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Fri 30th March 2012

Pussy Pass for Emily Toner

Filed under: General — Ministry of Men's Affairs @ 9:10 am

Well folks, who can guess what happened in the case of Emily Toner, the crown prosecutor who nipped out from Court to visit the supermarket where she deliberately concealed and stole $199 worth of groceries, and on this occasion was caught? Yep, you guessed it, DISCHARGE WITHOUT CONVICTION!

It’s reassuring to know that our legal profession can now retain the valued membership of a thief and that she will be able to continue prosecuting men, the truly bad criminals, for such dastardly crimes as waving at their children passing by in a car.

Ms Toner gave the excuse of an eating addiction that made her do it and the Court appears to have seen that as sufficient excuse. So maybe we can now expect gamblers who steal to get more money to put into pokie machines to have sufficient excuse too and to be discharged without conviction for their thievery. Well, yes perhaps, but you can be sure the Court’s mercy will only be extended to female gamblers, especially if they are also lawyers.

Similarly, most other human conditions that are accepted by Courts as mitigating factors when they affect women are seldom recognized when it comes to men’s behaviour. So when a father reacts with aggression or a minor breach of a protection order, his deep grief at having his relationship and contact with his children wrecked through false allegations is generally dismissed as a mitigating factor. The recent NZ reduction in the legal significance of provocation was based on the attitude that men should not be rewarded for any loss of self-control.

Isn’t it good to know that our Courts can still find ways to excuse women for nearly anything?

Thu 29th March 2012

Pets as Pawns in Patriarchal Power and Pontrol

Filed under: General — Ministry of Men's Affairs @ 10:29 pm

FYI, my letter to Radio NZ:

Dear Radio NZ

Regarding your story yesterday (Wednesday 28 March) on the ‘study’ about Pets as Pawns in domestic violence, I considered nominating Radio NZ for the Skeptics ‘Bent Spoon’ award for gullible, uncritical acceptance and reporting of dubious claims. (more…)

Mon 26th March 2012

Parents Who Have Successfully Fought Parental Alienation Syndrome

Filed under: General — MurrayBacon @ 7:24 pm

Dr. Jayne Major’s article gives many useful ideas. The comments it makes about caught$ are probably somewhat unrealistic to hope for in NZ, as many “judges” in NZ, are too slow to deliver much useful action…..

Parents Who Have Successfully Fought Parental Alienation Syndrome
by Jayne A. Major, Ph.D.

Nothing stirs up passions more than the controversy generated when parents are at war over the custody of a child. A controversy is an issue where evidence on both sides can make a compelling case. It is never black and white, but when people have their emotions aroused, an issue can quickly turn into two polar opposites. Fear takes over reason, incomplete facts become evidence, and court calendars become jammed with repeat visits to a judge to try to bring sanity to what is unlikely to ever be sane. On top of this, social movements are promoting one side over another in their clamor for justice. Politicians are lobbied to pass laws to bring order to chaos. Gender wars are fueled and lives are destroyed.

My exposure to custody wars came from the mothers and fathers attending my Breakthrough Parenting® classes at The Parent Connection, Inc., an agency that I founded in Los Angeles in 1983. Many of the parents in my classes were litigating over child custody. Most said that they wanted to settle the case, but none of them would settle by giving up all access to their child, which seemed to be the only other alternative open to them. It was disturbing to see that in many of these cases, the child was behaving outrageously, to the point of cursing one of their parents, and kicking, spitting, and calling them stupid, mean and horrible.

What can you do when one parent is intractable and vitriolic? What can you do when the child becomes caught up in the fight and starts taking sides? I came to realize that this level of conflict in custody disputes was a fallout from sweeping societal changes.

Thu 22nd March 2012

Perspective on Conflict of Interests

Filed under: Gender Politics,Law & Courts,Sex Abuse / CYF — MurrayBacon @ 12:35 pm

Conflict of Interest can be a touchy subject, but it is very important that we keep in mind the consequences, or potential consequences.

Resignation Announced

NICK SMITH: “I have made not one error of judgement but two in dealing with a conflict of interest.”

Embattled MP Nick Smith has resigned all of his Cabinet portfolios.

The MP for Nelson has been embroiled in a controversy over a letter he provided to friend Bronwyn Pullar while he was still ACC minister which was used to advance her ACC claim.

“I made not one error of judgement but two in dealing with a conflict of interest in respect of a friend,” he told Parliament this afternoon.

He said doing the letter was an error and ‘more so” doing it on ministerial letterhead.

Wed 21st March 2012

Whats happening with the proposed changes to Child Support

Filed under: General — Scrap_The_CSA @ 8:05 pm

From the Hearld Online

About three years ago the Government began a review of child support legislation, with all sides of the debate agreeing that the law is unfair, inflexible and causing many families serious harm. Last year a bill emerged, but there seems little enthusiasm to make progress and it is in 49th place on the parliamentary Order Paper as it awaits a first reading before being sent to a select committee for consideration. To be fair, the new law is not due to come into force until 2013, so it is not exactly urgent. But there is some suspicion that the bill is being kept on the back burner because IRD won’t be able to implement it if it does enter the statute books. John Key has already noted that the IRD’s ageing computer system needs a $1 billion upgrade.



Separated or Together Parenting

Filed under: Boys / Youth / Education,Gender Politics,General — MurrayBacon @ 11:47 am

John Potter made the following comment: http://menz.org.nz/2012/triple-p-parenting-or-pet/comment-page-1/#comment-730030

It seems to me that the dynamics of parenting as a couple are quite different to how it is if you are solo. It’s not clear to me how well PPP addresses this issue.

John has made the distinction between solo and separated. Another very important comparison, is together or separated parenting.

This is an important distinction, in that a much greater set of better developed skills is required to separated parent well. By the very fact of aiming for separation, there is a prima facie case that one or both parents lack this higher level of parenting skills. (To pour petrol onto the fire, I might suggest that more hazard generally comes from the party suggesting separation?)

Tue 20th March 2012

15 year old Hamilton false rape claim

Filed under: General — Vman @ 7:54 pm


The alleged abduction and sexual assault of a Hamilton schoolgirl was a false complaint, police say.

The 15-year-old girl told police she had been forced into a car and raped while walking home from school on Durham St, Nawton on February 27.

Detective sergeant Robbie Hermann of the Waikato CIB said investigators re-interviewed the girl this afternoon.

“As a result of enquiries made into the allegations a number of inconsistencies in the girl’s account were identified and when confronted with these the girl admitted to police that she had made up the story and that she had not been raped as she had earlier reported.”

He said the admission was frustrating as it wasted police resources that could be better utilised helping the victims of genuine incidents.

“Many hours work that could have been spent on investigating genuine cases of child abuse have effectively been lost,” he said.

“In addition to that partner agencies and the girl’s school had worked to ensure her needs were being taken care of.”

Hermann said publicly highlighting the incident had inflamed public apprehension and fear.

Sun 18th March 2012

Mum punches cyfs worker

Filed under: Sex Abuse / CYF — Bruce S @ 8:09 pm

Taken from the “Stuff / Dominion Post” web site – 15 March 2012. “Pasted” in full here due to Stuff’s propensity to clean out the annuls of history.

Just to maintain a bit of balance; it’s not only dispossessed dads that get upset with the state grannies at cyfs. Seems cyfs can rile up mums to busting point as well.

Mother punched social worker at CYF office
Last updated 05:00 15/03/2012

A custody meeting at the Child, Youth and Family office in Palmerston North descended into chaos when a woman “lost control” and repeatedly punched a social worker after finding out that her children would not be returned to her.

Nadine April Hawea, 36, pleaded guilty to one charge of assault in Palmerston North District Court yesterday.

Hawea was at the CYF office in Church St on February 15 to regain custody of her 5-year-old son and 7-year-old daughter, the court was told.

The police summary of facts said Hawea became angry during a meeting with a social worker and her family lawyer, grabbing the social worker by the collar and repeatedly punching her in the head and body.

When the social worker fell to the floor, Hawea continued to punch her. The lawyer had to intervene to stop the attack. Hawea then walked out, leaving her victim lying injured on the ground.

The social worker needed two days off work to recover from extensive bruising to her arms, legs and right armpit.

Hawea’s lawyer, Richard Bedford, said his client arrived at the meeting only to find she had not completed the paperwork necessary to regain custody of her children.

“It was a terribly stressful time for her … and she simply lost control.”

Hawea was also on “really serious” medication for her health problems, Mr Bedford said.

Judge Gregory Ross remanded Hawea on bail to reappear for sentence in May and ordered her to attend an alcohol abuse rehabilitation programme.

Child, Youth and Family general manager of operations Marama Edwards said social workers were trained to manage difficult situations, but attacks on staff did occasionally happen.

The social worker in question was shaken and distressed by the ordeal, she said.

“It’s appalling that anyone can be attacked while carrying out their duties.”

The department had security measures in place to protect its staff, but she did not elaborate on what they were.

The department is already embroiled in a national security review, spurred by the rampage of Iraqi refugee Thamir Abdulridha El Mehdi, 49, who caused $2250 of damage at a temporary CYF office in Christchurch on November 7.

Wed 14th March 2012

Triple P Parenting or PET

Parenting training is often seen as an insult.

This is unfortunate, as parenting skills are vitally important to the welfare of our children. Good parenting skills would also help negotiating skills, which alas may also be useful in making the best from being forced to separate. Parenting skills help with negotiating, which can also help in being a good employee.

Mon 5th March 2012

The pernicous feminst ideology is the ruling ideology.

Filed under: General — Vman @ 6:41 pm

The NZ Herald has published an article on the best places to be a woman since it is/was 101st International Women’s Day.

18) Best place to leave your husband: Guam

Sureal double standard

Filed under: General — Vman @ 5:13 pm

I find this story rather sureal.

The situation seems to be that a family traveled willingly to another country. It is implied that the father then decided to stay in that country with his children and with the mother if she wishes. The mother was always free to leave at any time. The father has done nothing illegal under that country’s laws or under NZ laws. He has not done anything to harm the childrens’ relationship with the mother or to seperate them.

Fri 2nd March 2012

Where are help centres for male domestic violence victims?

Filed under: Domestic Violence — JohnPotter @ 8:58 am

On Tuesday, TVNZ ONE News screened an item: Male domestic violence victims speak out.

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