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MENZ Issues: news and discussion about New Zealand men, fathers, family law, divorce, courts, protests, gender politics, and male health.

Thu 27th February 2014

Female Teacher sleeps with boy student – No Jail?

Filed under: General — Lukenz @ 4:03 pm

Story here http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2568580/Woman-schoolteacher-love-schoolboy-led-bed-narrowly-dodges-jail-sentence.html

What would of happened if this were a male teacher?

Looking forward to a Judge applying the same sentance to the next male teacher.

Wed 26th February 2014

Father murder/suicide

Filed under: General — Maggie @ 3:50 pm

Obviously no one could possibly condone the tragic event of Ed Livingstone and his children. In the NZ Herald’s publications highlighting the shortcomings of this father over the past 2 days, and also in all the other reporting since this dreadful event took place I have been unable to find a reason for the protection order – sure there has been statements about breaching the PO but can we please go back a step – can someone enlighten me as to the reason for PO in the first place – and were accusations ever proven? This to me is where the crux of this matter lies. I am a grandmother and have seen first hand the damage that can be done to children and fathers by vindictive women whose only ‘reason’ for PO is that ‘I am scared’ no proof required – not good enough I’m afraid too much damage results – everyone has their breaking point.
My story fortunately has an happy outcome – my son now (after 8 yrs) has day to day care of his children.
Maggie

Mon 24th February 2014

and news just in from the UK

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 7:40 am

Unbelievable: It has just been revealed by the Guardian newspaper that the male suicide rate is 3 1/2 times that of the female suicide rate in England.

Of course I am not suggesting that the rate of male suicide is unbeleivable, it is a headline that contained not only the word

Male

or the word

Suicide

You’ve spotted it too haven’t you?

OMG! The words …

Male and Suicide

… appeared in the same headline. (more…)

Sun 23rd February 2014

Being a Step-parent

Filed under: General — Mikey @ 4:47 pm

I am certain that many of you on this site have moved on, having met another woman and have embarked on the journey of step parenting.
Your new woman shares responsibility with her ex partner to raise her children, but where in the equation do you as a step parent fit in?
We have read about permissive parent in one of the posts recently and often this is so true in most situations. Your new partner may be on a mission to compete with her ex partner to be the better parent. So the children get to spend countless hours playing playstation or having excessive long showers etc. etc. and nothing is said.
As a step parent you may feel that you want to co-parent with your new partner, but you may feel like you have a gagging order. Not only are you made to feel like you have no rights by your partner, the child may too tell you that you are not their parent.
Any views on this?

The dribbling rant of Billy Bragg

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 8:46 am

The confused male

In the world of show cases and clebrities there are as many confused males as there are females. If you hold this guy up against some ball swinging singer, he is no more and no less confused about what his role is in society, is meant to be, or should be.

I feel truly sorry for those people reading the confession of Billy Bragg, believing that men are the lost souls of earth that cannot define themselves, understand themselves or what is happening around them, and should accept that they are contemptible and wrong because they in any way reject what confronts them.

Of course the elephant in the room here is feminism. Women have already begun their journey across the landscape of gender and, persevering against great odds, they have made significant progress over the past century.

‘The elephant in the room’? pssst – he just called feminism an elephant.
At least he got that right.
‘The elephant in the room’? or the white elphant wallowing in self interest.
‘The elephant in the room’? or the contrary pink elephant destroying room after room as the wallpaper is wrong.

‘The elephant in the room’? Well, yes it is, but this fellow can’t tell what colour it is, let alone whether it’s a circus animal or a lost animal.

We don’t need these sort of apologists leading some redefinition of men, blissfully acknowledging the failing cause of feminism, offering up centuries of progress to selfish abandone, and shouting acolades to the blossoming pitiful piture that is the canvas of modern woman.

Have a read, but have a bucket handy.

Wed 19th February 2014

Defamation from Feminists is a Serious Crime

Filed under: General — Ministry of Men's Affairs @ 10:53 pm

We Understand How Colin Craig Feels. We don’t necessarily support his politics. We don’t know whether he gives a damn about the harm done to men, though he probably recognizes the harm to families that has resulted from the denigration of men.

However, those who speak up about men’s issues know what it’s like to be treated the way Colin Craig was treated by Russel Norman in a speech to the merry makers who could find spaces between the many politicians ensuring they were photographed at this year’s Big Gay Out. Russell Norman misrepresented Colin Craig, falsely stereotyping him as a hater of homosexuals and repressive of women. For all the reasons one might find fault with Craig’s politics, they do not include such positions and he has not expressed or lived the opinions Norman claimed he held. (more…)

Tue 18th February 2014

Take note NZ Family Court Judges ….

Filed under: General — golfa @ 9:48 am

This is how you do it. It’s quite simple really, it just requires opening your eyes and ears.

http://www.theguardian.com/law/2014/feb/17/mother-permissive-parenting-court-custody-battle

Sun 16th February 2014

Media Bias Concerning Family Court

Filed under: General — Ministry of Men's Affairs @ 12:17 pm

The injustice shown to men over the decades since the inception of the Family Court and the abuse done by that Court to children’s relationships with their fathers (and therefore to the children themselves) have been largely ignored by our media. Exposure of the Court’s sexism against men relied mainly on individual men’s letters to the editor that were often not even published, and if they were the paper would often arrange for an article to appear in the same edition reporting unsubstantiated claims by some male-hating group such as Women’s Refuge. Publicity was occasionally given to fathers’ protests outside Family Courts and Court workers’ homes but focused more on the complaints about protesters’ behaviour than on the concerns driving the protesters. On the rare occasion that news media gave voice to fathers’ concerns and experiences the stories would always include comments in reply sought from feminist spokespersons. (more…)

Sat 15th February 2014

Blackmailed Man Commits Suicide

Filed under: General — Lukenz @ 8:14 am

Story here.

http://www.stuff.co.nz/national/crime/9724858/Blackmailer-rues-her-actions

Angie Rose Wilson your actions have led to the death of this man.

What ide really like to know is did you plan the consensual sexual relationship in order to make some cash from the outset or did you come up with a the plan afterwards?

I am surprised you didn’t call your prostitution rape like some do. I’m guessing you thought it best to try the blackmail path first and you didn’t get the chance to execute the false rape complaint because he killed himself.

OK so you say you are sorry now. But if you really are you would recall the decision and ask for a custodial sentence. A few months on home detention sitting in front of the TV plus a couple of weeks PD in exchange for a dead man. I think you got real value for your deeds.

Seems the Judge thinks you selling your body in exchange for money and threating all sorts of malice is equal to your crime. I do not.

My thoughts and support is for the victim and all the male victims of these sorts of crimes who continue to have the lives belittled by unequal punishment.

Fri 14th February 2014

What a balls up!!!

Filed under: General — triassic @ 11:01 am

If you have the balls take a look at this UK add…… click here

Thu 13th February 2014

Scollay’s Murder of her Husband is Excused

Filed under: General — Ministry of Men's Affairs @ 10:05 pm

This case really hits home how little value is given to male victims of women’s violence, and indeed how little value is placed on men’s lives. It also highlights the sexist double standard in our justice system, in this case allowing a de facto partial defence of provocation in the case of a female murderer even though this defence was abolished for men several years ago. (more…)

Tue 11th February 2014

Registrars Review…….?

Filed under: General — V.O.F.M @ 6:41 am

Hi There,

I have a review scheduled in mid February and am not sure what this process is for? what can i expect? what do
i need to do to prepare? A LFC has been appointed but i dont know who? and as yet i have had no contact from them
about what happens next? I do not understand the process so if anyone can help i would be greatful

Karen Woodall on parental alientation

Filed under: General,Law & Courts — Ken @ 5:47 am

Uk writer and separation specialist has got a good series of articles on parental alientation and ways you can work to reduce it’s impact.

http://karenwoodall.wordpress.com/2014/01/29/when-children-reject-you-using-empathy-to-challenge-the-alienation-process/

Fri 7th February 2014

Bill Roache – Nightmare is Over! But Is It?

Filed under: General — Lukenz @ 5:08 am

The headline suggests the guy can return to work and live his live as a free man as nothing has happened. The producers, directors, ITV Grenada will allow Bill to carry on playing the part of Ken Barlow working down at the studio as he once did. – Like hell.
(more…)

Thu 6th February 2014

Sexualisation of Girls – impacts on boys?

Filed under: Boys / Youth / Education,Gender Politics,General,Men's Health — MurrayBacon @ 10:38 pm

There has been discussion about commercial forces using sexualisation of girls for manipulation to increase sales of low intrinsic value products.

Melinda Tankard Reist has given public presentations at Forum on the Family, her book Getting Real: Challenging the Sexualisation of Girls and a Sydney Morning Herald article Sex sells, but we’re selling out our children.
(more…)

Proactive, Passive, By Chance, or Destructive Government Management of Child Abduction?

Filed under: General,Law & Courts — MurrayBacon @ 1:42 pm

I suggest that any Government’s management of social issues can be evaluated on the continuum:

Destructive, By Chance, Passive, or Proactive Management.

In the UK, the Government partially funds a charity called Unite, which advocates for abducted children and parents left behind by abduction. This funding allows limited research to be carried out into the effects of abduction on the children and on left behind parents.
(more…)

Anger is not an emotion

Filed under: Domestic Violence,Gender Politics,General — Downunder @ 1:14 pm

BBC Article

A study using the reaction of facial muscles indicates that humans have only four emotions that display themselves as happiness, sadness, irritation and fright.

The previously accepted 6 emotions theory is being challenged.

There is a significant factor here that will agravate feminists. Irritation would be a sliding scale where the same face expresses levels of disgust through to anger, and fright likewise has the same muscles expressing surprise and fear.

We are no longer angry looking men , just disgusted at what we see women doing.

Is this judge lying through his teeth?

Filed under: General — MurrayBacon @ 8:33 am

UK Guardian: Courts will not give up on girl abducted by mother, judge warns
Judge issues warning two years after Humma Dar disappeared with daughter Aamina Khan after girl’s father was given custody.

It is well known in legal circles, but a carefully manipulated secret from the working public, that most child abductors (85%) are the mothers of the children.
(more…)

Wed 5th February 2014

Men’s Issues move into mainstream in Canada

Filed under: General — MurrayBacon @ 9:09 pm

Barbara Kay: Ryerson drags men’s issues group through the wringer
February 4, 2014

It’s happening again. Yet another Canadian university is making life extremely difficult for a group that brings awareness of men’s issues to institutions of higher learning.
(more…)

Mon 3rd February 2014

The new law is this

Filed under: General — Mikey @ 3:43 pm

If you can prove to the courts that you have been excluded from raising your child in any way or form by the custodial parent, then that custodial parent has no rights to funding from the non custodial parent.

A little bit about my history.

Not only was I excluded from having a parental say when my one daughter got a tongue piercing at fourteen, having shaved her head on the one side and pink on the other with stretchers in both ears and my other daughter with purple, then bleach white hair, with facial piercings, I had no say when they quit school at sixteen after having failed at school the year before either.

You can image how I was fuming! This would have been quite a normal reaction.

Fathers who do not get a say in bringing up their children should not be expected to pay.. It’s about honouring both parents. Period.

Sun 2nd February 2014

Stalker

Filed under: General — Mikey @ 10:53 pm

Some of you may remember me. I am the dad that wrote about parent alienation, three years ago. Two of my daughters were at the stage of not wanting to see me, so instead of loosing all and being hunted down by the IRD like a pig on the chase, I left for Australia to build a new life for myself. It took a year for me to overturn the CAPS order that the ex had placed on my kids passport, so that my youngest at least could come and visit. These CAPS orders can be placed within a day, but to remove them takes months. You need a lawyer for child and a court hearing.
Anyway, I have moved on. My daughter sees me every holiday and she has integrated well into my new family. My older daughters have never come right.
I haven’t seen a photo of them over three years. Every attempt of contact or goodwill has been met with hostility.
I find myself stalking the internet through friend of friends to see a glimpse of them, with no success. They go under pseudonyms and secret walls and when I ask my youngest daughter, she would protect them by honouring their privacy rights.
I am not the only one. There are many parents that are abused by their kids. Birthdays and Christmas’s are hard, especially when your call is rejected. You may be called by your first name or an arsehole, or worse, whilst their mother sits besides them and gloats.
I hope that one day the word empathy can bring meaning to them and I hope that one day their children will do the same, so that they know how much it hurts. It’s been years, I have lost count. I am dead to them and I have become the stalker, their father. I remember their young faces but that’s all.

Sat 1st February 2014

Increased reporting of sexual abuse of men in New Zealand

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 6:53 am

Stuff report open for comment

The headline may lead to the assumption that the article refers only to men abusing men

Clearwater said nearly half of the survivors he worked with had suffered abuse at the hands of women.

“It’s a massive problem, we need to get more support for men – we’re the only agency in the country that have been doing this work.”

It may also lead to the assumption that this is an increase only in historic reporting

Detective Senior Sergeant Mike McCarthy said men were now more likely to report sexual assaults – recent and historical.

“Most victims do not report sexual assault because of fear, shame and beliefs they will be blamed.”

Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse Trust national manager Ken Clearwater said there had been a big change in attitudes toward men as victims of sexual violence, including among police.

“We have guys that two or three years ago would have been laughed out of the police station.”

What exactly is the nature of female sexual abuse on men?
What type of abuse is being reported?

What one man accepts or thinks is normal female behaviour another man may consider abuse.

There must be information available somewhere (surely) that outlines what men should consider sexual abuse and for that matter what women should read as unacceptable behaviour.

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