“All it takes for Evil to win is for Good to do nothing”.
Part 5 (continued from Part 4, Wed. 30th June 2010)
(Like previously this story is not about the malicious mother (syndrome) since that is something I can’t do anything about. This post/story is part of exposing and dealing with the corruption of the Nelson FC and is only step 2 out of many more to come.)
(Continued). After my daughter and me not having seen each other for 2 years- because of the court having suspended contact and not allocated a hearing for that long, the judge now decided that: “there is no reason why the father can not have contact”, (meaning they admitted now that there was no reason (apart from the persecution of me) to have suspended contact to start off with), and ordered 10 sessions of counselling to reintroduce the child back with her father,
After a couple of sessions with the counsellor my daughter and me were back to normal again.
With stalling and excuses for holiday from the mother it took 5 month to complete all the sessions. Later after requesting a statement from the counsellor she advised that: “The sessions with XXX’s father were very very positive and that XXX loved seeing her father”.
The judge had also ordered 4 supervised contact sessions after the counselling before normal unsupervised contact would resume.
Now those supervised contact sessions went also very well with the 4 written reports from the supervisor saying things like: “XX is always keen to see her father, they spend their time together with great joy, when we pull up she’s out the car and cuddling, they have big cuddles when we are due to leave, she then proceeds to claim her dad’s undivided attention, she is always so happy to see him looking forward to each session, XXX tells her Dad she loves him” etc.
By now we had clearly documented 6 month of a relationship between child and father that was as good as it can be.
But then came the first day of unsupervised contact and that shouldn’t have been anything special since we previously have had 4 years of that twice a week that went all well.
When I tried to pick up my daughter from school she didn’t want to come and it turned out that she had in one week gone from loving her father to hating him (!).
The supervisor from the previous supervised contact who was to drop the child back to her mother after unsupervised contact commented in her report that the child had told her “Mum and the teacher were trying to stop her Dad from having the time with her”.
And all of the last 6 month of my contact had been under the eye of either the counsellor or at supervised contact and no negative evidence existed of anything I had done possibly being the cause of our daughter’s sudden change of heart and mind.
It was of course clear to all who were neutral what had happened: The mother had brainwashed the child into hating her father and as such had committed nothing less than emotional rape on her.
Long story short, a Short Fixture was scheduled and guess what the judge did? Did he at the very least order the supervised contact to resume, as one would logically expect? No. Surprise surprise the judge followed the strategy in tune with the previous blackmailing from CfC (see Part 4) that he had sanctioned, did his corrupt thing like previously and carried on with his persecution and suspended all contact again with the stupid reason given that “it was at the moment not in the best interest of the child”.
What ‘they’ had been waiting for was an excuse to “make me pay/get rid of me” (with the real result being: abuse of a child). And because I had given them no reason/excuse, the mother had simply decided to emotionally rape her own child to accomplish the obvious task that she and the court were after.
And you would think that because the counselling and supervised contact had gone so well up until then that a proper hearing would have been scheduled for the “very near future” so as not to loose all the good work done? No, because that was not part of their plan – so it took a whole (1) year until we had a proper hearing to try and address the issue and of course I hadn’t been allowed by the mother to see my daughter for all that time.
The residing judge from Nelson now replaced the judge from Wellington.
This new judge at least ordered supervised contact again even if just for the purpose of a section 133 report so that the report writer could observe my daughter with me.
I also ask the judge to order counselling again for our daughter and me for the purpose of reintroducing her back with her father like the last judge had done but surprise surprise he said that he could only order counselling for the both of us if the other party agreed (and they didn’t) and I said that the previous judge had ordered it without the other party even being asked and he didn’t answer and changed the subject and I knew then that either he (!) or the previous judge had violated the law.
It became clear later that their plan was to resume supervised contact only for the purpose of writing a S133 report so that the court would have a psychologist (‘professional’) back them up (after being corrupted) and help them justify their decision to stop contact all together and get rid of me, even if it mend sanctioning the emotional rape of a young child by her psychopath mother.
Naive and hopeful as I still was then, I trusted that the psychologist/report writer would surely figure out what was going on and write so in her report but I didn’t count on how corrupt everybody really was.
So when the report writer interviewed me her second sentence was: The court CfC) has told me you are a monster (!!! – Report writer had 20 minute conversation with CfC before interviews, as listed in her report/timesheet).
(Dumb for her just to have said that hence always carry a voice recorder, secretly, even if not for the court then for the complaint to the Psychologists Board)
And two sentences later she said: “I will recommend to the court that no more physical contact between father and child should happen”(???!!!!!!!!!!).
She said that before she had even interviewed our daughter (or observed father and child together).
Then she even tried to talk me out of having supervised contact (the interview was before supervised contact restarted) because it would not be good for my daughter because she clearly hated me so much “ra ra” and because my head was spinning by now I said I would think about it.
It became clear to me a day later that this had been part of the strategy of CfC that he had talked to the report writer about because he had wanted (see blackmailing) that no more contact whatsoever occur.
The report writer then send a letter to court asking for my consent for cancelling supervised contact but she lied to the court by saying that cancelling supervised contact had been my idea, and gave me credit for being so considered…ra ra. She of course lied so that she couln’t be quoted later on having disagreed with the judge’s original suggestion of reinstating supervised contact.
So supervised contact started again but nothing I tried seemed to change the attitude of my daughter towards me permanently and it was clear to all the neutral people involved what really was happening.
(Most people at the Supervised Contact Agency CARE Solutions in Nelson became neutral (after initially not seeming so) ones I told them the story about my discovery of the first CfC’s serious conflict of interest for over 3 years and the court having swept that fact under the carped and the consequent persecution of me for wanting justice and therefore the court being exposed as corrupt)
But one or two people at CARE Solution I am sure worked together with CfC/court because they told lies about me to the court, invented stories and tried to give me a bad name. (CfC surely had talked to them like he had to the report writer and everybody else who had something to do with my daughter and me e.g. first report writer (see part 1), Counsellor, schoolteacher etc.)
So a 2-day hearing was next on the list and this time it didn’t take 22 month of waiting for it like a previous one. 2 month later it was all on and I tested the court on the issue of whether they would postpone the hearing again like they had done previously because a complaint about CfC was presently before the court, but this time they didn’t delay it so it was clear that the court had broken the law on the first occasions and that they had used that just as an excuse to delay the hearing and suspend the consequent contact for as long as possible (over 2 years).
The judge then at the hearing, as expected, stopped all physical contact between my daughter and me for the foreseeable future.
The only contact allowed is by writing letters, email etc. and twice a year supervised contact for her birthday and Christmas none of which my daughter will attend because she has been brainwashed into hating me (Self-pity is not an issue for me).
BTW, I also put two official written complaints to the court about the report writer and CfC and got confirmation from the court that they received those complaints yet the judge violated the law of court again by simply ignoring those complaints completely.
And because the judge sanctioned and encourages the emotional rape of the child by her mother, he therefore is guilty of it him himself together with the other two judges, the two CfCs and the last report writer.
NOBODY ABUSES MY DAUGHTER AND GETS AWAY WITH IT.
After all that is part of my responsibility as a father and I take that responsibility very seriously.
I haven’t even changed into 3.gear yet and just got going in 2. (2. Gear is a bit tedious but 3. gear will be a lot more fun (5 Speeds!).
A few nice quotes to finish off with:
If you always put limit on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them. B.L.
A fight is not won by one punch or kick. Either learn to endure or hire a bodyguard. Forget about winning and losing; forget about pride and pain. Let your opponent graze your skin and you smash into his flesh; let him smash into your flesh and you fracture his bones; let him fracture your bones and you take his life. Do not be concerned with escaping safely – lay your life before him. B.L.
All 5 parts of the presentation of the corruption of the Nelson FC here are compiled together at: standupforkidsnz.blogspot.com
Cheers to everybody at MENZ.