Oooh, Shock Horror, How Exciting, A Scandal! Auckland’s newly elected Mayor Len Brown confirms allegations made on the WhaleOil blog site that he participated in a 2-year extramarital affair with a younger woman who served on a council advisory board. This revelation immediately became the top news story around the country.
But how silly it is for people to be surprised. Our no-fault divorce system, demanded by feminists wanting to ensure that disloyal women still got their loot, tells us that it’s fine to be disloyal and that marriage now involves no real contract or commitment of any kind (except that you will allow yourself to be fleeced of your life’s savings by your disloyal spouse). Your Family Court fiercely protects the right of your spouse, especially if she’s a woman, to screw around, even to entertain the new beau in your own bed, without penalty of any kind. If you are a male and criticize her for this you will be the one treated as a wrongdoer, and of course if you so much as raise your voice in objecting to it you will be treated as ‘the violent party’, ordered out of your house either by the police through their affectionately called ‘safety order’ or by the Family Court through their dishonestly called ‘protection order’. Our laws now give partners and spouses a right to be sexually unfaithful and our Courts defend that right, treating extramarital fucking as perfectly acceptable and as meriting no punishment whatsoever. So it really is silly for anyone to be surprised when their partner screws around behind their back, or their neighbour or their mayor does it to their partner. The law promotes this stuff.
MoMA says that extramarital sexual behaviour should be a criminal offence, and so should sexual behaviour knowingly with a married person.
MoMA says that the penalty for these offences should not be severe, perhaps a maximum fine of $500 to $1000, but the law should make it clear that such behaviour is not condoned.
MoMA says that extramarital sexual activity causes significant harm, both to the cheated spouse and to the children who are at high risk of losing their family as a result. The harm is serious, ALMOST ALWAYS involving:
- sleep disturbance
- loss of trust in others
- damage to self-esteem
- reduction in work or school performance;
- clinical depression or other mental illness
- development or exacerbation of alcohol and/or substance abuse
- behaviour involving poor self-care or risk to self;
and SOMETIMES involving
- serious self-harm
- suicide attempts
- successful suicide
- violence to others
- harm to children.
MoMA says that the harm caused by marital disloyalty is much more serious than many behaviours now considered to be domestic violence and punished by our Courts.
Many laws are designed to stimulate change in the population’s behaviour towards a better norm, so why don’t we have any laws that promote respect for marital vows and a marriage contract? Why don’t we have any laws designed to protect as many children as possible from the emotional harm caused by parental separation? Why don’t we have any laws aimed at promoting family stability or ethical partnership behaviour? The answer mainly lies in the F word. MoMA calls for such laws, urgently.
We make a few other comments about Mayor Brown’s scandal:
(i) The WhaleOil author acted like a White Knight Prat by refusing to publish the name of Mayor Brown’s ‘other woman’. She was subsequently identified by other journalists through careful deduction and named as Bevan Chuang. Bevan Chuang. Bevan Chuang. Bevan Chuang. Bevan Chuang. Bevan Chuang. Bevan Chuang. Bevan Chuang. Bevan Chuang. Beware all men.
Ms Chuang spoke to the Herald last year about seeking a sperm donor to help her make a ‘dragon baby’. She said at the time she was desperate to have a “dragon baby” – and determined not to let the fact that she didn’t have a partner hinder her plans.
The Hong Kong-born woman was seeking a donor to give her a child through artificial insemination.
This shows Ms Chuang to be self-serving, self-entitled and disregarding of her proposed child’s right and need to have a father in his/her life.
MoMA would outlaw all forms of deliberate conception or attempts to conceive in the absence of a stable partnership in which both parties agree to the pregnancy.
(iii) Ms Chuang was reported as having prepared a ‘sworn affadavit’ claiming to describe her affair with Mayor Brown in intimate detail, and it appears she took it to news media. This appeared designed to cause maximum harm to Mayor Brown and his family. Although we don’t know the reason she did this, her actions showed her to be a thoroughly horrible, selfish woman. Such behaviour is often tantamount to extortion (e.g. “If you don’t leave your wife for me / make me pregnant / pay me I will punish you…”) but rarely treated that way especially when done by a woman. MoMA would treat Bevan Chuang’s vindictive actions as an aggravating factor in her crime of sexual behaviour with a man she knew to be married.
(iv) News media have already focused on Mayor Brown’s behaviour as scandalous and immoral without holding Ms Bevan Chuang responsible for her own choices and participation. This is typical especially in this gender configuration, women being treated as though they were children incapable of making their own decisions or of understanding the moral impropriety of their behaivour. Or alternatively as having some other excuse.
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