If you can prove to the courts that you have been excluded from raising your child in any way or form by the custodial parent, then that custodial parent has no rights to funding from the non custodial parent.
A little bit about my history.
Not only was I excluded from having a parental say when my one daughter got a tongue piercing at fourteen, having shaved her head on the one side and pink on the other with stretchers in both ears and my other daughter with purple, then bleach white hair, with facial piercings, I had no say when they quit school at sixteen after having failed at school the year before either.
You can image how I was fuming! This would have been quite a normal reaction.
Fathers who do not get a say in bringing up their children should not be expected to pay.. It’s about honouring both parents. Period.