Sharing gives freedom
Last Friday night I sat with some friends who know me well and told them how I had shared my story and to around 400 people. (Why do anything small?) It seems that after posting my story, I seem to have an extra spring in my step and I am more focused on life in general.Why is this? Well, basically I have been living a double life so to speak.
Friends, neighbours, people I work with and for, etc have no idea what happened to my family and that is because I felt so ashamed and embarrassed. How could this happen to me? What would others think? Who could possibly understand let alone believe me?
But while hiding this I had to make up something. This caused me pain because I didn’t want to lie to these people that I liked and needed. What if they one day found out I lied? How could they trust me? So instead I shared as little as possible about my family and talk about something else. I was basically functioning physically but emotionally a mess.
We can talk about the cost of money that is paid to lawyers which is important but it is not the only costs. These custody battles affect our thoughts and emotions and we can’t properly concentrate on our jobs or we just don’t seem to connect to life and people as we had. We don’t sleep well and of course we try to take the pain away through liquor or medication. Anxiety and stress take over.
Oh, the insanity.
But getting back to my point. Today, tomorrow and the next day I intend to hold my head up high and be real about myself to everyone because I realise it isn’t and wasn’t me but the system. And not only that but heaps of others are going through or have gone through the same thing.
It is still sinking in that in the year 2006 our leaders are destroying our families and the law which is supposed to protect us is harming us and our innocent children.
Dear Julie,
Hold your head up even higher when you orate through the megaphone in front of a State funded abuser of children on Sunday.
Hold your even higher as we take the demonstration to the Police via Louise.
Violence, Bias, Discrimination and worse of all Systemic and Judicial whitewashing is totally unacceptable, I for one will carry forward to protest on behalf of Louise v Police.
Mid 2004, I was informed about these 4 players (all found not guilty), there is a fifth.
This has to be the worst kept secret of all time.
Justice needs to be seen to be heard.
Kindest Regards Paul
Comment by paulc — Sat 29th April 2006 @ 1:44 am
YO!,
MEGAPHONE therapy
Stand tall
Jim
Comment by JimBWarrior - HandsOnEqualParent — Sat 29th April 2006 @ 7:50 am
Dear Paul and Jim,
I think what you are doing is a brave and wonderful thing. You speak loud and that is needed.
WINGS TO FLY
Ponder on the lives of men
What they do, where’ve they’ve been
Stop to question asking why
Some men walk, some must fly
I hear that men suffer longer than women and I have been told that is because women talk about it easier so deal with it faster. Maybe that’s because women speak 4000 words a day while men only speak 1000.
So the more support groups out there the better, I say. A load shared is a load halved.
Al D Rado and Stephen
I do understand now the importance of taping converstations.
Comment by julie — Sat 29th April 2006 @ 9:05 am