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Sat 27th June 2015

Child support

Filed under: General — Mikey @ 11:40 am

My experience with child support as a paying parent has been an utter nightmare. For one, my daughters are constantly being told by their mother that I do not pay enough. The Ird letters and assessments are shown to my kids, so they are fully involved in the financial battles. This has created conflict between my children and myself.
Then any money that goes to their mother is gobbled up by alcohol and smokes and my daughters do not get any child support anyway. If in fact school books and uniforms are bought, my children ask me for extra money, which I refuse because child support is meant to cover this. Again I look like the arse hole. Anything that is bought from the child support money never comes from from me in the eyes of my children and their mother takes all the credit of any purchases. There was a time when I was on the bones of my arse on the DPB, where I had to prove over a period of three months that the children were in shared care, for me not to pay child support. Whilst a telephone call from their mother to the ird was proof enough that they were not in shared care.
Whilst I was recording these times on spreadsheet the ird literally took money in a lump sum from my bank account over night without informing me.
I moved countries. Child support deducts contact time, so it is greatly reduced. However the mother of my children does not accept contact time being part of child support. So every year I have to go to a review to change it, having to keep receipts to prove what I have spent.
Annual income assessments are fictitiously created by the ird if the proof of income is not submitted. This means that they are telling me how much I have earned and how much child support I have to pay. Interest and penalties are added on top of the “made-up” earnings. The mother of my children is rubbing her hands to get hold of this money and when she gets notified that in fact I do not earn this, again I am the arsehole to my children.
Not only has child support created utter war between myself and my ex, it is part of the cause of my daughters not seeing me in five years.
And when a child refuses to see you with full support of the mother, should you pay any child support at all?
My answer is no. But the ird do not care if you have no contact, so it is ok for the mother to have all time and say with your children and take your money as well.
If there is in fact a satan on earth, it would be the ird. To use this system as a form of their own business ventures, charging interest an penalties, as if it were a loan that they are giving you is sick. I cannot wait until my daughter reaches the age over the limit and then I in capital letters… “I” can finally spoil her and her mother can go to hell and buy her own smokes and alcohol.

Another Diplomatic Offending Situation, where is the feminist outrage?

Filed under: General — Ministry of Men's Affairs @ 10:29 am

Apparently, the wife of the Indian High Commissioner has assaulted a male staff member. There are significant parallels here with the recent case of the Malaysian diplomat accused of some kind of assault. However, there will be one major difference: we won’t hear a whisper from the feminists in objection to how it was managed. (more…)

Wed 24th June 2015

IRD Payments

Filed under: Child Support — midnighthauler @ 3:58 pm

I have just been notified by my sons school who I have had know contact with since Jan, that he has decided to leave and has a job. He is in process of completing sign out papers (not sure how long that takes, if anyone can enlighten me). He is taking on a full time job but I am not privy to that information. My battle will continue with IRD and payments I bet even if and when I inform them.

They rang the other day and I lost the plot and said to poor girl on ph its a wonder us dads want to commit suicide due to the constant harassment from you. Not long after hanging up the police arrived on my doorstep to assess my state of mind. If its not ph calls then its letters in the mail and it is wearing me down.

Tue 23rd June 2015

Colin Craig – Prosecution by Media

Filed under: General — Lukenz @ 12:51 am

Putting all politics to one side, Colin Craig is man who is being prosecuted by media. The allegations are growing by the hour and all he can do is to publicly address them as false.

To me it seems the media has no consideration for the long term affect for a man who is openly accused without any process. There is no thought or respect for the loss and fallout of a man and what it may mean to his whole being.

I wonder at what point the media would consider success. Would the media think him loosing employment as satisfaction? How about a bust up of a long term a marriage, losing half his worldly goods? A breakup of a family involving kids? Would that make the media pleased? Maybe suicide might quench the medias desire. What purpose and what goal does the media what to achieve?

I wonder if there are those in the media who just thrive on some sort of quest to breakdown a man down. Just think those media people could come home and tell their partners and friends that they managed to make a man kill himself. Awash in their self-given licence to do whatever they want to whomever they want. Paint it the way they want.

When school children bully another child until suicide it is considered something near manslaughter. But when the media want to have a go at a man it is thought to be standard practice, necessary and worthwhile.

And I wonder why the media has not applied the same pressure to the woman who quite probably has an equal part to play.

Wed 17th June 2015

IRD again

Filed under: General — midnighthauler @ 7:50 pm

What I dont get is if you add my income and my ex income together and divide by 50%…the inland revenue seem to think it takes near on $600 a week to raise two teens…so I have to pay her $300 a week, when she
earns almost as much as me. The way I see it she will not need to put her hand in her pocket for the kids at all. My $300 a week I give the IRD will cover all their costs. I so dont get this

Tue 16th June 2015


Filed under: Child Support — midnighthauler @ 6:45 pm

Once again I have been bitten by the IRD, we had a review which was turned down. I do not have a problem paying IRD but I do when the amount is absolutely ridiculous. The ex wife who I have been divorced from for 12 yrs continues to plead poverty even though she has well paying job and owns 2 homes renting 1 and partner who owns his own business.

She has now alienated the kids from me and I am unable to contact them. I have to ring their school just to find out how they are doing. I had to ring IRD last night and was treated like a sub human. My son is 17yrs and is looking at leaving school and I only found out because I rang school to find out their progress.

This is my first time on site and new post so would be great to hear from other fathers suffering what I am going through.

Mon 15th June 2015

The Unforgivable Sin Deserving Death

Filed under: General — triassic @ 11:00 pm

ISIS, or International SISters as they like to be known, have dealt a lethal blow for their cause by destroying an 72 yr old man, Sir Tim Hunt, a Noble-winning scientist, who was silly enough to speak his mind upon giving a speech at a conference in Seoul. Without malice he mentioned his experiences in working with females in the lab.

ISIS at this stage have stripped him of all he held dear but many fear that a be-heading will take place shortly or, as has been the practice, castration performed over a long period by the testicles being soaked in honey then jammed in a jar with army ants.

Middle Eastern media are reporting that shock and horror pervades across their nation. They are much bemused that the West can preach to them about freedom of speech yet permit castration and slaughter for the revealing of a harmless anecdote.

Mr Walid Muallem, a travel agent from Egypt, said that many of his clients had cancelled their travel to Western Nations as they feared that they might say something quite innocently whilst there and end up in ISIS captivity. “You have to be very brave or stupid to holiday in the West” he stated and that he and his wife will feel safer holidaying in Syria instead.

Thu 4th June 2015

Stay at home dads are Dangerous!

Filed under: General — triassic @ 10:50 am

This story of exposing the price of the marriage break up of Janet and Paul will resonant with many fathers but for a different reason and their side of the story will have little interest in the main stream media it seems. A ‘stay at home dad’ is demonised once again. Journalism here of the lowest form is illustrated by a one sided story. Was it violence in the home that drove Paul into the arms of another woman? I would have thought it an important part of the story considering its relevance. The author of this article, Lucy Cavendish, has deviated from the normal drill with these stories, that being the person with the money, always has the power and automatically abuses that power for control via abuse, hence, defined as violence against the care giver of the children. The thought that Paul could be a victim is beyond Cavendish’s comprehension. It is also, I contend, beyond the editor of the NZ herald who commissioned this biased article denigrating the many fathers who love and care for their off spring and offer to stay at home to bring them up.

If I was to interview Paul I am sure I could write a tear jerking story about the abuse endured by stay at home fathers by their partners and the devastation of their predicament as after sacrificing their own career they now will have to live on bread crumbs for the rest of their life.

Jill Goldstone puts another perspective on the subject and points out that Lucy Cavendish is a Neanderthal Philistine.

Wed 3rd June 2015

It’s so easy to get political change? DV

Greg Andresen, of Men’s Health Australia, is a persistent and sharp political operator.

I have heard many men in NZ complain “Why doesn’t someone [else?] talk to the politicians and get everything sorted out?”.

If I have tried to explain what is required to communicate well to politicians, I have been attacked as defeatist and being too negative in seeing many challenges ahead. My critics mainly have been people who have never done more than make one telephone call, or Saturday visit to an MP. Then they complain that nothing positive happened!

I have suggested that men read How to Make Friends and Influence People, by Dale Carnegie and Dr. Brian Edwards and Judy Callingham’s book about How to Deal with Media. But these critics don’t have time to read it, they just want to jump straight in to making a submission or talking with a politician. Then they wonder why they don’t seem to have achieved anything? (Note: I am not saying they have achieved nothing, as such a judgement needs to be made over several years, not just a few days.)

Misandrist Psychology

Filed under: General — Ministry of Men's Affairs @ 10:26 pm

We came across this interesting article, one of a series. The article is about the ‘Conformity to Masculine Norms Inventory (CMNI)’, a questionnaire resulting in a numerical estimation of how ‘masculine’ you are. The questionnaire is almost certainly misleading and absolutely certainly misandrist. The article provides some interesting insights into how feminists and feminism work.

Tue 2nd June 2015

Was this about his child?

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 5:14 pm

Waikato school in lockdown.

A Waikato primary school and kohanga reo were locked down while armed police negotiated with a man making threats involving a firearm.

The man was arrested in the small town of Kerepehi, south of Thames, and taken into custody without incident after police spent hours trying to get him to surrender.

Mon 1st June 2015

False accusations of abuse in the UK

Filed under: General,Sex Abuse / CYF — JohnPotter @ 5:43 am

I spent yesterday in Cardiff, where Felicity was speaking at the annual conference of FACT – Falsely Accused Caregivers and Teachers. The United Kingdom is currently experiencing a wave of sex-abuse hysteria.

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