duties. They are just ignorant foot soldiers who see themselves as doing a good thing)

The sexual orgy that eventuates amongst the Nuns at the climax of the movie reminds me of how it must be at a ‘Woman’s Affairs’ end of year party when they count up the number of men’s lives they have fucked up. “Sure a few kids have been stung but at least we fucked those men over.”

The answer then was to not let religion and the state be as one. The answer now is to not let feminism and the state be as one.

In 1973 when I saw this movie I felt so bloody lucky not to have lived in those times…….. Down stream in generations to come men will look back at this time and say… Why in Gods name did men have children, were they all masochists?

Police are on the front line when it comes to dealing with volatility in relationships so one would think that they would be given special training with regards to inflaming situations by making decisions that lack any intelligence.

This appears however, not to be the case. I have found that whilst the police do not have the power to convict they do have the power to abuse their position. Driven by bigotry and prejudice they can make your life a misery. They know that putting you into the system, by laying charges , is going to cost you money and stress over a considerable length of time. Without any evidence and in a situation where it is evident that a complainant has been involved in previous false allegations against me, a police woman, Constable Low from the Manurewa Enquiry Section, proceeded to charge me with threatening to Injure.

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There is bullying in schools now, there was when we I was a child too, that hasn’t changed. What I have learnt in life though, is that there are bully’s in the workplace, in business, in government departments, in politics, and even in the justice system. If I have seen a fundamental change in the last 30 years, it is that the bully used to lose, but now the bully wins.

It is not the bully that has changed it is us!

Stuff Article by By MICHAEL LAWS

Link:http://www.stuff.co.nz/stuff/0,2106,3645978a1861,00.html

Boys are the new girls

extract: Now we are the spent gender. Reduced to recycling Russian brides, watching sport and wondering where it all went wrong. Eschewed by a smarter, sassier sister who proves that she can do anything, including us. For a male these are indeed desperate and dangerous times.

I found this on Teletex.

A real slap in the face for the New Zealand Justice system has been dished out by the Australian Federal court when it overturned extradition warrants for two ex pats who had been sought on charges of historic sexual allegations.

The reasons for the decision – there are fundamental differences in the New Zealand justice system which meant these men wouldn’t get a fair trial.

So the world is watching after all!

While new to this site, after entering the world as a newly separated Dad or 2, the impression I have gained from my brief reading suggests that various processes and systems allow women (at times seemingly wrongly and perhaps manipulatively) to remove children from the grasp of their father. While I am currently in current good standing, after years of hands on fathering, I am fearful for being gripped and pulled from my informal 50:50 child sharing arrangement by the “DV” opportunities, which seeminly could be invoked after unsupportive DV evidence is presented.

While every situation is different, I am wondering if there are recomendations for:
1. Best formalising 50:50 access and/or
2. De risking the chances of a loose DV case being thrown at oneself.

Anybody will to take me up on a bet that Dr Joan has no children and has never been separated?

“Leading US clinical psychologist Dr Joan Kelly, who is a world expert in children’s adjustment to separation, told the conference………….”

Cheers
David

It is time for New Zealand Society to make a critical decision.

This is a decision that will save both our adults and our children so much of the current heartache and abuse we are dealing with.

The best way to describe this situation is to understand the final destination of those who make a great contribution to the leadership and direction of our society.

Let’s look at a society as they see it with almost totally female makeup, with a few gay guys contributing to a sperm bank. In order to maintain a population it requires 50% of the females to have two children,(the child bearers), and that leaves the other 50% of the females free to do work, (the workers). Being a gay man is a privileged and respected position.

This society has a complete separation between human reproduction and sexual gratification.

In terms of reproduction a female obtains a pregnancy by sperm donation, with no physical interaction with a male. Technical manipulation allows for the guaranteed female male ratio.

In terms of sexual gratification, which is as much a state of mind as a natural biological inclination, females are raised to expect to get their jolly’s from other females, and gay men likewise from other men.

Gender interaction is a frowned upon, an unacceptable aberration.

What we have here is a gynaecocracy in the making, with heterosexual people desperately fighting for their families.

I think it is important to understand not only what we are fighting against, but how many people are actually involved in the creation of this society. Unfortunately there is no compatible outcome here; it is two extremes with some people in the middle fighting for this mythical equality.

Child abuse as we see it is a consequence of a much more diverse political atmosphere than we take into account. Because we don’t think like this we live in a vacuum of our own values, socialisation and experiences.

If you understand this you will look at social policy, law making, and behaviour in a totally different way.

Now there’s something for you to think about. Do I stay or do I go?