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Tue 11th February 2014

Karen Woodall on parental alientation

Filed under: General,Law & Courts — Ken @ 5:47 am

Uk writer and separation specialist has got a good series of articles on parental alientation and ways you can work to reduce it’s impact.

http://karenwoodall.wordpress.com/2014/01/29/when-children-reject-you-using-empathy-to-challenge-the-alienation-process/

4 Responses to “Karen Woodall on parental alientation”

  1. Ritche says:

    Hey thats great stuff! I’m going to court to face trumped up assault charges where my kids will be testifying against me as horrible as that sounds. Karens articles speak directly of how alienated children lie and how they are looking for a trigger event. I couldnt understand what was going on but this makes alot of sense.

  2. Belinda says:

    Yes this is great stuff, I really hope this information can be circulated and that it can be of help to the many targeted parents out there (of whom the majority I dare to say are Male). My experience is as the sister of a Man who was subjected to an extreme case of this, and witnessed first hand the severe emotional damage done to the child (and the father). The Police and Family Court in my view condoned and reinforced the behavior of the alienating parent, as apart from a slap on the wrist with a wet bus ticket she realized she could get away with pretty much what she wanted. I have been left disillusioned and angry with the system. The alienation did serve it’s intended purpose though, resulting in full custody for the mother. I think this selfish and damaging behavior is tantamount to emotional abuse of the child and should be treated accordingly.

  3. Mikey says:

    Good read. It’s also emotional abuse on the targeted parent. Let’s not forget!
    How can you treat this with empathy?… when you are written off and cannot speak to your children, or you have forgotten what they look like, because you have been deliberately excluded from their lives, how can you put yourselves in their shoes, when it is the children that CHOOSE to harm you? At what point are they accountable?
    Years have gone by.. I have called my ex once out of desperation and pleaded with her to encourage the children to have a relationship with me..
    “no,… you have fckd up your relationship with your kids…why should I care?”

  4. Mikey says:

    Karen Woodall mentions that there is a trigger, which I can relate with. Usually this is anger towards the mother or towards the child. The anger then sets the negative belief and concretes the belief about the targeted parent.
    I think that the way to deal with parental alienation is to look at the trigger, to investigate the cause of the alienation whether it is reasonable or not and also to look at whether the alienating parent is justified to “discourage the relationship”.
    So there is a formula: TRIGGER BY TARGETED PARENT + DISCOURAGEMENT OF RELATIONSHIP BY ALIENATING PARENT = ALIENATION
    I think that targeted parents should avoid any triggers, rather press the pause button when things get hot and alienating parents should be forced by the court to “encourage” children to see the other parent.

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