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Sun 22nd November 2015

Challenge – Handling excessive and inappropriate stress

Filed under: Child Support,Domestic Violence,Law & Courts — MurrayBacon @ 10:22 pm

For a long time, I have been concerned that too often the familycaught$ uses trial by fire, for deciding cases.

As you read the examples that I have listed below, possibly other examples will come to your mind? If so, please add a comment, giving little more than the essential details to show the nature of the real issues and the way that the familycaught$/CYFs used inappropriate pressure or irrelevant issues, to decide the case. If you wish to supply more detailed information, please contact me personally and supply that privately.

Mon 16th November 2015

Silent Victims – violence by women against men

Filed under: Domestic Violence — JohnPotter @ 1:50 pm

There was an excellent article on domestic violence published in the Weekend Australian on Saturday:
Silent Victims: both mothers and fathers can be violent – by Bettina Arndt.


Thu 15th October 2015

Trust in professionals

I have often commented about my views on the professionalism and skills of the peoples working in familycaught$. Although occasionally complimentary, most of my comments suggest that there might be room for improvement. My views are only those of a poor axe murderer, so I have little social credibility for my poor judgements.

I have just read a book about one particular medical misadventure. I was fairly shocked at the fanaticism of the central medical professional. However, what struck me on looking through the book a second time, was that the horrific outcome was only able to occur, through the weaknesses of the many other professionals involved.

In fact, I think that is the important conclusion. All of us make serious mistakes at some point in our lives. Nothing ventured, nuffink gained.

But what really affects our life outcomes, isn’t the number of mistakes made, but the quality of the process by which they are brought to our attention, the quality or how quickly we can sweep it all under the carpet, or turn around and constructively address these mistakes.

Thu 1st October 2015

‘Lorde’ just another man-hating bitch

Filed under: Domestic Violence,Gender Politics,General — Ministry of Men's Affairs @ 8:50 am

For those men like us who have celebrated Lorde’s spectacular rise to fame and fortune, consider her latest music video. It shows her exchanging ‘love at first sight’ glances with a man who is already partnered, then running into his arms to be sexual with him behind the partner’s back, then at the end of the video she has him tied to a chair, kicks him into a swimming pool with inflammable liquid on it and lights the liquid to burn the man to death. (more…)

Mon 14th September 2015

Canadian Identity Researcher Professor Robert A. Kenedy Will Visit NZ

He will arrive on Thursday 15th October and expects to be in NZ for about one week.

I am doing research on fathers, shared/continued parenting, as well as related areas. I have been working in this area for about 26 years, mainly in Canada, the UK, and US. I am now looking at the Global Shared Parenting movement and would like to do interviews with those in Australia and New Zealand. The interviews will be part of the book I am writing about the Family Law system, the Fathers’ Rights/Parenting Movement, and related issues. I would like to interview fathers, mothers, grandmothers, grandfathers, and others who have been impacted by the Family Law System. I would also like to interview mental health professionals, legal professionals, and others who have concerns about the Family Law System. All interviews will be confidential and those being interviewed will remain anonymous.

Overall, I am interviewing parents and others who are concerned with the state of the family law system, children, and parenting. I am particularly concerned about the stress experienced as a result of separation and divorce such as potential mental and physical health issues as well as possible suicide ideation and suicide. I have also interviewed many participants who have discussed domestic violence, false accusations, and related issues.

Sun 13th September 2015

MRA Perspectives on Recent Events

1. Michael Murray sentenced to life for murder of Connor Morris

It’s difficult to imagine anything more provocative than seeing a P-addled gang member bashing the shit out of your brother with the real possibility of death or permanent brain damage. That doesn’t mean it’s ok to have a slasher with you and to swing the steel end as hard as possible in to the P-addled gang member’s head, causing his or her hasty death. However, cases like this show just how nasty and unrealistic it was to remove the partial defence of provocation, at least for males in situations of true provocation. Michael Murray may have been able to run that partial defence and many reasonable people would have seen that as justified. He would still have been sent to prison for years and fair enough. It would have been possible under our current murder laws to sentence him to a non-parole period of less than 10 years but it seemed that, because privileged female half-celebrity Millie Elder was upset (at losing her P supplier?), this possible way of taking into account provocation was unconscionable. Either way, Michael Murray won’t spend his imprisonment in ‘solitary confinement’ as our stupid media have been reporting, but he will be in a protection block with mainly harmless sex offenders; that won’t be very safe or feel very safe to him though. (more…)

Sun 6th September 2015

Social Policies Seminar in Auckland

Filed under: Child Support,Domestic Violence,Gender Politics — MurrayBacon @ 1:30 pm

Welfare fit for families in a changing world

(Retirement Policy and Research Centre)

08 September 2015

9am – 5pm

Venue: The University of Auckland Business School, Lecture Theatre OGGB5, Level 0, Owen G Glenn Building, 12 Grafton Road, Auckland

The wellbeing of the poorest families appears to be at the heart of Government policy, yet the primary focus of this Government has been workfare, not welfare. Are there different policy directions that better meet the changed demographic and economic circumstances of families in the 21st Century?

Tue 25th August 2015

A Grandmother’s Perspective on Family Violence

Filed under: Domestic Violence — JohnPotter @ 9:35 am

Hi John, after reading through the family violence discussion document today I sent the following email through and thought you and your subscribers might be interested in the subject.
Regards, SanNan.

Fri 14th August 2015

Women’s Law on the way for New Zealand

Filed under: Domestic Violence,Gender Politics — Downunder @ 7:04 am


A new set of harsher standalone offences may come from a comprehensive review of New Zealand’s domestic violence problem, the Justice Ministry announced last week.

This article is more specifically about a father viewing these proposed laws from the perspective of his autistic son’s mental health issues.

Police were working with the Health Ministry and other agencies, including Autism NZ, to improve how they dealt with the issue, which included “enhanced” mental health training given to officers by people who had gone through mental distress and had dealt with police while in crisis.

The irony here of course, is that a woman will be able to have a complete meltdown and her husband or partner will get arrested without any consideration for his mental health, well-being, or personal circumstances.

Creating these specific offences will go exactly were we might expect; justifying the worst side of women.

Women’s Meltdown Law … and that of course is for the benefit and wellbeing of the children of the next generation – Yeah Right.

Wed 3rd June 2015

It’s so easy to get political change? DV

Greg Andresen, of Men’s Health Australia, is a persistent and sharp political operator.

I have heard many men in NZ complain “Why doesn’t someone [else?] talk to the politicians and get everything sorted out?”.

If I have tried to explain what is required to communicate well to politicians, I have been attacked as defeatist and being too negative in seeing many challenges ahead. My critics mainly have been people who have never done more than make one telephone call, or Saturday visit to an MP. Then they complain that nothing positive happened!

I have suggested that men read How to Make Friends and Influence People, by Dale Carnegie and Dr. Brian Edwards and Judy Callingham’s book about How to Deal with Media. But these critics don’t have time to read it, they just want to jump straight in to making a submission or talking with a politician. Then they wonder why they don’t seem to have achieved anything? (Note: I am not saying they have achieved nothing, as such a judgement needs to be made over several years, not just a few days.)

Thu 26th March 2015

Please recommend a Child Psychologist experienced with writing reports for the Court

Filed under: Child Support,Domestic Violence,Law & Courts — sharingiscaring @ 11:57 am

Hi guys,

Could you please recommend a Child Psychologist experienced with writing reports for the Court?

Fri 6th March 2015


Filed under: Domestic Violence,Events,Men's Health,White Ribbon Campaign — MurrayBacon @ 8:52 am

One In 3 Campaign Poster

Training Program
Friday March 20 9.30am – 4.00pm

Cancer Society New Zealand, 52 Riddiford Street, Newtown, Wellington

Flier for convenient printing

Tue 20th January 2015

NSW Police acknowledge male victims of intimate partner violence

Filed under: Domestic Violence,Gender Politics,General,Law & Courts — MurrayBacon @ 8:25 am

One In Three Campaign


NSW Police today took the rare and long-overdue step of acknowledging male victims of intimate partner violence and their children with this post on their Facebook Page which is quickly going viral, with many supportive comments underneath it.

Thu 15th January 2015

The toothpaste woman escapes with the loot.

Filed under: Domestic Violence,General,Law & Courts — dunnuffinwrong @ 3:53 pm

I refer back to the first post I made 9 months ago back in may 2014 entitled Toothpaste accomplice. I had omitted in the post the fact that the woman had told me she was six weeks pregnant the week earlier. Months later police called me in to tell me “there is no baby”.

So I’ve lived for the past nine months accused of savagely and brutally repeatedly, assaulting a pregnant woman.

Fri 28th November 2014

The People’s Blueprint

Filed under: Domestic Violence,Law & Courts — Downunder @ 9:26 am

The Glenn Inquiry into child abuse and domestic violence, set up in September 2012, has reported back with recommendations in its second report, announced here Glenn Inquiry Domestic Violence a Disaster.

UPDATE: Report is now available for download here: The People’s Blueprint.

Released the day after the fatal stabbing of a women with a protection order there is no doubt room for a kneejerk reaction similar to the homicide that brought about the original domestic violence legislation.

We see the usual dinosaur-feminist attitude from the patron of the Glenn Inquiry, Dame Catherine Tizard … (more…)

Sun 2nd November 2014

Quality of the Decisions made in Preparing the Domestic Violence Act

Filed under: Domestic Violence,Gender Politics,Law & Courts,Sex Abuse / CYF — MurrayBacon @ 8:54 am

It is important to look back and see the quality of the decisions made in preparing the Domestic Violence Act.
Those who don’t know history, are forever doomed to keep repeating it…………
(Think Big, DV Act, Building Act, these alone total $100 billions of opportunity wasted and social self harm.)

The act was prepared based on off the cuff suggestions made by Sir Ron Davison, after he had reported on the Bristol murder suicide. His report was based on looking through a single familycaught$ file, but without looking at relevant medical records or taking any advice from medical people about the mental health issues involved and without taking any advice from people with criminology or sociology training. He accepted the familycaught$ file as gospel, without any checking, as is standard legal practice, certainly not sociological research practice and quite against common sense.

The largest single lesson is that legal practice does not necessarily give criminological skills. In fact where legal workers think that they are skilled criminologists, just without training, they are socially very dangerous. At no point was manipulation of the familycaught$ considered as a possibility. Such an omission sees naive and unprofessional from an experienced legal worker. The flow on effects onto all parties and in particular children, was given no thought at all.

Careful reading of the prior research shows that the NZ Domestic Violence Act was passed, quite against the lessons provided by the police arrest studies.

Sat 1st November 2014

Preparing Legislation with the same care as Drugs?

Filed under: Domestic Violence,Gender Politics,Law & Courts — MurrayBacon @ 10:58 am

Legislation should be prepared and implemented with care. This is known as “legislation quality” and although given lip service in many countries, including NZ, it is more honoured in the breach! For example Attorney General reports noting that legislation breaches basic human rights, but it is passed anyway, under urgency. Fools rush in, where angels fear to tread.

It is difficult to communicate why this is so, as most people expect legislation to work fully with desirable effects and have no adverse outcomes at all. Especially in the social sphere, it isn’t that simple. Maybe an analogy with introducing new drugs will illustrate these types of issues?

Drugs are meant to be tested for efficacy before being introduced. Then they are meant to be carefully monitored for adverse outcomes.

Similarly, the efficacy of new legislation needs to be checked before passing into law. After passing into law, it also needs to be monitored for adverse outcomes, with the same care as drugs. If this is not done, then problems that could have been stopped while they are small, progress on to be unnecessarily huge problems. Again, this concept is called “legislation quality”.

In the same way that this concept may be taken from medicine to law, disastrous examples can also be taken from medicine to law.

Wed 10th September 2014

The right of the child to know

Many men who have visited the MENZ site will be interested in this decision which relates to birth certificates.

STUFF NEWS artice: the truth will shock boy

The complete article is quoted below: (more…)

Wed 13th August 2014

NZ Judge – Women’s domestic violence and anger OK

Filed under: Domestic Violence,General,Law & Courts — Downunder @ 3:14 pm

This is a staggering article that brings to life the feminist philosophy that many people cannot accept exists in the Family Court.

Worse the article highlights the disparity between what would normally be considered intolerable domestic violence and what is increasingly being considered acceptable female violence. (more…)

Mon 4th August 2014

I am going to meet with a woman politician. I dont believe she is a feminist.

Filed under: Domestic Violence,Gender Politics,General — dunnuffinwrong @ 7:33 pm

Yep I could be wrong but she seems very interested in mens rights. I dont want to sit around and wait and see what happens and create summaries when men get screwed by systemstic discrimination. If you want to sit there.. then ok, but you can still help. Can you add statistics… rephrase my questions?

Wed 30th July 2014

Identify domestic abuse before it turns violent

Filed under: Domestic Violence — ashish @ 9:52 am

She doesn’t have to hit you for it to be abuse:

Mon 16th June 2014

Guilty Until Proven Innocent Pronounced

Filed under: Domestic Violence,General — Lukenz @ 12:16 pm

Story here:

Glenn report released: Shift burden of proof

An insane concept – But there it is. The last step to get rid of the 800 year old Magna Carta. All are guilty until proven innocent. Might as well pass the sentence first.

Sun 15th June 2014

Man charged with assaulting infant

Filed under: Domestic Violence,Gender Politics,Law & Courts — ashish @ 8:45 pm

Bet 100 to 1, this is a mother on DPB, and the 32 year old her boyfriend. And the father kept away by CYF.


Thu 12th June 2014

What was the Research Justification for DV Act?

Filed under: Domestic Violence,Gender Politics,Law & Courts — MurrayBacon @ 9:40 pm

International Research 1974 to 1995

The reason for looking at research available before the DV Act was passed in 1996, is to see whether the legislation was sensibly based on social research available at the time, or was based only on ideology? – ideology only

If the legislation wasn’t based on research, then were there sufficient warnings, that should have prevented the DV Act from being passed in its original form? – yes there were clear warnings, that were strenuously ignored.

In addition to research looking into efficacy, was any consideration given to perverse effects from the legislation? This was discussed in Parliament, but Sir Douglas Graham expressed confidence that judges would not misuse the powers being given to them by Parliament and would use these powers for positive effect. (The NZ Parliament discussion is reported in Hansard. The Hansard record for the DV Act is given below the research article, so you can see the MPs comments.)

After the DV Act was passed, no further consideration was given to perverse outcomes, even after complaints from fathers that 100% evidence-free POs were being issued and this was being used to manipulate care/custody decisions.

With the imminent release of the Glenn Child Abuse and DV Inquiry Report on Monday, it is worth looking at the social research basis, for the DV Act.

Wed 11th June 2014

Female assaults male

Filed under: Domestic Violence,Gender Politics,General — ashish @ 5:11 pm

TVNZ’s reply to a complaint regarding the humorification (just invented new word :P) of a news item depicting female assaults male. Apparently, the complaints committee also thought that this was a mock-able event adding that it was a celebrity involved.

We didn’t see them mocking when another celebrity was just held by the neck (not even kicked and punched like in this case). The only difference that time was that the neck was a female’s.

We harp on about gender equality, and domestic violence… SO WHY THIS DOUBLE STANDARD???????



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