Family Court counselors and mediators try to resolve matters out of court. But at whose expense? Here’s Norm’s story. (Norm is not his real name, but it’s appropriate because his story is fairly normal).
I’d like to talk just a little bit about what has been and continues to be the worst period of my life.
I arrived home after a particularly bad day at the office, to find a note saying “I’ve gone, and I’ve taken Susan and Michael and I won’t be back, P.S. Don’t try and find us or the Police will deal with you”.
I was horrified.
Notes such as this are given to wild, drunken, violent men. I know that if I was listening to someone telling me that story I would probably be thinking “yeah sure, she probably left for good reasons, you’re probably a wild drunk or someone who belts his wife up”. The bit that hurt the most was not that she had left. It was that my children were gone too, and there were a few assumptions and rules to this game that I didn’t understand. The first thing was how come the Police would get involved? Was she suggesting that I would stalk her? Go after her to do her harm? Why would I? On the other hand, who gave her the right to forcibly remove the children? And why would the Police see this automatically as O.K.?
I was shattered, I was closer to being a criminal than ever before in my life. I knew that any attempt to see my children would be seen as an act of aggression towards my ex partner. I was being reconstructed into a potentially violent man, despite never having ever threatened either physically, verbally or otherwise, any member of my family.
The story does get a lot worse. Read the whole story.
However, it is strangely familiar. Considering how child and father dangerous the story is, it is horrifying that it is so generic through western societies.
The Journal Certified Male has a lot of good material in it.
When I asked for help, the familycaught$ wasn’t there?
The Judicial Oath, if it exists at all, is a judge’s promise to hear all people on an equal basis:
18 Judicial oath
The oath in this Act referred to as the judicial oath shall be in the form following, that is to say:
I, [specify], swear that I will well and truly serve Her [or His] Majesty [specify as above], Her [or His] heirs and successors, according to law, in the office of [specify]; and I will do right to all manner of people after the laws and usages of New Zealand, without fear or favour, affection or ill will. So help me God.
Stop laughing, this is serious stuff, it is meant to be!!??
Australia, NZ, USA, UK or Canada – different legislation, different marketing lies, same thievery!
Remember that the familycaught$ only hurts people who take it seriously.
Protect yourself, only trust them as far as you can throw them.
Look before you leap.