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Here’s a useful apge with lots of links for men who are being abused by their partners/wives.
It shows how men can use modern day technology to
and at the same time expose it so that it can be dealt with.
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Many mid->high-end cellphones (smartphones) and low end PDAs either have audio recorders installed or have the capacity to install audio recording software - see here where you can download
such stuff for free.
Maybe it’s time to upgrade your gadgetry?
Comment by Stephen — Sun 19th November 2006 @ 7:46 am
Awesome.My favourite is the sew on button camera with the set of matching buttons.She may find it odd that you wear the same shirt when you are getting a thrashing though.It probably shouldn’t be laundered by her either.
Comment by keith — Sun 19th November 2006 @ 4:42 pm
You don’t always have to be wearing a button cam to catch an abusive woman in the act (or catch her making a false allegation). You might check out 24/7 surveillance by getting a hidden camera that transmits a wireless signal to a digital video recorder. There are a number of common household items that can have tiny cameras built in, such as fully-functional television sets, fully-functional VCRs and DVD players, fully-functional boom boxes, household cleaners (canisters), cigarette holders, house plants, computer speakers, computer monitors, books, and (my favorite), DRY WALL. Once you have a hidden camera (or several of them) set up, transmitting footage to a recorder, you can forget about the logistics and just go about your life as normal.
Then, when the day comes and she unleashes her fury, it’s time to recover the footage. First provide a copy to your attorney (so it cannot be erased, covered up, or confiscated), then provide a copy to the police, prosecutor, or judge (but use your judgment).
If you REALLY want to be secure in your mind, buy a digital video recorder that makes the footage you capture available over the Internet. Digital video recorders always save the last X-number of hours (depending on their storage capacity), and overwrite the oldest video as newer footage replaces it. You’ll always have the last 3-30 days available for retrieval if you need it, and if it’s connected to the Web (via cable modem, DSL, or WiFi) you can retrieve the video even if you’ve been kicked out of the house.
Technology is here to save the day, if you only invest a little time and money now.
But how do you know if your particular woman will snap? What are the danger signs? Check out the following link and see if your woman is described therein. Then, invest in surveillance accordingly at DontMakeHerMad.com (or elsewhere).
“Common Characteristics of Dangerous Women”
Charles Correy, Ph.D.
Equal Justice Foundation (United States)
http://www.dvmen.org/dv-125.htm#behavior
Comment by John Dias — Sun 19th November 2006 @ 7:32 pm
Another little humdinger surveillance application you can download for $13US and plug into your upscale cellphone. Easy peasy.
You can then do like others are starting to do and upload to YouTube.
If the ‘courts’ won’t do their job then expose and shame female abusers yourself!
Comment by Stephen — Mon 20th November 2006 @ 3:26 pm
John Dias,
What a remarkable page you gave. It certainly threw me back. I won’t say how many of those types I can connect to. But I won’t stop standing by your side. (You’ll just have to put up with me)
Although I liked it very much.
Do you know what the strange thing is though. If we were to go back into everyone’s history we can find things wrong. Maybe not in their lives but in their parents or their parents. Some more than others and I do think the radical femenists are the most hurt. But then maybe it was their parents who were hurt. It is a hard thing to accept a page like that but your page has given me alot to consider when dealing with these women. How lucky I was to be sheltered.
I even get along with the males some of you would crucify.
Comment by julie — Mon 20th November 2006 @ 3:41 pm
In such circumstances I have been glad to possess the foresight to activate a digital camera before entering a high risk environment - unfortunately, whether or not such evidence may be admitted to court can sometimes be driven by the personal preferences of a particular judge.
Which is to say, the audio/video record I made served only to prevent my own conviction for assault - given the evidence disproved it after witnesses perjured themselves - and would not be considered for a charge of assault against my attacker.
Do consider such evidence as a silver bullet - is all I can suggest.
Comment by Kai — Mon 20th November 2006 @ 10:39 pm
If a woman is abusive, leave her and the kids forever. Just walk right out the door and don’t come back. get on with your own life. Do you think looking after kids on your own with no support is fun in the long term?
Comment by kavika — Tue 21st November 2006 @ 10:25 am
Kavika,
No, it is not fun. It is horrible. But what is the worst part is that NZ doesn’t show us how to be women. It just keeps fighting for our rights.
NZ just tells us women that we don’t have to put up with men, that we are so great and then it gives us a benefit from WINZ so we are financially able to care for our children. And then we have nothing. We hate men, they hate us and our children become a burdon that we come home to if we work or we are left with no direction as beneficiaries so we get ugly, drunk or stonned and CYFS come and take our children. Well at least then we have some sort of direction.
Kavika, are you male or female?
Comment by julie — Tue 21st November 2006 @ 2:31 pm
I will tell you another story of a single parent. She spent her time living in the NZ housing Corp down and out homes of South Auckland. The kids loved it as young children because there were heaps of other children to occupy them which would have made her also happy as they were out of her hair. She decided to start caring for others so she became a budget consultant to help the poorer people.
But then she step out (probably to care for her children) and married a very rich man who is a loan shark and they fly first class around the world on the exploitation of the poor.
Do you think deep down she is happy? Always know that what you see on the outside is not what is real.
Comment by julie — Tue 21st November 2006 @ 2:49 pm
MISTAKE I noted in my post.
I meant to say:
Do NOT consider such evidence a silver bullet - as I have found some judges to be very selective in what evidence they will admit.
Comment by Kai — Wed 22nd November 2006 @ 3:10 pm
Kai wrote:
In the United States, when the government collects evidence illegally against someone they’re prosecuting, it is considered “fruits of a poisonous tree” and is usually not admitted into evidence. If you are collecting surveillance footage to exonerate yourself, I believe that ultimately it would save you from jail (you might need to utilize the appellate courts if you run into some bone-headed judges, but you’re better off with the footage than without it). But if you obtained the exonerating footage illegally, the government may not be able to use it to prosecute someone else. The possible exception is if the government receives evidence collected illegally by someone who is not acting on the government’s behalf. I’m not sure how New Zealand law would address that.
John Dias
Founder, DontMakeHerMad.com
Comment by John Dias — Wed 22nd November 2006 @ 6:51 pm