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Sun 31st August 2014

IRD’s Genocide of Separated Fathers

Filed under: General — Lukenz @ 2:21 pm

IRD pursued David Sharp for unrealistic fees and late payments for child support payments. Indeed there are three male suicides the news article. Establishing a pattern perhaps.

Sat 30th August 2014

Research in Australia and New Zealand on shared parenting and related areas

Filed under: Gender Politics,Law & Courts — JohnPotter @ 9:15 am

Good Evening Everyone,

I am doing research on fathers, shared parenting, and related areas. I have been working on this area for about 25 years, mainly in Canada. I am now looking at the Global Shared Parenting movement and would like to do interviews with those in Australia and New Zealand. Please let me know if there are those you are in contact with who are interested in being interviewed.

Thu 28th August 2014

The Culture of Denial and Feminism

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 12:11 pm

When STUFF NATION put up their recent assignment, inviting writers to contribute to a debate on Equality in New Zealand (whether women have achieved equality in New Zealand society) I thought it might be interesting to look at this from the point of view of the background-role media play: whether media actually support equality of the sexes and which side of the equality debate they favour; accepting that equality is a collection of concepts as opposed to a defined word.

Media normally detest a culture of denial – it’s the noble cause of the journalist to be vigilant in the disclosure of truth for public consumption. In the face of war it can be somewhere between a challenging and fatal occupation, then at other times it throws up some interesting conflicts. (more…)

Tue 26th August 2014

Equality in New Zealand

Filed under: Gender Politics,General — Downunder @ 8:16 am

A Stuff Nation Assignment running at the moment – Are Women Equal in New Zealand poses questions about equality:

Maybe you think the fight for equality has gone too far the other way and it’s now men who are discriminated against in some areas…?

What do you think it would take, and what should we all be doing, for men and women to be seen as equals?


Mon 25th August 2014

Police abuse ‘No smacking law”

Filed under: General,Law & Courts,Sex Abuse / CYF — Julie @ 9:38 am

You see someone doing something excellent for people and then you see them hurting people ….. which matters to you?

Sun 24th August 2014

Tauawhi Men’s Centre

Filed under: General,White Ribbon Campaign — Downunder @ 2:48 pm

Tauawhi (Māori) to hug, embrace, support (one another)

Tauawhi Men’s Centre is located in Gisborne and its co-ordinator Tim Marshall has announced via STUFF NATION their intention to hold a hui – a hui promoting a men’s response to violence in Aotearoa. (more…)

Sat 23rd August 2014

Child Abduction

Filed under: Boys / Youth / Education,General,Law & Courts — Had_Enough @ 6:16 pm

My 15 year old daughter was taken to Canada by her mother a few months ago. The Courts allowed this because they allow mothers to do most things don’t they, but I don’t know where she is now.

Fri 22nd August 2014

A Feminist Party?

Filed under: Gender Politics,General — Downunder @ 9:08 am

When I saw this article the other day it confirmed my thoughts – the ones I’ve been sharing in recent posts – that we are now seeing an overt feminist political-position.

Internet-Mana is a feminist party. No I didn’t say that. They did.

Dr Pani Farvid, an Iranian-born psychologist at AUT, [The Party’s gender issues spokeswoman] proudly told a women’s election forum in Auckland last night that the Internet Party was “a feminist party”.

Any man in the party that had put his hand up for gender issues spokeswoman would have a big ‘D’ clearly visible on his forehead – it could only be a woman.


Wed 20th August 2014

2014 suicide figures released

Filed under: Boys / Youth / Education,General,Men's Health — Downunder @ 3:05 pm

Chief Coroner Judge Neil MacLean today released the provisional annual suicide figures for the year ending 30 June 2014.

The total for the year was 529, which is the lowest number by two since the annual coronial figures were first produced for the 2007/08 year. There were 12 fewer suicides compared to last year, and 29 fewer than the 2010/11 year, which was the highest annual number recorded in the last seven years.

Judge MacLean said, “while it is encouraging to see a slight drop in numbers, the overall rate is still stubbornly high and disappointingly consistent.”

Of the 12 fewer suicides (more…)

Tue 19th August 2014

Fathers Day Picnic BBQ at Ambury Park

Filed under: General — Brendon Smith @ 10:08 am

Join us on Fathers Day for a Picnic/BBQ at Ambury Farm, on Sunday, September 7th 2014, from 11am – 4pm

Father and Child Trust welcomes families and friends, come and enjoy the animal fun and lambing season.

Low cost sausages, drinks, steak sandwiches, ice-creams and coffee will be available.

Local music, community and dad support resources, all welcome, Happy Fathers Day!

Ambury Regional Park, Ambury Rd, Mangere, Auckland Ph 525 1690 for more info.

Mon 18th August 2014

Reproductive Rights For Men

Filed under: Child Support,Gender Politics — JohnPotter @ 7:05 pm

The September 2014 issue of M2 magazine features several articles about fathers, “just in time for father’s day”.

One that is likely to be of interest to MENZ readers is by family law researcher Zoë Lawton titled “The Rights Of The Father“.

Sat 16th August 2014

Who are the Red Fems?

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 12:10 pm

A comment from the post – Gendered Justice in New Zealand:

Tell us more about the red fems.
The way to sink em is to get women onside who see this too.
It must be said that all this “system” does is perpetuate and create violence rather than reducing it.

It’s a discussion we need to have. Who exactly are these Red Fems? (more…)

Fri 15th August 2014

A mention of thanks to two fine women.

Filed under: General — dunnuffinwrong @ 5:12 am

Three years ago I was newly separated in auckland and I joined the single parents trust. I wanted to see how other parents remained close to thier children after separation.
I found support and new friendships and the experience was extremely rewarding. My daughter and I joined in many exiting activities, well organised and without a shred of gender indiference.
An organisation where dads are valued and I highly reccomend it to any single parents.
Julie Whitehouse runs the single parents trust and regularly contributes to topics on this site.
I truely admire Julie as I wonder just how many other men she has helped.
THANKYOU ! Julie Whitehouse. ,

Another fine woman is Lee-Anne Cartier.
She is the sister of phil nisbit who was murdered by his wife helen milner.
Nz police had botched the investigation.
Cartier was tenacious and committed and after huge expence and effort managed to get the case reopened and Milner put to trial.
What a fantastic woman that she took on nz police and refused to be told to go away.
Her brother was murdered and she stood up.and got busy!
Nz police had written it all off as just another male suicide.
Lee-Anne Cartier…has changed the course of history and she did it, not just for her brother , but for all men who mightve been milners next victim.
Lee-Anne Cartier, Lee-Anne Cartier, Lee-Anne Cartier !
Im just so impressed with her!,

Feel free to add yours to the list ive started.

Thu 14th August 2014

The Suicide of Robin Williams

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 12:50 pm

If Robin Williams had been a New Zealander we would not be having a discussion about his suicide, and certainly not publishing the method of execution, but the law in the US state in which Williams died is exactly the opposite – police are required to release all the relevant details of his death.

The media restrictions in New Zealand and the limited discussion is something I have been critical of, but that’s another story; Robin Williams is American and beyond the media eulogies the subject of his suicide is being openly debated.

It’s not a bad thing, to rationalise and make sense of human tragedy.

So, what did kill Robin Williams? (more…)

Gendered Justice in New Zealand

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 9:51 am

I’ve seen women’s advocates in the Waitakere Court. They wander around the court like they own it and make the judge look like a clingon to the proceedings. When I saw a news article showing their direct influence in sentencing, I put up the post Women’s Refuge Justice System

I had been waiting for another such case to surface – which it has – and is posted under NZ Judge – Women’s domestic violence and anger ok

We have a tendency to classify such cases, especially within the justice system, simply as a pussy-pass which I have a problem with; not because I am sensitive about the comparison with female genitalia, but because we need to look more closely at the mechanics of what is happening and the likely outcome.

This needs closer analysis. (more…)

Wed 13th August 2014

NZ Judge – Women’s domestic violence and anger OK

Filed under: Domestic Violence,General,Law & Courts — Downunder @ 3:14 pm

This is a staggering article that brings to life the feminist philosophy that many people cannot accept exists in the Family Court.

Worse the article highlights the disparity between what would normally be considered intolerable domestic violence and what is increasingly being considered acceptable female violence. (more…)

Ripping your heart out through your wallet

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 12:24 pm

In the last post we looked at Robin Williams as a men’s advocate and his political messages.

Here is an article by Christopher Bucktin looking at Williams’ personal life and the cost of his two divorces. (more…)

Robin Williams – A Great Men’s Advocate

Robin Williams

Yesterday the world reeled from the sudden death of Actor/Comedian Robin Williams.

Today tributes will flow, and rightfully so, from all corners of the earth, from those who knew him and worked with him, to those who respected and enjoyed his immense talent – he was a rare talent that could seize any moment, and turn it into theatre and laughter.

He will be remembered for his many roles, his ability to own the part, to make them unique likeable characters that only he could create.

But beyond this is another Robin Williams, a modern day Charlie Chaplin – both of whom are notable, not just because of their fame, but their political positions. (more…)

Tue 12th August 2014

Child Support amendments delayed a second time

Filed under: Child Support — richardmills @ 1:47 pm

Child support overhaul delayed

Mickey Mouse Outfit

Revenue Minister Todd McClay announced today the first of the reforms in the Child Support Scheme Amendment Act would be delayed a year because of the “complexity of the reforms”.

“Inland Revenue has informed me… it needs more time to implement the new scheme to the high standard that the Government expects.”

It is the second time the changes have been delayed – the Social Services Select committee held back the changes so IRD would have time to adjust its systems.

I wonder if IRD will be forced to pay the government substantial penalty payments for being overdue in their service delivery.

I may contact the IRD Child Support team and advise them that “My newly assessed Child Support payments would be delayed a year because of the “ridiculous over-assessment of my real income”, and that “I need more time to raise my salary to the high standard that the IRD expects.”

Honestly, what a complete sham.

Lonely old men

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 10:08 am

For someone who has lived a lifetime with a loving wife they could easily hold the view that all women are loving honest souls – then later in life – finding themselves alone in their old age could easily become the victim of the less honest.

A woman has been held in custody following the alleged (more…)

Thu 7th August 2014

My real live dildo

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 8:07 pm

A female paedophile has been jailed for having sex with an eight-year-old boy more than fifty times.

That’s seems reasonable.

Loren Morris, 21, started sleeping with the boy five years ago
She continued doing it for two years, until the boy was ten
She was convicted of sexual intercourse with a child last month
Today she was given the two-year sentence at Worcester Crown Court

Loren Morris

Loren Morris

The judge in the case told Morris that he would be lenient with the sentence – which will see her released from jail after one year – because she ‘realised it was wrong’ and stopped having sex with the boy.

His batteries must have gone flat.

Judge Robert Juckes QC said: ‘I make no secret of the fact your case has given me cause for much consideration.

‘I have come to the conclusion that due to the concern and embarrassment caused to both you and your family that you will not be offending again, let alone committing sexual offences.

Is this a bit of a ‘pussy pass’?

Defence lawyer Antonie Mullers had told the court Morris was struggling to accept the facts of the case, and asked Judge Juckes to spare her a prison sentence altogether.

Didn’t we have a case where a female teacher had sex with a pupil and when it was found out the teacher committed suicide – that’s right, the coroner suppressed the details and it had to be removed from the site?

Universal Hot Crazy Matrix

Filed under: General — JohnPotter @ 2:42 pm

Any man considering a new relationship should watch this video attentively.


Homes for women and Refuges for men

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 10:58 am

The current election campaign may not be offering much in the way of policy for men, but it has brought a few more commenters to this site and some interesting posts from new authors – which is great – we need to be our own media sometimes, it is the only way some of these stories will be told.

The more participants we have, the more ideas that float around (even if we don’t all agree with each other) the more we think about the issues that face men in this country, at this time and in the future.

While some of us might be getting a bit long in the tooth to be much more than grumpy old men, it is good to see younger guys continuing the good fight. It’s been a long fight; decades of effort in fact.

Times are a-changing still.

Sometimes important information gets lost in the comments – like this comment from Phil Watts:

Wed 6th August 2014

Children’s Commissioner failing Vulnerable Children

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 3:39 pm

Child Youth and Family (CYF) have acknowledged that they did not conduct an investigation into the death of a 13 month old baby who died in a bath tub drowning in November 2012.

The story was first discussed here in the post multi-tasking manslaughter.

The victim’s mother was subsequently charged with manslaughter and found not guilty in October 2013.

A follow-up story by journalist Phil kitchin detailed the father’s frustration about evidence that was withheld from the mother’s trial.


ATTN: Male input requested for new political group Law & Order policy

Filed under: General — Mana Male @ 12:31 am

I don’t want to go into too much detail prematurely, especially without permission, but a new political group is in the formation stages and is looking for input on their law and order policy platform before registering as an official political entity.

If you have any ideas, keyword “ideas,” not rants, and can put them forward in a coherent way with added rationale, please contact me privately.

Basically, I’m asking you to share your thoughts on what changes need to be made, what policy needs to be implemented in order to make the legal system fairer for males, too.

Please write your proposed policy idea, and add a short paragraph about why it’s necessary. These will be added in with the other remits, and voted in within the next few weeks. If you wish to be contacted via email or social media, please leave your details in the comments.

We can’t say we’ve tried everything until we have a crack at this, too.

In solidarity

Mana Male

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