While it may seem satisfying to see CYF clobbered for failing our children and families, there seems little in the proposed changes that will improve matters. The changes are in line with the National government’s privatization agenda that it has already applied significantly to prisons and schools and is seeping by stealth into health and most other government services. (more…)
MENZ Issues: news and discussion about New Zealand men, fathers, family law, divorce, courts, protests, gender politics, and male health.
Fri 8th April 2016
Sun 13th March 2016
The headline item on One News today was about a group of lawyers who asked the Waitangi Tribunal to hear a case that high Maori imprisonment and reimprisonment rates reflect racism. The Tribunal has fast-tracked an urgent hearing to deal with this travesty.
The elephant in the room of course is that the difference between male vs female imprisonment and reimprisonment rates is much greater than any racial differences. So it seems that high Maori imprisonment rates are due to racism but high male rates are because men are just bad bastards.
We know that the only gender-specific laws in NZ discriminate against men, such that an assault committed by a man towards a woman has twice the punishment for exactly the same assault committed by a woman, and that deliberately killing a baby or young child can only lead to a murder prosecution and punishment for men while women have their own special crime for this providing a maximum of three years imprisonment, rarely given. However, we’re not aware of any race-specific law that similarly discriminates against Maori. We also know that good research has shown significant anti-male sexism in our justice system regarding prosecutions and sentencing, but is there similar evidence that Maori are more likely to be charged more often and sentenced more harshly than other races for the same crimes? Never mind, as was the case for the UN ‘special rapporteur’ who came to NZ about two years ago to bemoan our racist society, sexism disadvantaging men is fine and can be ignored.
Fri 26th February 2016
Recent cases highlight the danger our society, or at least the male half, faces under current approaches to violence. The case of Shona Maiden was one. She gave her false account of events to police and even went to news media with photos of her son cuddling her and appeared on tv with convincing tears giving the same account, that a man had punched her after she told him to f-off when he criticized her for speaking te reo. News media misrepresented even her account by claiming he assaulted her for speaking te reo, and generally took a white-knight approach in support of this abused damsel (see the MENZ Issues post ‘What Scumbag Would Do This?’). She said on public media that she had lost 5 teeth and had a plate in her mouth cracked, but she wrote on her Facebook page about 3 teeth on one occasion and 2 teeth on another and not about a cracked plate. After she was charged on the basis of the CCTV evidence she told news interviewers that she stood by her account and had told the truth!
The point here is that Shona Maiden believed herself to be a blameless victim of a male’s violence. She believed it so fully that she told the whole country through news media and she still appeared to believe it even after the CCTV evidence proved otherwise. (more…)
Wed 20th January 2016
May 3 2014, I was assaulted at 7 am by my former partner. A blindsided whack to the head, then whipped with the cord from her laptop charger before a large wall mirror was swung at me.
At 9 am that sunny Saturday morning I was arrested without question- charged with MAF by two policeman one from Philippines one from Punjab India. Neither spoke English very well as I only realised I was being arrested after a little speech by the Indian cop from which I was able to make out the words ‘court of law’.
I was allowed to close the windows and put on some shoes while the Indian took photo’s of the broken pieces of mirror still on the carpet in the hallway.
After being told I was charged with Male assaults female.
I said “no assault occurred to her”. (more…)
Tue 22nd December 2015
pcObelix asked why the Counties Manukau Police only asked boys to hit a girl in their latest sexist anti-violence initiative. Yeah well they didn’t need to do the exercise with girls. Everyone already knows that males are the only ones who behave badly enough to worry about.
‘Cuckoo’ student who duped teacher into thinking she had terminal cancer and tore her life apart Female lied and lied and lied for personal gain without apparent concern for the devastating consequences on others. (By the way, this story also suggests that the duped female lecturer ignored the protestations, advice, needs, any equal say, and indeed the human rights of her husband as she insisted on continuing to support and house her false-pretending friend regardless of him. After all, she wasn’t going to be told what she can and can’t do by some man was she? And supporting a fellow member of the sisterhood was much more important than any imagined obligations the patriarchy might claim she had towards her husband. Ha!)
Ann Sabine’s daughter speaks: ‘I don’t know who my mother was’ Woman abandons her children to move overseas, then murders her husband and hides his death and his body for 18 years. (more…)
Second such event…the other one being overseas from earlier on this year.
I wonder what would happen if they asked a girl to slap a boy….let’s stop the stereotyping……
Fri 18th December 2015
Stop right there. It’s not a religious post.
I know how much some of you detest … the slightest incandescence … of religion gracing the texts of this site but I can’t help seeing the humour in the fact that our current Women’s Minister has the surname Adams.
Before I go any further, I’d like thank another poster ‘Equality’ for raising this issue in the previous post. Good spotting, and I don’t mean to make light of the topic. It’s very serious indeed.
This is the sort of thing that would easily slip under the radar, in the Rucks and Malls of Xmas, and is typical Silly-Season behaviour from politicians, while each of us is running around like a ‘Bat out Hell’ trying to create a little peace and paradise for the kids.
Thu 10th December 2015
A tide change is building further with a recent invitation by the Human Rights Commission for several groups to provide submissions concerning discrimination against men. MoMA provided submissions towards this. An historic meeting was held yesterday involving David Rutherford (Chief Human Rights Commissioner), Peter Jackson (Operations Manager Human Rights Commission), Kerry Bevin (MoMA), Craig Jackson (Family Advocate), Jack Gielen (Suicide Prevention Trust) and Bruce Tichbon (Families Apart Require Equality). Amazingly, the Chief Commissioner acknowledged a number of the men’s groups’ concerns and discussed ways forward. A further meeting was planned for about February next year.
This may not seem earth shattering but the fact is that men have been left out in the cold for a long time now, most men’s movement issues have been ignored and most advice disregarded. It’s heartening to be taken seriously.
Incidentally, the Broadcasting Standards Authority is shortly due to consider a complaint from MoMA that Radio NZ published fallacious family homicide statistics then refused to correct them even after being informed they were wrong. Their figures misrepresented family homicide as being something that women suffered 2.3 times more often as men, when in fact men suffer 43% and women 57% of family homicides.
Keep up your efforts, they are adding to the tide.
A couple of interesting local experiences today were reported by MoMA’s chief executive.
He attended a seminar in which the presenter Nathan Mikaere-Wallis repeatedly made comments that stereotyped men as incompetent, drunkards, violent abusers of their wives and generally inferior compared to women. When a suggestion was made that Mr M-W stop denigrating the male gender, he claimed that only 1% of partner assaults were committed by women. His misinformed belief was corrected but we’re not sure whether he will take that on board. (more…)
Mon 7th December 2015
A female film-maker is soon to release a documentary about the Men’s Rights Movement. Funding was withdrawn when it became apparent that her film was “balanced and “giving the MRAs a platform'”.
The preview for this movie shows interviews with Voice For Men founder Paul Elam, Dr Warren Farrell, author of The Myth Of Male Power, along with Dean Esmay, National Coalition For Men, and Erin Pizzey, founder of the first Woman’s Refuge.
Sun 6th December 2015
NZ news media carry a lot of responsibility for promoting anti-male sexism and for making it extremely difficult for men to influence public opinion with reason or facts. Yesterday’s NZ Herald carried several stories in which bad behaviour by men towards women was emphasized in gender-specific headlines. While those stories involved bad events likely to interest people, what about the many events of harm experienced by males that were not reported? (more…)
Thu 3rd December 2015
An artist who is either a white knight feminist propaganda supporter or simply sees an opportunity to cash in on fashionable feminism has changed photos of female celebrities to make them look injured through partner violence. The artist appears to subscribe to the strange morality that violence towards women is the only violence worth being bothered about and that male victims can be conveniently ignored or denied.
Sun 29th November 2015
If you discover a White Ribbon Ambassador in New Zealand, post a link in the comments.
If you identify a WRA (White Ribbon Ambassador) and provide evidence, in the form of a link, of their activities or any prejudice comments against men, your contributions will develop this page.
White Ribbon is a politically biased organisation that does not accept or recognise women’s violence.
Ambassadors may see political advantage for themselves in accepting these positions and representing the politics of White Ribbon, but have they asked themselves the question; is ignoring women’s violence beneficial to society?
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Wed 25th November 2015
We have long predicted that protection orders will increase risk for applicants, and there have now been numerous examples of partner homicides that probably would never have occurred if there had been no protection order.
If the guilty verdict against Michael Preston this week was the correct one (even though it appeared to be based on circumstantial evidence and the dangerous reasoning that “It couldn’t realistically have been anyone else so it must have been the accused”), then his case is yet another example of a partner killing provoked by a protection order. She was killed within hours of a protection order being served on her ex-husband Mr Preston, against whom the Family Court was collaborating with her regarding care of their children.
When will we start to get real about the implications of threatening fathers’ relationships with their children? When will we get real about the true risk-increasing effects of protection orders, at least in situations where the respondent posed any signficant risk at all. The feminists and white knights of course live in denial and hope that by making the Domestic Violence Act even more unjust and draconian, that will somehow magically make protection orders more effective. However, the only way to do that would be a ‘final solution’, putting to death or imprisoning for life every male accused by a female of presenting a risk. Anything short of that will increase risk. For example, even if all protection order respondents, or those said to have breached protection orders, are immediately sent to jail, you can expect that when they are released they will be much more bitter and twisted, feeling abandoned and very threatened by their own country, and some will lose hope and/or seek revenge.
auspicious offensive occasion of 2015’s display of blatant sexism called White Ribbon Day, we might consider the following characteristics of this campaign. (more…)
Sun 22nd November 2015
For a long time, I have been concerned that too often the familycaught$ uses trial by fire, for deciding cases.
As you read the examples that I have listed below, possibly other examples will come to your mind? If so, please add a comment, giving little more than the essential details to show the nature of the real issues and the way that the familycaught$/CYFs used inappropriate pressure or irrelevant issues, to decide the case. If you wish to supply more detailed information, please contact me personally and supply that privately.
Mon 16th November 2015
There was an excellent article on domestic violence published in the Weekend Australian on Saturday:
Silent Victims: both mothers and fathers can be violent – by Bettina Arndt.
Thu 15th October 2015
I have often commented about my views on the professionalism and skills of the peoples working in familycaught$. Although occasionally complimentary, most of my comments suggest that there might be room for improvement. My views are only those of a poor axe murderer, so I have little social credibility for my poor judgements.
I have just read a book about one particular medical misadventure. I was fairly shocked at the fanaticism of the central medical professional. However, what struck me on looking through the book a second time, was that the horrific outcome was only able to occur, through the weaknesses of the many other professionals involved.
In fact, I think that is the important conclusion. All of us make serious mistakes at some point in our lives. Nothing ventured, nuffink gained.
But what really affects our life outcomes, isn’t the number of mistakes made, but the quality of the process by which they are brought to our attention, the quality or how quickly we can sweep it all under the carpet, or turn around and constructively address these mistakes.
Thu 1st October 2015
For those men like us who have celebrated Lorde’s spectacular rise to fame and fortune, consider her latest music video. It shows her exchanging ‘love at first sight’ glances with a man who is already partnered, then running into his arms to be sexual with him behind the partner’s back, then at the end of the video she has him tied to a chair, kicks him into a swimming pool with inflammable liquid on it and lights the liquid to burn the man to death. (more…)
Mon 14th September 2015
He will arrive on Thursday 15th October and expects to be in NZ for about one week.
I am doing research on fathers, shared/continued parenting, as well as related areas. I have been working in this area for about 26 years, mainly in Canada, the UK, and US. I am now looking at the Global Shared Parenting movement and would like to do interviews with those in Australia and New Zealand. The interviews will be part of the book I am writing about the Family Law system, the Fathers’ Rights/Parenting Movement, and related issues. I would like to interview fathers, mothers, grandmothers, grandfathers, and others who have been impacted by the Family Law System. I would also like to interview mental health professionals, legal professionals, and others who have concerns about the Family Law System. All interviews will be confidential and those being interviewed will remain anonymous.
Overall, I am interviewing parents and others who are concerned with the state of the family law system, children, and parenting. I am particularly concerned about the stress experienced as a result of separation and divorce such as potential mental and physical health issues as well as possible suicide ideation and suicide. I have also interviewed many participants who have discussed domestic violence, false accusations, and related issues.
Sun 13th September 2015
It’s difficult to imagine anything more provocative than seeing a P-addled gang member bashing the shit out of your brother with the real possibility of death or permanent brain damage. That doesn’t mean it’s ok to have a slasher with you and to swing the steel end as hard as possible in to the P-addled gang member’s head, causing his or her hasty death. However, cases like this show just how nasty and unrealistic it was to remove the partial defence of provocation, at least for males in situations of true provocation. Michael Murray may have been able to run that partial defence and many reasonable people would have seen that as justified. He would still have been sent to prison for years and fair enough. It would have been possible under our current murder laws to sentence him to a non-parole period of less than 10 years but it seemed that, because privileged female half-celebrity Millie Elder was upset (at losing her P supplier?), this possible way of taking into account provocation was unconscionable. Either way, Michael Murray won’t spend his imprisonment in ‘solitary confinement’ as our stupid media have been reporting, but he will be in a protection block with mainly harmless sex offenders; that won’t be very safe or feel very safe to him though. (more…)
Sun 6th September 2015
Welfare fit for families in a changing world
(Retirement Policy and Research Centre)
08 September 2015
9am – 5pm
Venue: The University of Auckland Business School, Lecture Theatre OGGB5, Level 0, Owen G Glenn Building, 12 Grafton Road, Auckland
The wellbeing of the poorest families appears to be at the heart of Government policy, yet the primary focus of this Government has been workfare, not welfare. Are there different policy directions that better meet the changed demographic and economic circumstances of families in the 21st Century?
Tue 25th August 2015
Hi John, after reading through the family violence discussion document today I sent the following email through and thought you and your subscribers might be interested in the subject.
Fri 14th August 2015
A new set of harsher standalone offences may come from a comprehensive review of New Zealand’s domestic violence problem, the Justice Ministry announced last week.
This article is more specifically about a father viewing these proposed laws from the perspective of his autistic son’s mental health issues.
Police were working with the Health Ministry and other agencies, including Autism NZ, to improve how they dealt with the issue, which included “enhanced” mental health training given to officers by people who had gone through mental distress and had dealt with police while in crisis.
The irony here of course, is that a woman will be able to have a complete meltdown and her husband or partner will get arrested without any consideration for his mental health, well-being, or personal circumstances.
Creating these specific offences will go exactly were we might expect; justifying the worst side of women.
Women’s Meltdown Law … and that of course is for the benefit and wellbeing of the children of the next generation – Yeah Right.
Wed 3rd June 2015
Greg Andresen, of Men’s Health Australia, is a persistent and sharp political operator.
I have heard many men in NZ complain “Why doesn’t someone [else?] talk to the politicians and get everything sorted out?”.
If I have tried to explain what is required to communicate well to politicians, I have been attacked as defeatist and being too negative in seeing many challenges ahead. My critics mainly have been people who have never done more than make one telephone call, or Saturday visit to an MP. Then they complain that nothing positive happened!
I have suggested that men read How to Make Friends and Influence People, by Dale Carnegie and Dr. Brian Edwards and Judy Callingham’s book about How to Deal with Media. But these critics don’t have time to read it, they just want to jump straight in to making a submission or talking with a politician. Then they wonder why they don’t seem to have achieved anything? (Note: I am not saying they have achieved nothing, as such a judgement needs to be made over several years, not just a few days.)