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Wed 30th April 2014

US examines its Boy Crisis

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 3:36 pm

This is an interesting article published in the New York times – story here

The article looks at varying aspects of boys fitting into (in this case American) society and at the negative economic flow-on effects for a society failing it boys. It comes at a time when the US economy is falling substantially behind its Commonwealth neighbour Canada and they have an urgent need for self reflection.

‘We know we’ve got a crisis, and the crisis is with boys,’ said Elaine Kamarck, a resident scholar at Third Way and a former Clinton administration official. ‘We’re not quite sure why it’s happening.’


Father jailed on False Allegations

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 11:46 am

This article is found here at theantifeminist.com

(Transcribed from the original media report here which is in Spanish)

The Spanish Supreme court has acquitted a father accused of sexually abusing his daugther after a local court in Almeria had sentenced him to seven years in prison. The Supreme court heard the original trial had relied exclusively on the testimony of the 12 year old daughter, and ignored the statements from her brother, and from the girlfriend of the defendent, that the girl had confessed that her mother had told her to make a false accusation.

Now the Supreme Court, after reviewing the video of the trial, held last year, consider the testimony of the girl’s brother, 16, to be key, and who said that his sister confessed a year before the trial that the complaint was false and that she made it because her mother pressured her to. Another issue that the Supreme Court noted was the fact that the two children slept in the same room, for, according to the judges, the day on which the events took place in October 2009, the young man would have witnessed them for he used to spend all night at the computer and went to bed early in the morning. The girl had claimed that her father, in a drunken state, got into her bed and touched her breasts and slipped a finger into her vagina, at which time she woke up and upon denouncing him, her father left the room.

It would be interesting to know how much time this father spent in jail and whether any action has since been taken against the mother. Regardless, it would have had, and will still have, a horrendous impact on his life – the incident was alleged to have occured in October 2009 when the children were in the care of the Father and his girlfriend.

Trauma Imbalance

Filed under: General — Lukenz @ 1:30 am

Story here. http://www.nzherald.co.nz/nz/news/article.cfm?c_id=1&objectid=11245848

Notwithstanding the new ACC policy is gender neutral, I would like to compare what ACC provide for (an almost exclusive female applicant) who has either been abused or allegedly abused to what men receive in comparison to loosing access to their children.

It sends a very clear message that this country cares nothing men’s mental anguish but provides an open chequebook for counselling woman and their difficulties coping with life after trauma.

I would put it that the men suffer serious ongoing trauma when they are parted from their own children and they should have access to help just as woman do as above. Maybe that could help the extreme suicide imbalance in between the sexes.

I’m not sure if ACC still provides gratuity dividend for victims of alleged sexual abuse but I do recall when that service came into being the complaints went bezerk.

Men’s mental health is largely ignored not only in NZ but thought out the world.

Tue 29th April 2014

Typical reporting of DV in New Zealand ….

Filed under: General — golfa @ 10:27 am

Paul Simon and his wife Edie Brickell were BOTH arrested for Domestic Violence, yet reporter Bernadine Oliver-Kirby decided to only use Paul Simon’s name in the headline. Once again a distorted view is presented. Oh, it does say in the report that they were both arrested … if you get that far after reading the headline !


Mon 28th April 2014

Man Murdered in Christchurch

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 4:11 pm

A woman has appeared in court in Christchurch today on a charge of murdering a man at a residential address.

Details here at Stuff.co.nz

The 22-year-old appeared in the Christchurch District Court this morning charged with murdering an “unknown male” yesterday.

Court documents allege she murdered him “manually”.

I hope that wasn’t a bit of ‘detective humour’.

The names are subject to suppression orders but earlier reports in the Herald stated that a couple had recently separated and the father had left the house with their three children.

It has not been disclosed to date whether the father is the deceased or whether the deceased is another man; the same Herald report stated that the accused’s father had been at the address helping his daughter.

Update 30th April

Source here

Christchurch Police have launched a new scene examination as part of the homicide investigation.

The body of the man, whose identity has been suppressed, was found at an Earnslaw property on Sunday.

A 22-year-old woman has been charged with his murder.

Detectives and forensic experts this morning executed a search warrant on a address in Conference Street in the inner city where a scene examination is underway.

Detective Inspector Greg Murton says significant activity is believed to have occurred at that address resulting in the death of the man.

Sun 27th April 2014

new press release from parents 4 justice

Filed under: General — roo @ 7:33 pm

New press relaease from Parents 4 Justice.

“Family court lawyers advocating for shared care in high conflict parenting situations is an intentional bid to create future work opportunities for themselves” says Amy McDonald founder of Auckland based Parents 4 Justice.

The research suggests shared care under these circumstances is not in the best interests of the child and inevitably the child will become involved in the conflict.

“Yet court officials have the gall to blame this conflict on the parents. It should sit with the system advocating it – the family court” says McDonald.

McIntosh in her research on “Shared Care and Children’s best interests in conflicted separation’ published in the Australian Law Journal Vol 20 no 1 cites 21% of children from a sample study in conflicted families as having a higher than average rate of clinical anxiety and, a year after their parents had mediated parenting issues, remained in a high risk mental health bracket.

Stahl also identified the mental health of parents being an issue in high conflict families. In his research on “Personality Traits of Parents And Developmental Needs of Children in High-Conflict Families’ he notes many custody evaluators observe that most high-conflict families have one or both parents who exhibit either narcissistic, obsessive-compulsive, histrionic, paranoid, or borderline features.

“What is unbelievable is that this research is printed in law journals and family court practitioners such as psychologists should also be aware of the dangers of shared care in high conflict families but rather than negate the impact that such parents and/or such a situation has on the child the family court is putting children at risk by advocating for shared care. This is child abuse” says McDonald.

“When there is a history of poor communication and a lack of cooperation between the parties the last thing you should be doing is putting them in a situation such as co-parenting that requires both – you are setting them up for disaster and more court intervention” says McDonald.

McDonald cites shared care as being the courts money making machine.
Last year the family court spent $142 million dollars of taxpayers money. Forty two percent of the 65,000 applications heard each year in the family court are over contact, such as shared care.

“We are seeing a lot of clients who, despite it being obvious that shared care is not working, spend a lot of money trying to revoke it unsuccessfully” says McDonald.

Family court consumers can spend up to $30,000 taking such issues to a defended hearing which can take years and involve psychologists, expert witnesses and other professionals, all gainfully employed by the court.

“And we see the same names coming up when issues present, as though some of them are working in collusion with each other” says McDonald.
In 2008 a study conducted by the Australian National University of 5000 parents on the Child Support Agency register showed it makes no difference to children’s wellbeing whether they see the non-resident parent half the time or every second weekend. What counts is how well parents get on.

Parents for Justice is an Auckland based support group representing court consumers nationwide who deem their children to have not been served justice by the Family Court and advocate for parental involvement in a child’s life. They launched their own justice system this month, the same week that the new Family Court changes were announced. They profess that retraining lawyers to handle dispute resolution will not change the outcome of the process for consumers when they are not paid to shut down conflict but rather paid to exacerbate it. For more information contact them at info@parents4justice.co.nz



A Discombobulated Labour and The Red Fems

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 1:05 pm

We don’t normally go for words bigger than wheelbarrow or marmalade on this blog, but there was a call for a specific term, one that owns a little sophistication, to assure the so called ‘left wing elites’, that we understand the extend of their pain and suffering; the disorientation and confusion that they are dealing with as Labour looks for a way through the Shane Jones departure disaster, discussed in this previous post Shane Jones Leaves the Big Red L.

The aftershocks started with this dithering, ah, er, well, um, interview with Labour party president Moira Coatsworth and um, well, er, what she didn’t know about her party and the departing MP, and what she hadn’t been told was rather obvious – they’ve got a party president that exudes as much acumen and clarity as a headless chook on its last legs. (The idea that the Jones Boy has any chance of an on going relationship with Labour; that was comedy)

It couldn’t get much more embarrassing for Cunliffe’s caucus little bunch of cuties, (more…)

Female CTU President Distorts Truth About Workplace Deaths

Filed under: General — Ministry of Men's Affairs @ 12:49 pm

Tomorrow, April 28, is Worker’s Memorial Day. According to the Council of Trade Unions (CTU)

“Fifty-one workers were killed while they were doing their job last year”

This figure of ’51 workers’ will be misleading. (more…)

Sat 26th April 2014

Kelvin Davis – You Go Girl

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 5:03 pm

With the resignation of Shane Jones from the New Zealand Labour Party (discussed here in Shane Jones leaves the Big Red L)
naturally there is a vacant position in parliament for Labour to fill – it is filled by way on the next candidate on their list, Kelvin Davis, as reported here by the NZ Herald

Davis a man with a mission! (more…)

Fri 25th April 2014

MoMA Apologizes to ANZAC Soldiers

Filed under: General — Ministry of Men's Affairs @ 1:02 pm

On Anzac Day 2014 MoMA apologizes to New Zealand soldiers who served their country and its allies in World War I. The same apology is due also to those who served in World War II. (more…)

Thu 24th April 2014

Format of memorandum

Filed under: General — BF1972 @ 5:48 pm

Hi all

I currently have a matter before the family court, no LFC assigned (requested 1 month ago) and no Parenting Order in place. One of the children (14) has refused during a recent access to return to the care of the mother.
I have advised the FC and they request a memorandum or application for variation be made in support of the child remaining in my care. As we live in different cities there are issues looming around schooling and so forth.
Are there generic templates for a memorandum that are available that anyone knows of? I could apply for a new parenting order I know, but the cost to file and serve and to file in the original court is prohibitive.
The ex’s lawyer has requested an urgent judicial conference due to the child remaining in my care and no orders in place. Or just wait for the conference?
Any suggestions greatly appreciated!

Wed 23rd April 2014

Shane Jones leaves the Big Red ‘L’

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 10:46 am

Jones Boy
The undisciplined, waffling misogynist?

If the New Zealand National Party was looking for a break from the unrelenting pressure bearing down on them as a result of the Oravida Scandal (brought about by the actions of the current Justice Minister Judith Collins, although she has changed her story so many times, you could be forgiven for thinking she was Minister of Corrections) it came in the form of the unexpected departure of Labour MP Shane Jones, ditching his party for a government job with the Ministry of Foreign Affairs, as the country gears up for this year’s election. (more…)

Tue 22nd April 2014

Family Court Changes in England and Wales

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 5:12 pm

Sir James said: “Today marks the largest reform of the family justice system any of us have seen or will see in our professional lifetimes.

BBC article on Family Justice Reforms

Family Justice Minister Simon Hughes said for too long children had “suffered from excessive delays and confrontational court battles”.

“Our reforms will keep families away from negative effects of battles or delays in court and make sure that when cases do go to court they happen in the least damaging way,” he said.

Mon 21st April 2014

Are the USA running out of pussy passes?

Filed under: Gender Politics,General,Law & Courts — Bruce S @ 7:59 pm

“I hope you die in prison,” Michigan judge erupts on woman convicted of killing boyfriend.

JACKSON, Mich. – If a judge could throw the book at a woman, he managed to do so on Wednesday.

Not physically, but certainly by his stinging words. He had a lot of words for 31-year-old Camia Gamet, the woman convicted of killing her boyfriend Marcel Hill in March. Gamet claimed it was self defense and showed no remorse.

A First Degree murder conviction by law meant she would get life behind bars. Still, while family members spoke she would only roll her eyes and laugh, but Jackson County Circuit Court Judge John McBain would have none of it.

“You’re gonna shut your mouth or I’m going to have some duct tape put on it,” said Judge McBain.

A jury convicted Gamet for stabbing and beating to death Hill. Her lawyer argued she acted in self defense, because she claimed she killed an unknown attacker in a dark room. The judge wasn’t buying that and called it the worst cold-blooded murder he’s ever seen.

The prosecutor argued Gamet’s actions were premeditated and deliberate. She stabbed Hill 11 times and had a history of violence against him.

Hill told police in March of 2013 she hit him in the head with a hammer.

Family members say justice was served and they hope a lesson was learned about how abuse can come in all forms no matter the gender.

Can we finally begin to hope that we may see similar, proper justice without gender bias in a New Zealand court room sometime soon? Please?

View the video: http://www.theindychannel.com/news/video-judge-goes-off-on-convicted-killer

University Research Failing Men

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 11:59 am

Flyers published by the survey organisers have been ordered destroyed.

We have been aware for many years now, that universities around the globe have allowed biased research in their social science faculties by permitting the use of unethical research-methods, to promote the interests of women and the ideological interests of feminists; in particular research intended to support policy decisions at a central-government level aimed at providing funding to the women’s advancement industry. (more…)

Sat 19th April 2014

Pussy Pass for Judith Collins

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 10:00 am

Crusher Collins 2

The situation surrounding New Zealand Justice Minister Judith Collins and her use of a ministerial warrant and taxpayer funds to further her husband’s business interests in China has been boiling along for some time now and as late as last week Prime Minister John Key was still supporting his minister in the face of rising opposition and continued media pressure.

Collins’ involvement in the Oravida Scandal was discussed here in a previous post on New Zealand Women and The Glass Floor (more…)

Fri 18th April 2014

New Zealand Women and the Glass Floor

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 3:43 pm

Oravida's Milk Maid Sml

The concept of the glass ceiling.

The idea that there is an invisible barrier of prevailing attitudes that stop women and minorities reaching their potential or place an impediment in the way of their right to advancement, to reach a level of achievement that would otherwise be obtainable if they weren’t part of a particular group. (my definition)

You have to accept there is some validity to the proposal; there would be situations that discriminate against individuals because of bias relating to a particular person, what ever the foundation of that may be – it is human nature that we discriminate toward our own personal interests. (more…)

Feminism and Housing

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 11:37 am

We had a discussion (here) which essentially revolved around what contribution the DPB made to the current price of residential houses in New Zealand.

Whatever your views on the DPB, and regardless of the fact that there are some 100,000 DPB households spread across New Zealand I don’t consider that the DPB should be included in any explanation of the current high house-price situation we are experiencing. (That’s not to say, that the DPB should be excluded from arguments relating to housing or the cost of housing.)

Feminism has had a significant effect on housing in New Zealand but recognising this depends on where you hang your arguments. (more…)

Thu 17th April 2014

Sally Ridge loses court case

Filed under: General — Ken @ 3:19 pm

I’ve got to say I’ve always thought of Sally Ridge as a rather pointless creature but what has always stood out to me is the dignified way the fathers of her children have kept out of the limelight. I’ve always felt sorry for the elder daughter who seems to have fallen under the mother’s influence for publicity.
Let’s hope she realises what a great father she has had who has avoided getting drawn into her mothers webs.
Good to see the judgement going the reasonable way in this case.
But Sally Ridge’s current partner, he must be nuts.

Wed 16th April 2014

latest press release from parents 4 justice

Filed under: General,Law & Courts — roo @ 8:42 pm

Separated mothers and fathers need to unite in the best interests of the child

“Changes recently introduced to the family court merely moves the bill from the taxpayer to the user and will make the situation financially worse for parents” says Amy McDonald, founder of Auckland based Parents 4 Justice.

Recently Parents 4 Justice launched their own justice system.

“We are a group of family court consumers so we have first hand experience as to the injustices of the current system – we have walked the walk. The financial and emotional impact of involving many government departments in family issues, including WINZ, IRD, CYFS and the Family Court, is devastating” says McDonald.

“Parents are being caught in a whirlwind of activity with each trying to fight for their own position when what is needed is a rational dialogue with a third party as to the all needs of the child and who can accommodate each need” says McDonald.
The current system does not allow this dialogue, contact and child support are two separate issues in the Family Court yet one can severely impact the other.

“In addition to the Family Court changes many lawyers are also offering other dispute resolution alternatives including collaborative law. Our clients have had experience with lawyers who have retrained as collaborative lawyers. One rang a P4J client yelling at him that if he didn’t enter the court system he would have his child removed from his care. This behaviour is disgusting. Threatening parents that you will take their children off them because you don’t wish to go to court is anything but just, as is taking up years of their life and ten thousand plus dollars in legal fees to sort contact arrangements when you are trying to recover from the devastation that is divorce. Putting parents under this stress is not in the best interests of the child at all” says McDonald.

“To train in an occupation that advocates adversarial tactics to resolve conflict and is very lucrative financially suggests that these values are also your own, changing your job title from lawyer to mediator or collaborative lawyer will not change your nature” says McDonald.

Of particular concern for Parents 4 Justice is the number of men who are being caught in the system. “Suicide statistics in men post divorce are tragic” says McDonald.

In a one year period to June 2009 Judge Peter Boshier, the then Principle Family Court Judge, identified 22 people who died whilst involved in family court proceedings. Eighteen were suspected suicides.

McDonald speaks to many parents going through the family court and notes a common theme often raised. “I hear repeatedly that family court officials seem to have difficulty determining fact from fiction and are exascerbating conflict – for example threatening suing the other party for costs and refusing to let their clients settle at mediation advocating a $30k defended hearing instead. Lawyers are trained to determine fact from fiction so this suggests there is an ulterior motive at play, they are certainly not rewarded financially for ending conflict between parties. What I know to be true is that parents are employing lawyers yet are not being served justice – and neither are their children” says McDonald.

“Our concern with the new Family Dispute Resolution service is that lawyers will continue to exascerbate conflict between parents, from afar.
We advocate for the child, but support both parents in how to do the same with the resources they have available. We are especially interested in talking to men who may be having issue in the current system. What we really need to do is to get mothers and fathers working together at an emotionally charged time. Lawyers merely take advantage of this situation” says McDonald.

The family court last year spent 142 million dollars of taxpayers money. Forty two percent of issues were around contact, such as shared care.
Parents for Justice is an Auckland based support group representing court consumers nationwide who deem their children to have not been served justice by the Family Court and advocate for parental involvement in a child’s life. For more information contact them at info@parents4justice.co.nz


Sat 12th April 2014

Family court revamp….

Filed under: General — nzleagle @ 10:12 pm

As many of you would of heard, there is a new system now in place for Family court cases, focusing on Parents working together to get a solution, using the family court as a last resort.

I have been out of the court process for about 3 years now, and back in February I started looking into the least confrontational way of getting my parenting order back on track. Proposed an arrangement with my ex, which she said no way to, but said that I could see my boy when ever I am in town (He lives in Manawatu, Im in Auckland) It started off ok, with her letting me see him when I was in town, but quickly went downhill as everything else does. In the time that it took, the new system had kicked in.

The 3 years I was in court between 2007 and end of 2010, I was self represented, but when I started looking into the new system I couldn’t make any sense of it, there was nothing I could see that compelled my ex to take part, not to mention the hoops that you have to jump though to now get in front of a judge if they don’t take part. I found out that I was “Funded” so I booked time with a lawyer to find out how the new system works.

As it turns out I was the first client for the firm under the new system. Pretty much from the 2 hours I spent there (was supposed to be a 1 hour appointment but they were trying to work out what forms I needed to fill out so they could get paid.) I just confirmed what I understood from the website.

Brief overview of New System (To my understanding)

Separation/Disagreement about care of children – Both Parents take part in a Parenting though separation seminar (includes existing cases if the seminar has not been done in the past 24 months) This seminar is either 2 X 2 Hour sessions, or 1 x 4 hour session. The only sessions I have been able to find are during business hours, or Saturday mornings. So if there is only one provide in your area, it could take a number of weeks for both parties to take part as you can not take part together. The Seminar is supposed to teach you how to work together to take into account what is best for the child to reach an agreement on care of the child. However there is nothing that can force the other party from taking part. (But the court will not accept an application for a parenting order until you have a certificate saying you have attended, and taken part in Family dispute resolution Mediation.

After taking part in the seminar you should have the tools to be able to reach an agreement between yourselves, if you can’t, then you can take part in Family Dispute Resolution Mediation. Which is basicly a Mediation without Lawyers. If you earn more than $51,000/year expect to pay around $450 for this service. This is a two part process, the mediator will meet with each of you alone, and discuss your issues so they know what to focus on at the conference. Again there is nothing that can force the other party from taking part, if anything if they don;t take part, it will get you into court faster.

If you are unable to reach agreement, or only reach partial agreement at the mediation, the issues that can not be agreed upon are put in front of a judge, who will normally recommend a judicial issues conference, basicly a mediation with no lawyers, with a judge as a mediator. The judge can only approve a consent order at this stage. If there is still not agreement, Then the file is back into the traditional family court system well all know well…

At any time in the process above both parties can seek Legal advice (If you are earning under 51k then you can get legal advice for free) but a lawyer is not able to represent you, file documents for you etc unless Domestic Violence, Sexual abuse, or other high risk items are mentioned. If DV or SA are mentioned, then the file gets fast tracked into the traditional system.

I love the idea that there are no lawyers involved, but I can see it just been more hoops to jump though, and end of the day probably 90% of the cases that would of got into the traditional system, will still get there.

As I go though the programs I will endeavour to keep people updated with how it is working.

Fri 11th April 2014

Keep Your Eye on the Ball?

Every now and then, it is necessary to push aside all of the distractions and make sure that the main energy is focussed onto the most important issues.
It is necessary to identify actions that should have been taken place but didn’t, as much as the actions that did take place.
But what are they?

Wed 9th April 2014

UN Complains About Racism in NZ Justice System but Ignores Sexism

Filed under: General — Ministry of Men's Affairs @ 11:49 pm

A powerful UN group has been visiting New Zealand as reported mainly on radio, as described here and here. Unfortunately the NZ journalists didn’t spell the UN group leader’s name correctly.

MoMA sent the following letter to the UN and plans to follow up with some media releases concerning this. (more…)

Prosecution Quality versus Corruption and Incompetence

Filed under: Domestic Violence,Gender Politics,Law & Courts,Sex Abuse / CYF — MurrayBacon @ 11:13 am

Here is an article about a Washington State policeman, who was framed by his supervisor (who was also having an affair with his wife).

Clyde Ray Spencer article from National Parent’s Organisation website
Clyde Ray Spencer article from Glenn Sacks website

Washington State’s Wrongfully Convicted article from Seattle News about the investigating detective who found the evidence to exonerate Clyde Ray Spencer. There must be many cases which should be resolved, but where the evidence cannot be found 2 or 3 decades afterwards.

The cruellest point made in these articles, is that in almost every single one of these cases where exoneration has been the outcome, the perjurors have never been prosecuted or disciplined in any way.

This is a close echo of false complainants extremely rarely being prosecuted.

The other common thread, is prosecution not honouring the accused’s right to discovery of all information held by the prosecution, in particular information which might support a conclusion of innocence.

Jackie Blue Drops the Ball

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 11:02 am

Exposing the fraud:

Dr Jackie Blue Equal Employment Opportunities Commissioner at our Human Rights Commission is engaged in deliberate and provocative aggravation with advertising banners like this one below. “Wo to men” as the sign implies, gives us a clear understanding of the malignant attitude within the commission, one which is clearly aggressive to men. (more…)

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