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For people who are falsely accused of rape, the extent goes much deeper than a bad reputation. Lost spouses, lost jobs – lives left in ruins.

But the damage doesn’t stop with them. There are people who are not receiving police attention because the valuable police resources are tied up with these false complaints. Genuine victims of sex crimes suffer because of the false claims made by others.

So just how many complaints are fake? On one side you have the politically correct feminists, saying almost none. On the other side you have the men’s groups, who say the majority are made up. Which is true?

Please note correction of date. It is the 17th not the 24th November.

Date and Time: Monday 24th November, 7:30pm

Video: Crying Wolf is available on the TV3 website here

A spectacular, spectacular where…
Mo Bros, dressed to suit their Mos will be judged by an expert panel for their chance to be crowned the Gala Parté Man of Movember or Best Mo in Class.

Mo Sistas, dressed to suit their Mo Bro or fancy dress will also be judged, with one Sista crowned Miss Movember.

Official Gala Partés in 2008 will be held at:

Wellington Thursday 27th Nov, 6pm, The Loaded Hog ….. Judging time 6 - 8.30pm
Auckland: Friday 28th Nov, 6pm, Eden Park ASB Stand Concourse …. Judging time 6-8.30pm
Christchurch: Saturday 29th Nov, 6pm, The Civic …. Judging time 6 - 8.30pm

Tickets cost $25

About Movember

Co-counselling is a personal development system that confronts limiting behaviour at its deepest level. Working in peer relationships with others it enables us to heal hurts from the past, build on our present strengths, and live into emerging potentials.

Learning to co-counsel means learning a series of simple techniques that allows us to work with our feelings rather than talk about or suppress them. It provides a clear theoretical and skills base for completing unfinished business from the past affects how we operate in our current relationships. It helps to restructure outdated beliefs and create chosen futures.

This five day training will give you the skills to utilise the field of presence between two people to facilitate transformation in all your relationships. It is based on the belief that within each person is a source of wisdom and self directing intelligence, with the ability to heal, and reveal deeper experience of the human capacities to love, understand, and choose. It is based on principles of trust in self direction, and the supportive and aware presence of other loving human beings.

The programme focuses on the development of emotional competence. It keeps us clear of unaware distress so that we meet others from a position of clarity, generosity, ease, creativity and delight. It is valuable for anyone who wants to interact in a genuinely facilitative way with their own process, their family, their community and work colleagues.

The programme is for anyone wanting to develop themselves personally and socially and is particularly useful for people who want to promote co-operative, peer ways of working with others, such as facilitators, leaders, managers, counsellors and trainers and teachers.

Ph 09 376 2386

www.essentiallymen.net

Every year too many Kiwi men’s lives are claimed by medical conditions and diseases that could have been diagnosed and treated effectively had they been caught earlier. Many of them could be saved. And that’s why, in November this year, Rick Martin of Cornerstone Group is going to go for the ride of his life - and possibly yours. prostate cancer, donate money to prostate cancer, new zealand

He’s going to put his own backside on the line, literally, by cycling from Bluff to Cape Reinga, including participating in the Lake Taupo Cycle Challenge (160km), with the aim of encouraging men throughout the country to have annual wellness check-ups.

Rick says, “I want to get as many people together as possible to meet and ride with me into town at the end of each day’s ride to make as much noise and gather as much attention as possible for this worthy cause. This is an open invitation to anyone who can ride a bike!”

Contact details:tania@cornerstonegroup.co.nz

This meeting is being held to hear men’s views and men’s needs around domestic violence so to start a men’s refuge.

Held by: Eastern women’s refuge

Place: Marae at MIT University, Otara. (MIT = Manukau Institute of Technology)
Map

Date: 26th September (confirmation to be double checked) Phone: Eastern Women’s refuge on 833 9653 I will also be double checking on Thursday.

Time: 6pm - 7pm Open meeting …. 7pm onwards - men only

Invitation to Public Meeting - Comparing the Political Parties Policies:

Organised by Men’s Centre Auckland phone for these meetings: 638 7275 cell 021 537 196

Tuesday 9th September - Focus on Supporting Separated Families

These will be held at Mount Eden Normal School Hall, corner of Valley and Sherbourne Roads, Mount Eden, starting at 7.30 pm and ending at 9.30 pm. Attendees will be requested to make a gold coin donation.

Focus on Supporting Separated Families Tuesday 9th September

1. How will your party better support separated families?

2. How will your party assist separated families to compete in the job market, to support their children and to give them the best retirement options?

3. What improvements does your party propose to Education, Health, Courts, Benefits/Taxes, to support separated families?

All welcome. (more…)

Invitation to Public Meetings - Comparing the Political Parties Policies:

Organised by Men’s Centre Auckland phone for these meetings: 638 7275 cell 021 537 196

Tuesday 19th August - Focus on Supporting Together Families
Tuesday 9th September - Focus on Supporting Separated Families

These will be held at Mount Eden Normal School Hall, corner of Valley and Sherbourne Roads, Mount Eden, starting at 7.30 pm and ending at 9.30 pm. Attendees will be requested to make a gold coin donation.

Focus on Supporting Together Families Tuesday 19th August

1. How will your party better support together families?

2. How will your party improve New Zealand’s international competitiveness and make the NZ labour market stronger and more secure?

3. What improvements does your party propose to Police, Courts, Probation and Prisons, to protect citizens?

4. What improvements does your party propose to Education and Health?

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So here I am… an Australian man posting on MENZ.org.nz… brave or what? Especially after the Wallabies received an absolute grubbing at the hands of the All Blacks yesterday. John Potter had explained that MENZ.org.nz was specifically designed and created for New Zealand men, but after I played the “ANZAC” card, he was most gracious, and has allowed me to author and post a few articles here. So here it goes…

ADVENTURE!

Whatever your nationality, there is something at the core of ALL men… and that’s our desire for adventure. Oh sure, most of our lives on the surface, look anything but adventurous, but it is there… however deep we may have buried it over time. Just watch boys play. My youngest son, Theo, has just turned 5. About a month ago, he came to me and asked if I could remove his training wheels from his bike. I didn’t think he was ready, because he hadn’t been riding long, but I resisted those doubts, and off they came… and more importantly, off he went… and he never looked back. (more…)

Our Auckland Father and Child Trust Meeting is on Monday night, 7-9pm, at the Onehunga Community Center, 83 Church Street, near the library.

We had our strategy confirmed at the Father and Child Trust AGM in Chch, to positively encourage fathers, as early in their fatherhood as possible. (more…)