The best we can do for our children is show them love, show them respect, be there for them and teach them right from wrong. In a split family this can be very hard to ensure. As I am sure you are aware you can not control how your ex will teach your boy. All young men need a good stable male role model. You are that role model!!!

In todays world there seems to be so much that takes our children’s attention away from wholesome pursuits. I guess we need to be aware of what they are up to and set boundries. No means no and so on.

I wish all good fathers (and their children) luck out there in the world. especially the ones whos ex’s are trying to poisin their children against them. All this ends up doing is hurting the child and not the Father.

Much Respect
Andy

Nice words. And I think your grandmother was a very wise woman.

The hefty cost can today be measured in terms of youth suicide and the violence. Our prisons are full. We hear of extreme violence and murders every day thru the media. It sickens me when I hear yet another story about a gang of youths who attack and beat to death an innocent young man or woman.

I am seperated. I have one young boy. I care for him 50% of the time. I love him so much.

I dont want to see him beaten to death on the streets by a roving gang. I dont want him to become a member of a roving gang which would kill an innocent boy.

So how do I stop it Andy? What the hell can I do as a loving parent to ensure my little boy never becomes violent???

I cant lock him up to prevent him from being hurt. But maybe I can somehow prevent him from joining a gang and taking part in the violence we see today.

Dont get me wrong…he is only 10, and a damn fine boy who loves life, loves animals, has a good sense of humour and repects his parents, elders and schoolfriends.

I just want to keep him on this path. Got any advice?

Morris

“These feminists are asking for too much, they will soon learn that they can not have it all without some hefty cost. You have to be very careful what you ask for”

In a sense I think she was very right. It may work for some but from what I have witnessed it does not work that well for most. Men and women are built biologically different and wired differently for a reason. I think it is much better for men and women to work together than try to go it together separately.

In the same breath I know of single mothers who are doing a fantastic job and of single fathers who are doing a fantastic job.

Children do need a good solid female influence and a good solid male influence in their lives. How else will they learn how to relate to and respect both sexes?