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Mon 27th February 2017


Filed under: General — triassic @ 8:21 am

Here is your opportunity to create change on April 6th. Politics is about power and this summit is an essential platform in creating the ground work for a healthy future.

Men’s Invite pdf

43 Responses to “MENS SUMMIT”

  1. Jerry says:

    Is there a dress code? I have a SPERM T-shirt. SPERM = “Society for protection of rights for men”. It was a gift from a female friend, but seems apropos. And I’m sure I have seem womyn wearing shirts sporting offensive and hateful slogans. I hesitate because I realise that genders are not equal in New Zealand – but isn’t that the theme of the meeting?

  2. Ministry of Men's Affairs says:

    No dress code as far as I’m aware except as would apply in any NZ public place. Your t-shirt sounds good!

  3. Ministry of Men's Affairs says:

    2nd Men’s Summit – Male Wellbeing and Gender Equality
    Thursday 6th April 2017
    Grand Hall Parliament Wellington
    • 9.00am Maori Welcome, Host Kelvin Davis, MP for Te Tai Tokerau
    • Facilitator Ken Clearwater , Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse
    • 9.15am Summit Focus, Donald Pettitt, Canterbury Men’s Centre

    • 9.30am- Bruce Tichbon, Families Apart Require Equality (30 mins)

    • 10:00am- Tane Ora, Riki Niania Maori Men’s Health (30mins)
    • 10.30am- Warwick Pudney, AUT Fathering (30 mins)
    • 11:00am Cookie Break
    • 11:15am Dr Muriel Newman, former ACT MP, Shared Parenting (40 mins)
    • 12 Noon Hans Laven, Psychologist – Male Suicide (40 mins)
    • 12:45am Greg Newbold, Canterbury University, Feminism and Rape Law (40 mins)
    • 1:30pm LUNCH
    • 2:00pm Promotional, Poster and Networking Session – Men’s Groups, Charities, Social Services – Personal Introductions (1 min)
    • 2:30 pm Summit Recommendations – Don Pettitt, Canterbury Men’s Centre.
    • 3:00pm Cookie Break
    • 3:15pm Members of Parliament Reply, – Representatives from ACT, The Green Party, Labour, Maori Party, National, New Zealand First and United Future. (10 minutes each)
    • 4:30pm Officials Reply –Judges, Commissioners, Executives and NGOs (10 mins each)
    • 5:30pm Thanks – Kerry Bevin, Ministry of Menz Affairs
    • 6:00 Backbenchers Restaurant, just across the road from Parliament. Recommended.
    • Dinner and drinks here not included in the costs for the Summit
    • The Men’s Summit is a NOT FOR PROFIT event.

  4. Ministry of Men's Affairs says:

    P.S. The organizers have gone with the title ‘2nd Men’s Summit’ presumably because this is the second in the current series. However, we acknowledge the two Summits in the early 2000’s and their importance for the men’s movement in NZ.

  5. Jerry says:

    Thanks for the info about the speakers. I don’t see any in the list who would benefit from my T-shirt. Already met some and would like to meet others.

  6. downunder says:

    If you read the speeches from Kelvin Davis at the time of his election, which were centered on how focused he was on women and domestic violence, you have to do a double take, when you see his name as ‘host of a Men’s Summit’.

    [Slaps himself]

    [Reminds himself that he is a politician]

  7. downunder says:

    And of course it’s election year.

  8. Voices back from the bush says:

    6, yes your correct.
    I have spoken with Kelvin about Male Victims of DV and got the impression he would like to do more to build awareness.
    I’m looking forward to this summit meeting as the theme is equality.
    Wasn’t it about this time three years ago Cunny was apologising for being a man?
    Davis has tried to bring attention to the difficulties incarcerated men here and overseas experience.
    This was overshadowed of course by a bunch of women walking out of parliament two days in a row complaining that they’re all said to be on the side of rapists.
    Anything to distract attention from a male issue.
    Davis is probably our best hope for awareness and public enlightenment.
    I don’t expect he would have the stones to challenge the red fems but I intend to give him encourgment to do just that.

    Can you think of any other politician that might be worthy of a men’s issues vote?

  9. Man X Norton says:

    At least Kelvin Davis is supporting a men’s initiative. Yes, there will be an extent to which acknowledging women’s issues is a requirement for any politician in the feminist era. However, people generally are waking up to feminist selfishness and misinformation as well as to male issues and we will see this increasing. Indeed, many MRAs were once spouting the feminist lines and woke up. Kelvin Davis deserves some respect and gratitude now rather than cynicism.

  10. Jerry says:

    I do not like that we are conditioned / brainwashed into referring to “Feminism” as if it was a defined universally accepted set of avtively and openly persued principles. I find that nobody can give me a definition for feminism, which all other feminists will agree with. Feminism at best is a private delusion created in the minds of most females and some males and each instance of defining is arrived at with different inputs and different conclusions. Indeed Feminism is has no substance at all – so lets stop referring to it as if it does. We agree that many women we respect claim to be feminists, and yet those same women will distance themselves from the most extreme son-hating others. Feminism is as unified as are all the religions through out history on this planet.
    As for politicians, I do not trust any – but like USA with the Trump – Clinton choice – thems all we got.

  11. Man X Norton says:

    Jerry @ 10: Who is referring to feminism as if it has an accepted or realistic definition? I frequently challenge those who trot out the old claim that feminism is aimed at achieving gender equality, because few feminists have ever shown much interest in gender equality.

  12. Jerry says:

    mAN X nORTON @11: I think it is universally referred to that way. Individual women, many males, and certainly its been in the news that way over the years – even recently there have been particular defenses of it. Then on YouTube, STUFF, Herald Al-Jazeera and even TASS. But as I point out, I do not find anyone who can relate some definition which many others will come close to agreeing with. Like religion, everybody sees it differently and so its really a meaningless term. These days when I hear someone say they are a feminist {or believe in feminism} I ask them for a definition which all others will agree with – I’ve yet to be given any definition. I di it just to point out how meaningless the term is – try to get them to think what flags they choose to march under.

  13. Jerry says:

    About the MEN’s SUMMIT. Are there options for people to attend the sessions only, not the Meals drinks, social etc?
    I could only stay until returning homeward around 5pm 90 miles away. I’m on a highly unusual diet requirements – so I cannot have anything not in my lunch-box. And then there is nobody to keep my old decrepit dog supervised and fed. He came from the SPCA and haven’t the heart to kennel him, coz I reckon he will feel hes back at the SPCA.

  14. downunder says:

    #9 Peter Dunne received considerable support on the basis that he was supporting the men’s initiative, but afterwards shit on men at every turn.

    Muriel Newman actually had a piece of proposed legislation, but ask her how mad dog Pebble axed the bill, when it was drawn from the ballot a second time.

  15. Jerry says:

    Downunder @9; You are quite right. Dunne also made noises like he believed in FAMILY too. I voted on that basis and recall being utterly betrayed. Disrespected Dunne ever since. Just another Machiavellian politician.

  16. golfa says:

    #14 and #15. Don’t forget Dunnothing promised way back in 2004 that he was going to make the Child Support system fairer. When did it change ? 2016 TWELVE years later AND he wasn’t even in charge of it then. He’s a weak, simpering mangina.

  17. downunder says:

    Forget about the rhetoric and follow the money.

    The bodies of men, law of the person, our lives are on the New Zealand balance sheet for four billion $4,000,000,000.00

    And the IRD is busy collecting that from our brothers, and if they die in the process, not an eyelid of a politician is blinked.

    AND you kiss the feet of politicians for what, another twenty years of the same?

  18. Man X Norton says:

    Support whatever politician you want or none at all. I simply suggested some respect and gratitude for one real action that Kelvin Davis has done: sponsoring a conference focused on men’s issues.

  19. downunder says:

    gratitude for one real action

    In Latin there is a collective noun for Roman Senators:

    Patres et Conscripti

    Translated as you can probably guess is:

    to conscript the fathers

  20. DJ Ward says:

    One can only guess the future.
    In regard to Kelvin Davis we have information than can help increase our accuracy of the guess we make.
    He is a White Ribbon ambassador.

    His opinions are moderated by rabid feminists in the Labour Party and others.

    So he supports the position that it is men that are responsible for domestic violence.
    Despite research exposing that being a myth.
    He considers any sexual act is always something that requires men to get consent from the female.
    This completely ignores the facts.
    Males are forced into having sex more often than women are. iE raped.
    Then a crime only females commit (non consential conception, indecent assualt) involving a minimum of 40% of pregnancies, males gave no consent.
    Females according to Greg Newbolds figures who have sexual relations with male children have about 1 in 60 of a chance of being prosecuted compared to men who abuse female children.

    I guess he will spew out Labours feminist, White Ribbon retoric in introducing the issues facing men.
    He will ignor.
    Access and custody issues.
    Sex offending laws that are descriminatory.
    Mass falsifying of birth certificates.
    Government support of pregnancy without consent. Especially those involving deception, or other sex without consent situations.
    He will ignor the link between pregnancy without consent and domestic violence.
    He will ignor the link between men’s fears of paternity and domestic violence.
    He will ignore the fact that males are overwhelmingly the victims of financial crimes, with the offender overwhelmingly women. With vertualy no prosecutions.
    He will likely not mention any link between suicide and family court, access, conception, financial deprivation, or education failure that has removed male employment and career oppertunities.

    The list goes on and on.
    If Kelvin Davis starts by saying.
    New Zealand men are the most descriminated and abused members of our society.
    He could suprise me.
    I guess that won’t happen.

  21. Voices back from the bush says:

    According to MP Poto Williams’s website:

    However it must be remembered that there were 312 deaths from family violence last year and they were all preventable,“ says Poto Williams.

    Can anyone hazard a guess as to where she might be getting her statistics From?

  22. Jerry says:

    D J Ward @20; Thanks for that info. Certainly informs me and changes my view drastically. Given the abuse my most harmed daughter received from White-Ribbon in front of police {and in NZ thats okay} I accuse them and all supporters of being hypocrits and having no ethical moral compass at all regarding these issues. And no! I would not agree with anyone who might argue that its fair having all sides represented – when did White-Ribbon extend such an equal and respectful invitation to Men’s lobby? – and when would they give a men’s supporter a respectful considered hearing? Thanks D J Ward you saved me wasting $ going to Wellington.

  23. Voices back from the bush says:

    I will be proud to tell my daughter that after I lost the right in family court to be her parent, I went to parliament and spoke up about the injustice in the hope that other dads and children don’t lose out so easily.
    I will be travelling from Auckland to Welington for this rare opportunity.
    I haven’t booked a ticket yet. If anyone is wanting to go but struggling to afford then I’ll drive my Work van down or if a few want to I will shout us a minivan, there and back. Chuck in what you can for gas. I’ve got one of those mega sized tents,we can find a camp ground, rough it for two nights then head back up.

    Bill 02108871800 Text and I’ll ring you back cos I’m working.

  24. DJ Ward says:

    La La Land.

    Kelvin may be the organiser and be pushing a feminist pram.
    But there are many other speakers.
    Any meeting is better than no meeting.
    MOMA is on the list.

  25. Minstrel says:

    #22 Jerry. I have found Kelvin Davis to be a reasonable man, i.e. he listens to reason and if a good argument is put forward he will listen and debate the issue. The Men’s Summit is for learning and discussion. If you attend you will have a chance to support the speakers you like and put your contrary ideas forward to those in attendance. Black and white thinking will get us no where. I have yet to meet anyone who thinks exactly the same as I do about feminism or any other dogma. If it was Dr Neville Robertson organising the event I might agree with you.

  26. Jerry says:

    Minstrel @25; Re Kelvin Davis being a reasonable man. No reasonable thinking trustworthy person can be a White-ribbon ambassador. Taints the whole affair for me. You are free to make your own choice.

  27. Minstrel says:

    Jerry, if you are a reasonable man then you are a prime candidate to attend the summit and contribute. We need diversity of thinking in attendance.

  28. Jerry says:

    Minstrel @28; So if I don’t attend then you would say I’m not a reasonable man. Sure I have a lot of experience at the coal face and have a lot of personal and family damage to cope with on a long term basis. I have been out in protests relating to the family court and family violence, gender equality. I have been violently menaced by a nobby mangina brandishing a chainsaw. We have protested when no others turned up. But I’d not be a reasonable man if I missed this occion based on my experiences and good judgement. I cannot treat hypocrits as reasonable intelligent people or worthy of respect – or for that matter “my equal”. You might read Machiavelli’s book “The Prince”. It describes Power and how to keep it – such that after 500 years its still the go-to bible for world and business leaders. Speakers such as Hans Laven are worth hearing, and my hat off to them for trying, but I do not believe they sew their seeds on fertile ground when White-Ribbon ambassadors are involved. Nor do I believe that any male friendly speaker or attendee will receive a fair hearing. To the contrary the Rape-Culture {Machiavellian} rent-a-crowd of extremists might well attend and shut the whole thing down, and most likely with police and political approval. Happened before, and take a look at that STUFF item. That was also reported on National and Concert programmes yesterday. No I feel a thinking man puts his effort where it has a fair hearing and is likely to at least get through to another person and cause them to review their beliefs. I have no doubt I personally could trounce Kelvin Davis in a one-on-one confrontation using facts and logic. But I’m unlikely to get that chance, and nobody would hear him retreat. But he will have the stage, the microphone and the audience. He will take time better used by others.

  29. DJ Ward says:

    #27 Rape culture?

    How about this one.


    “When spoken to by police, Kerr admitted threatening the man, but said it was just a joke and she was not going to go through with her threats.”
    She took the money.
    She did go trough with her threat.

    “Judge Russell ordered a pre-sentencing report and a drug and alcohol report, and Kerr’s home would be assessed for an electronically monitored sentence.”
    No prison term?
    How many years would have he got?

    Women like this make real cases of rape harder to prosecute.
    With the judge intending to be so lenient.
    Maybe is not a rape culture we should be concerned with.
    As the offending is harshly punished and the offenders considered abhorrent.

    Clearly we have a false rape claim culture.

  30. Allan Harvey says:

    I think the term ‘rape culture’ and “false rape claim culture” are not helpful.
    What we do need is plain communication and plain consent. Yes should mean yes and no should mean no to everyone.
    Several foolish boys have caused problems for themselves, their school and men generally with their stupid comments on Facebook. Good on the Wellington College boys who called them on their stupidity.
    Good on the young men and women who rallied yesterday at parliament. It is important that within our schools and families children are taught to be explicit about consent.

    The story above probably has much more depth to it than suggested. The man clearly was foolish with earlier payments. The woman is clearly with history and multiple demons of her own. There is no indication from Judge Russell in his seeking reports of his intentions. He is informing himself of options available. Clearly the revolving door this woman has been though in the past has not encouraged her to more social behaviour. Even if she is given the 14 year maximum for blackmail she will come out to join us in society after 6-7 years. That costs we taxpayers $600-700,0000. Surely a decent probation officer, some community support and goodwill from us all has a much better chance of a more social positive outcome for everyone.

    I doubt anyone be they male or female is likely to do more than a few months inside for a crime such as this.

  31. Voices back from the bush says:

    I think “false rape culture” describes the social and political anti-male epidemic very accurately.
    Rape culture is a term I find offensive and insulting to NZ men.

  32. Man X Norton says:

    Allan @31:
    – When a judge asks for a report concerning possible home detention that sentence is usually exactly what is planned and given as long as the home address and circumstances are acceptable.

    – Some men have received substantial prison sentences for blackmail while others have received community sentences. The seriousness of the threats seems to be relevant. In this case the threat was to make a false complaint of rape likely to put the target in prison. In my book this is a very serious threat that deserves a moderate punishment especially when committed by someone with a significant criminal history. But this is a female offender and the pussy pass will reign. Your reasoning for lenient treatment of her by the court could equally apply to any offender and would rule out providing an example to others that might discourage similar offending. This woman will get lenient treatment and she will probably reoffend similarly in future. It’s so easy for women to make false allegations of sexual assault and rape under current laws and overly broad definitions.
    – Consent is not a simple matter as you and the feminists would have it. Let’s get real. Sex is not a cortical brain rational decision but a process of letting one’s animal emotions take over. A person may feel uninterested in sex initially but develop that interest through the pleasure of being touched and being desired. Many women would feel uncomfortable if their male date started asking whether it’s ok to kiss her or pash her up rather than just initiating it, and he is likely to be left on the heap as a clumsy and unconfident male. Consent will always rely on a process in which one party (usually the male) takes the emotional (and now legal) risk of reaching out and attempting to initiate sexual interaction and the other party either participates or declines. Provided both parties are capable of withholding consent and communicating this, a clear verbal or physical decline is a reasonable criterion for determining consent to be absent. The lack of any such decline is a reasonable criterion for determining consent to be present, but clear verbal consent is an unreasonable precondition for sexual initiation. Going along with sexual activity then suddenly saying “no” may well be a legal right but it’s not necessarily morally right depending on when in the process it happens. It can be compared with letting someone jump off your diving board then withdrawing permission to enter your pool. Further, the idea of interrupting a sexually interactive process to talk about and to gain ‘explicit consent’ for each new step is ridiculous; it would jolt the participants into the human intellectual brain and thereby seriously damage the sexual process. Although this unrealistic behaviour is insisted on under feminist ideology (and our complicit legislators and courts), very few females will ever practise it. It’s a recent rule designed it seems as just another weapon with which to attack men when convenient.
    – In the case of the naughty boys from Wellington College, one matter that has been absent from the debate is that of their right to free speech. The boys made up some story about something there was no evidence they had ever actually done. Nearly every tv program and every movie we watch involved someone making up a story about something they didn’t actually do, usually such things as murder and violence. The college boys and their colleagues in the closed Facebook group also expressed critical opinions about feminism. They have been treated as if they don’t have the right to hold and express opinions simply because those opinions don’t conform to feminist doctrine. This is a very small step away from being disallowed to express an opinion contrary to religious doctrine. However, when the college boys encouraged other college boys to have sex with drunk girls, that (and only that) went outside their legal right to the extent it was inciting criminal behaviour. It would be quite correct for them to be held responsible for that, and quite reasonable for it to be dealt with through a reprimand and education about the law.
    – Yes, the people who protested outside parliament had every right to do so and are welcome to do so, no matter how fallacious and misguided their cause.

  33. Jerry says:

    Well my point was that DJ Ward identified Kelvin Davis as a White-Ribbon ambassador. In my world both sides of this fence are absolutely incompatible and there is no way a person could be both ; Sympathetic to the rights/welfare of males – and also a White-Ribbon ambassador. It shows a fatal flaw in such a person’s character that its a waste of time listening to their apologetics. The March I highlighted had a link with White-Ribbon and it is an example of how our world hates men. However, if you want a laugh to lighten things up, you might view the URL https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eUezzUZYD70 ; which is a female Chinese comedian – Amy Wong. I think you all would enjoy it.

  34. Man X Norton says:

    Remember that Kelvin Davis is only the host of this conference. To use that meeting room at parliament an MP needs to be the host and invitations to attend need to come from that MP. Davis agreed to a request to fill the hosting role, presumably because he has some awareness and sympathy, however confused, regarding men’s issues. No other MP has lifted a finger to acknowledge or support the men’s movement, except Muriel Neuman a long time ago now. Regardless, Davis’ role is only ceremonial and the conference has been organised by others to advance men’s welfare and rights. Some of the speakers will be challenging for the current orthodoxy and my understanding is that it was considered useful to do this in a parliamentary facility where other MPs were most likely to attend, hear and respond. It’s really important that they get a good turnout.

  35. Jerry says:

    Man X norton @35; I Wouldn’t shake Davis’s hand. But you are right. Its worth a go. Who knows, maybe you can give him cause to rehabilitate himself. Its not like anyone with power and influence will listen, wave a magic wand and we all can live happily ever after as equals etc. Hey was that a flock of pigs flying by……… Thing is even those with seats in Parliament will soon find themselves out on the street, if they become even slightly vocal about equality, justice for males and of course the family unit.
    However something has happened with me and I will not be able to attend now. Good luck.

  36. Voices back from the bush says:

    I just got an email with some very dissapinting news about the men’s summit arrangements.

    Hello everybody

    Early in March, Kelvin Davis, Labour pulled out of hosting the men’s summit at Parliament. Days later, as organisers were approaching other hosts the Speaker cancelled the Grand Hall.

    Fortunately, we have a suitable venue on Thursday 6 April at the Bunker Lounge, Miramar Links Conference Centre, just across the road from Wellington Airport. The Men’s Summit will go ahead as planned.

    The event is now FREE. Morning and Afternoon tea and working Lunch is $40.00 person. No Free Lunch. Those who have paid are due a $50.00 refund. You will be contacted to arrange this. Further registration can be receipted, $40.00, on arrival. Apologies for any inconvenience.

    In February we notified all political Leaders, appropriate Ministers or their representatives and other interested organisations to give them the opportunity to engage on men’s issues.

    So far important groups and individuals have registered. Apologies and best wishes have come from the PM, Ministers and some Parties. Others are yet to reply.

    Unfortunately, Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse and Canterbury Men’s Centre no longer support the Men’s Summit. The Ministry of Men’s Affairs is pleased to raise awareness and commitment for male welfare.

    With growing concerns about male suicide, male rape, domestic violence, prostate cancer, work safety, media denigration, employment equity, matrimonial property, male teacher shortages, under achievement by boys, judicial activism, legal bias, discriminatory sentencing, father alienation, punitive Child Support, inter-generational harm, military under-resourcing and the disengagement of “Men on Strike” in society means male welfare has become a priority.

    “Affirmative Action” for women has delivered over $100 million to the Ministry for Women. No Ministry for Men is mooted. However, David Seymour, ACT, agrees one is needed.

    Men and Boys are “under the pump.” This adversely affects their female partners and children. Time to VOTE pro male.

    See you there

    Kerry Bevin 
    Ministry of Men’s Affairs 021 269 8353

    P.S. Next Men’s Summit likely to be in Auckland.

  37. DJ Ward says:

    NZ Politicians are cowards.
    Not one is brave enough to give men a voice.

    We should send them a box of docking rings.

  38. Man X Norton says:

    Ha! Good idea DJ Ward. You hold them down and I’ll slip the docking rings on (after I put gloves on of course). (Just joking, I would never assault a politician!)

  39. martin says:

    downunder @19 – It translates as “The conscripts and fathers”, there is no verb there 🙂

  40. Downunder says:

    @40 The Latin phrase is the collective noun for the Senate – the literal translation being a reference to how they addressed each other in the Senate, “Fathers and Conscripts”

    The English interpretation is Conscript Fathers, using the adjective sense of our English word, conscript.

    In terms of political purpose, I’ve summerised that as

    to conscript the fathers

    which was very much the case in that era.

  41. Man X Norton says:

    Downunder @41: Yes, ‘conscript fathers’ involves the term ‘conscript’ as an adjective. The literal translation is simply ‘fathers and conscripts’. While it may well be accurate that fathers were conscripted, the phrase does not mean that. Your summerizzation (or is it winterisation; check your English spelling…) is an ‘alternative fact’ implying a new meaning that you have invented.

  42. Downunder says:

    Really Man X Norton.

    Take it up with Oxford, I’m just a parrot.

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