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Sun 29th November 2015

White Ribbon Ambassadors of New Zealand

Filed under: Domestic Violence,Gender Politics,General — Downunder @ 3:21 pm

If you discover a White Ribbon Ambassador in New Zealand, post a link in the comments.

If you identify a WRA (White Ribbon Ambassador) and provide evidence, in the form of a link, of their activities or any prejudice comments against men, your contributions will develop this page.

White Ribbon is a politically biased organisation that does not accept or recognise women’s violence.

Ambassadors may see political advantage for themselves in accepting these positions and representing the politics of White Ribbon, but have they asked themselves the question; is ignoring women’s violence beneficial to society?

Social Categories in alphabetical order

Armed Services
Family Violence
Local Body Politics
Organisation Representatives
Police Officers
Sports Personalities


Fri 27th November 2015

The Pussy Pass Remains Alive and Well

Filed under: Gender Politics,Law & Courts,Sex Abuse / CYF — Ministry of Men's Affairs @ 11:09 am

While we have more recently seen occasional examples in which female offenders were given sentences comparable to those given to males, the pussy pass is still evident in most cases.

This female manager behaved violently towards a subordinate, then repeatedly boasted about and celebrated her violent bullying on social media. She was found guilty of possessing an offensive weapon (even the minimized charge represented a pussy pass given by the prosecutor), then was DISCHARGED WITHOUT CONVICTION! because a conviction would have cramped her style in her future management career. Her name suppression was also continued and she was given an opportunity to make this permanent. No male who behaved as she did, taking all her bad behaviour into account, and expect such leniency. (more…)

Sun 25th October 2015

Women muscle in on men’s sports

Filed under: Gender Politics,General — Ministry of Men's Affairs @ 5:52 pm

Watched the rugby semi final All Blacks vs Springboks. Not sure what interviews were shown after the match on NZ television but the broadcast we saw involved an English female interviewer questioning the captains and others. She asked inane questions with hackneyed comments about the Springboks ‘asking a lot of questions’ of the All Blacks in the match and such like. There was no question of particular insight or relevance to the match, such as concerning the large number of penalties incurred by NZ that actually provided the Sth Africans with all their points. It seemed that a female interviewer was chosen out of some ideological principle but she lacked basic understanding of the game and bullshitted her way through. Women feel they must, and are entitled to, muscle their way into every male domain, and believe that men should not be allowed any clubs or domains of their own while female-only groups and services abound. Would we see a male interviewing the captains etc after a major netball match? We doubt it. But if that ever were to happen it’s likely that the man would learn something about the game and ask some useful questions.

Thu 15th October 2015

Trust in professionals

I have often commented about my views on the professionalism and skills of the peoples working in familycaught$. Although occasionally complimentary, most of my comments suggest that there might be room for improvement. My views are only those of a poor axe murderer, so I have little social credibility for my poor judgements.

I have just read a book about one particular medical misadventure. I was fairly shocked at the fanaticism of the central medical professional. However, what struck me on looking through the book a second time, was that the horrific outcome was only able to occur, through the weaknesses of the many other professionals involved.

In fact, I think that is the important conclusion. All of us make serious mistakes at some point in our lives. Nothing ventured, nuffink gained.

But what really affects our life outcomes, isn’t the number of mistakes made, but the quality of the process by which they are brought to our attention, the quality or how quickly we can sweep it all under the carpet, or turn around and constructively address these mistakes.

Thu 1st October 2015

‘Lorde’ just another man-hating bitch

Filed under: Domestic Violence,Gender Politics,General — Ministry of Men's Affairs @ 8:50 am

For those men like us who have celebrated Lorde’s spectacular rise to fame and fortune, consider her latest music video. It shows her exchanging ‘love at first sight’ glances with a man who is already partnered, then running into his arms to be sexual with him behind the partner’s back, then at the end of the video she has him tied to a chair, kicks him into a swimming pool with inflammable liquid on it and lights the liquid to burn the man to death. (more…)

Tue 29th September 2015

Helen Clarke chairs plan to censor internet to prevent anyone hurting feminists’ feelings.

Filed under: Gender Politics — Vman @ 6:33 pm

UN to Censor the Internet to Save Feminists’ Feelings

Helen Clarke has chaired a UN working group and published a plan to censor the internet to prevent anyone from hurting feminists feelings.

I am not kidding. I couldn’t make this stuff up.

According to feminist culture critic Anita Sarkeesian, who spoke at the event, online “harassment” doesn’t simply consist of what is “legal and illegal,” but “also the day-to-day grind of ‘you’re a liar’ and ‘you suck,’ including all of these hate videos that attack us on a regular basis.”

Apparently this is not just “harassment” but it is “violence”.
Yes that’s correct. Telling a feminist that she is ‘a liar’ is “violence” so bad that the entire internet needs to be censored to prevent it.





Mon 14th September 2015

Canadian Identity Researcher Professor Robert A. Kenedy Will Visit NZ

He will arrive on Thursday 15th October and expects to be in NZ for about one week.

I am doing research on fathers, shared/continued parenting, as well as related areas. I have been working in this area for about 26 years, mainly in Canada, the UK, and US. I am now looking at the Global Shared Parenting movement and would like to do interviews with those in Australia and New Zealand. The interviews will be part of the book I am writing about the Family Law system, the Fathers’ Rights/Parenting Movement, and related issues. I would like to interview fathers, mothers, grandmothers, grandfathers, and others who have been impacted by the Family Law System. I would also like to interview mental health professionals, legal professionals, and others who have concerns about the Family Law System. All interviews will be confidential and those being interviewed will remain anonymous.

Overall, I am interviewing parents and others who are concerned with the state of the family law system, children, and parenting. I am particularly concerned about the stress experienced as a result of separation and divorce such as potential mental and physical health issues as well as possible suicide ideation and suicide. I have also interviewed many participants who have discussed domestic violence, false accusations, and related issues.

Sun 13th September 2015

MRA Perspectives on Recent Events

1. Michael Murray sentenced to life for murder of Connor Morris

It’s difficult to imagine anything more provocative than seeing a P-addled gang member bashing the shit out of your brother with the real possibility of death or permanent brain damage. That doesn’t mean it’s ok to have a slasher with you and to swing the steel end as hard as possible in to the P-addled gang member’s head, causing his or her hasty death. However, cases like this show just how nasty and unrealistic it was to remove the partial defence of provocation, at least for males in situations of true provocation. Michael Murray may have been able to run that partial defence and many reasonable people would have seen that as justified. He would still have been sent to prison for years and fair enough. It would have been possible under our current murder laws to sentence him to a non-parole period of less than 10 years but it seemed that, because privileged female half-celebrity Millie Elder was upset (at losing her P supplier?), this possible way of taking into account provocation was unconscionable. Either way, Michael Murray won’t spend his imprisonment in ‘solitary confinement’ as our stupid media have been reporting, but he will be in a protection block with mainly harmless sex offenders; that won’t be very safe or feel very safe to him though. (more…)

Tue 8th September 2015

Ministry of Justice Refuses to Correct Wrong Statistics

Filed under: Gender Politics,General,Law & Courts — Ministry of Men's Affairs @ 11:46 pm

FYI, our media release 07/09/2015

Ministry of Justice Refuses to Change False Statistics

Community group the Ministry for Men has accused the Ministry of Justice and other government departments of spreading false statistics about domestic violence then refusing to correct their error after being informed.

The Ministry of Justice recently published a document called ‘Strengthening NZ’s legislative response to family violence; A public discussion document’ that claimed at its outset “On average, every year 14 women, 7 men and 8 children are killed by a family member”. The same claim appears on a Ministry of Social Development web page and has been repeated by news media and other groups.

Ministry for Men spokesman Kerry Bevin said that the figures are not in line with any official records and appear to have been plucked out of thin air.

“NZ Police figures on family homicides from the years 2007 to 2014 don’t show anything like what our Ministries are claiming as averages. The latest report from the state-funded Family Violence Death Review Committee show that the true average figures are 13 women, 10 men and 9 children.”

Kerry Bevin said the error was significant. “These false statistics lead the public to believe that twice as many women as men are killed through family violence, whereas in fact 43% of family violence deaths are suffered by men. That gives a very different picture of the problem.”

Kerry Bevin said it was concerning that the Ministry for Justice would publish misleading statistics in a discussion document that the public is being asked to read before providing submissions regarding proposed family violence law changes.

“Public submissions will be based on the false picture being painted, so resulting solutions can be expected to miss the mark.”

“It’s a sorry state of affairs when taxpayers cannot trust government Ministries to provide accurate information about such a basic matter, and it’s appalling that those Ministries have refused to correct their error when made aware of it.”

The Ministry for Men called on both Ministries and any other group that had repeated the false statistics to issue corrections quickly, to ensure that those taking the time to make submissions on family law changes are properly informed.


Send Women Back to Fight Too, Winston (and f*** off with them)

Filed under: Gender Politics,General — Ministry of Men's Affairs @ 9:29 pm

We don’t actually agree that anyone should be sent back to Syria to fight, mainly because we think that fighting for Syria’s corrupt and inhumane dictatorship would be no better than fighting for ISIS, the Russians or most of the other ‘rebel’ groups there. How could anyone fight for their country’s ‘freedom’ in those circumstances? Freedom from whom? Not that we know that much about it.

However, we are appalled that Winston Peters recommended today that we allow Syrian women and children to stay in NZ but that we send some of the men back to fight for “their own country’s freedom”. (more…)

Sun 6th September 2015

Social Policies Seminar in Auckland

Filed under: Child Support,Domestic Violence,Gender Politics — MurrayBacon @ 1:30 pm

Welfare fit for families in a changing world

(Retirement Policy and Research Centre)

08 September 2015

9am – 5pm

Venue: The University of Auckland Business School, Lecture Theatre OGGB5, Level 0, Owen G Glenn Building, 12 Grafton Road, Auckland

The wellbeing of the poorest families appears to be at the heart of Government policy, yet the primary focus of this Government has been workfare, not welfare. Are there different policy directions that better meet the changed demographic and economic circumstances of families in the 21st Century?

Fri 4th September 2015

The Fiamengo Files

Filed under: Gender Politics — JohnPotter @ 5:02 pm

I’ve just had my attention drawn to a remarkable series of videos which MENZ readers will find interesting. This woman gets it.

Janice Fiamengo is an outspoken critic of academic feminism, censorship and gender bias. She is an ardent supporter of freedom of speech, and now identifies as an anti-feminist.

She is an English professor at the University of Ottawa, and this series captures her thoughts on contemporary culture, and the destructive influence of feminism.

She says: “Feminist victim ideology is an illness of the mind”.


Fri 14th August 2015

Women’s Law on the way for New Zealand

Filed under: Domestic Violence,Gender Politics — Downunder @ 7:04 am


A new set of harsher standalone offences may come from a comprehensive review of New Zealand’s domestic violence problem, the Justice Ministry announced last week.

This article is more specifically about a father viewing these proposed laws from the perspective of his autistic son’s mental health issues.

Police were working with the Health Ministry and other agencies, including Autism NZ, to improve how they dealt with the issue, which included “enhanced” mental health training given to officers by people who had gone through mental distress and had dealt with police while in crisis.

The irony here of course, is that a woman will be able to have a complete meltdown and her husband or partner will get arrested without any consideration for his mental health, well-being, or personal circumstances.

Creating these specific offences will go exactly were we might expect; justifying the worst side of women.

Women’s Meltdown Law … and that of course is for the benefit and wellbeing of the children of the next generation – Yeah Right.

Thu 13th August 2015

Men Need to ‘Step Up’ to Support Women Into High-Paid Jobs

Filed under: Gender Politics,General — Ministry of Men's Affairs @ 2:29 pm

We share and comment on an interesting broadcast by Radio NZ on ‘Te Manu Korihi’ (‘the birds singing’) on 7 August 2015. Excerpts from the transcript were as follows:

Presenter: The head of the Federation of Maori Authorities says Maori men need to step up and be more supportive of Maori businesswomen. The Authority runs an annual hui for Maori wahine to support the progression of women in top business leadership roles. Te Manu Korihi’s Alexa Cook reports:

AC: “The chair of the authority, Tracey Haupapa, says wahine face challenges in progressing up the business ladder to senior leadership roles such as chief executive and manager. Ms Haupapa says for women to move forward in business, men need to be more supportive.”


Wed 3rd June 2015

It’s so easy to get political change? DV

Greg Andresen, of Men’s Health Australia, is a persistent and sharp political operator.

I have heard many men in NZ complain “Why doesn’t someone [else?] talk to the politicians and get everything sorted out?”.

If I have tried to explain what is required to communicate well to politicians, I have been attacked as defeatist and being too negative in seeing many challenges ahead. My critics mainly have been people who have never done more than make one telephone call, or Saturday visit to an MP. Then they complain that nothing positive happened!

I have suggested that men read How to Make Friends and Influence People, by Dale Carnegie and Dr. Brian Edwards and Judy Callingham’s book about How to Deal with Media. But these critics don’t have time to read it, they just want to jump straight in to making a submission or talking with a politician. Then they wonder why they don’t seem to have achieved anything? (Note: I am not saying they have achieved nothing, as such a judgement needs to be made over several years, not just a few days.)

Sat 25th April 2015

Man shaming and victim blaming by Karen Woodall

Filed under: Gender Politics — MurrayBacon @ 10:48 am

Man shaming and victim blaming: an A-Z of male suicide
Apr 14, 2015
I caught the end of the Panorama Programme on male suicide in the UK last night. Whilst I know something about the statistics around male suicide and understand some of those things which stack up against men, causing loss of hope and a spiral into despair, even I was shocked that 100 men are killing themselves every week in the UK.

100 men every week. It is the leading cause of death for men under the age of 50. It is happening in our country right now and yet, apart from the exhortation to ‘talk about it’, we have, as yet, no national strategy, no national awareness of what is happening and no real idea of what to do about it other than telling men they need to talk about it.

Mon 9th March 2015

Hike in Child Support upsets a female

Filed under: Child Support,Gender Politics,General — ashish @ 8:33 pm


However hard I try not to appear sexist, the mainstream media gives me no options.

Fri 20th February 2015

Is the Ban on Using Force in Discipline Working?

Filed under: Boys / Youth / Education,Gender Politics,General — Ministry of Men's Affairs @ 9:32 am

The anti-smacking law (actually the anti-use-of-force-in-discipline law) was based largely on feminist ideology. The idea that male characteristics of size and strength should be allowed to be used to exert ‘power and control’ was anathema to feminists, and they projected their sense of injustice on to the matter of raising and disciplining children. State-sponsored sole parenthood often involved rejection of male influence in raising children and the anti-smacking law was an extension of this.

Sun 15th February 2015

Systematic Discrimination Against Fathers

Filed under: Gender Politics,General,Law & Courts — Ministry of Men's Affairs @ 10:08 am

Unbelievable Duplicity Story number 73,456,864: “International tug-of-war in custody fight”. In order to pursue her own career, this mother deliberately abducted the daughter to the USA against the wishes of the girl’s father and denied the girl a meaningful relationship with the father for some years. She arranged a fake contact visit with the father to distract him from her real plan to leave the country, then took off with the child while the father waited to see his daughter. She then failed to honour agreements concerning returning the child to NZ. (more…)

Mon 9th February 2015

UK Barrister: Rape and Consent

Filed under: Gender Politics,Law & Courts,Sex Abuse / CYF — Pete @ 9:23 pm

Barrister David Osborne caused outrage with his blog She was gagging for it (the blog has been changed due to public outrage, but the original is included below) where he went as far as an wrote:

I have a very simple solution which I hope you will agree is fair. If the complainant (I do not refer to her as the victim) was under the influence of alcohol or drugs, or both, when she was ‘raped’, this provides the accused with a complete defence. End of story and a victory for fairness, moderation and common sense!

While I disagree with this particular solution, it must be seen in the context of the debate (if there ever were one). So on the one hand we have David Osborn’s “solution” and on the other the feminists who are basically demanding – so far almost unopposed – that the definition of rape should include “sexual activities with a woman who is drugged or drunk“. This solution is every bit as misandristic as Osborn’s is misogynistic. If only for the reason of bringing some balance into the debate, I applaud him for the courage to write these things.

The original blog follows:

I have been following the latest machinations over rape allegations with some interest, as they have serious consequences for all red-bloodied males who are out on the rut. For the past ten years or more, a politically driven agenda has been thrust down the throats of court users about the deplorably low percentage of rape allegations that lead to conviction, and successive governments have been enjoined to do something about it.

My considerable experience tells me that there are basically two defences to an allegation of rape: either “it wasn’t me gov”, or “she was gagging for it”. It is also correct in my own experience that most of those accused of rape are acquitted, not simply as a result of the brilliance of my advocacy, but because the jury did not believe beyond a reasonable doubt that the victim did not consent.

Into this squirming sack of grubby emotions steps Ms. Alison Saunders, who is apparently the Director of Public Prosecutions, so she should know better. And is it just me, or are women taking over the world? And is it just me, or do you share my dislike for the prefix ‘Ms’? It’s all to do with political correctness, or so they say, but speaking for my wife, and I suspect millions of other wives, when she agreed to marry me, convention dictated that she took my name and became Mrs. Osborne. She does not wish to be referred to as Ms. Osborne, nor does she wish to be known as my partner. It’s insulting!

Anyway, back to Ms. Saunders and her camp followers. She has decided, or rather it has been decided for her, that anybody who makes an allegation of rape must be believed, and everything possible in the trial process must be bent towards the conviction of the accused. Rape trials from now on are no longer to be prosecution led, but conviction led, and when you add into the mix that prison sentences for rape are getting longer and longer, the opportunities for a serious miscarriage of justice are self-evident. Or should that be ‘ms.carriage’?

Sarah Vine, or more properly Ms. Sarah Vine the journalist, summed up the feelings not just of red-bloodied males but also the legions of fair minded people. Like me, she deplores the so-called ‘vagenda’, the all men are rapists brigade advanced by vocal feministas like Harriet Harman and the ‘femi-fascist’ twitter mob who increasingly seem to hold sway in public policy. Predictably, Ms. Harman, and I use that form of address advisedly, replied to Ms. Vine’s comments with the usual ‘feminista’ clichés, defending Ms. Saunders for trying to ensure that victims of rape get justice. Gawd help us!

I have always found it distasteful and unattractive the suggestion that as the victim was blind drunk she therefore unable to give her consent to sex, or more to the point, she gave her consent which she would not have given had she been sober. In my book, consent is consent, blind drunk or otherwise, and regret after the event cannot make it rape as Ms. Saunders and Ms. Harman seem to be advocating. Save us from the Mssss!

I have a very simple solution which I hope you will agree is fair. If the complainant (I do not refer to her as the victim) was under the influence of alcohol or drugs, or both, when she was ‘raped’, this provides the accused with a complete defence. End of story and a victory for fairness, moderation and common sense!

Tue 20th January 2015

NSW Police acknowledge male victims of intimate partner violence

Filed under: Domestic Violence,Gender Politics,General,Law & Courts — MurrayBacon @ 8:25 am

One In Three Campaign


NSW Police today took the rare and long-overdue step of acknowledging male victims of intimate partner violence and their children with this post on their Facebook Page which is quickly going viral, with many supportive comments underneath it.

Mon 19th January 2015

Fatherhood in Victorian Times

Filed under: Gender Politics — JohnPotter @ 11:56 am

A new study concludes that Victorian men were the original hands-on father, far from their image as distant and severe.

Tue 9th December 2014

The Sexodus – Men giving up on women

Filed under: Gender Politics,General — ashish @ 1:06 am

This article is a very informative and critical analyses on why today’s males are giving up on women and how the feminist movement has played a major role in this imbalance of society.


Thu 4th December 2014

‘Active dads’ could tackle child poverty

Filed under: Child Support,Gender Politics — JohnPotter @ 7:11 pm

Murray has already drawn attention to this article on Stuff yesterday in a comment, but I think it deserves a post of it’s own. It is written by Rene Smit, who I met many years ago at the Dunedin Father & Child group. ‘Active dads’ could tackle child poverty.

Sun 2nd November 2014

Quality of the Decisions made in Preparing the Domestic Violence Act

Filed under: Domestic Violence,Gender Politics,Law & Courts,Sex Abuse / CYF — MurrayBacon @ 8:54 am

It is important to look back and see the quality of the decisions made in preparing the Domestic Violence Act.
Those who don’t know history, are forever doomed to keep repeating it…………
(Think Big, DV Act, Building Act, these alone total $100 billions of opportunity wasted and social self harm.)

The act was prepared based on off the cuff suggestions made by Sir Ron Davison, after he had reported on the Bristol murder suicide. His report was based on looking through a single familycaught$ file, but without looking at relevant medical records or taking any advice from medical people about the mental health issues involved and without taking any advice from people with criminology or sociology training. He accepted the familycaught$ file as gospel, without any checking, as is standard legal practice, certainly not sociological research practice and quite against common sense.

The largest single lesson is that legal practice does not necessarily give criminological skills. In fact where legal workers think that they are skilled criminologists, just without training, they are socially very dangerous. At no point was manipulation of the familycaught$ considered as a possibility. Such an omission sees naive and unprofessional from an experienced legal worker. The flow on effects onto all parties and in particular children, was given no thought at all.

Careful reading of the prior research shows that the NZ Domestic Violence Act was passed, quite against the lessons provided by the police arrest studies.

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