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MENZ Issues: news and discussion about New Zealand men, fathers, family law, divorce, courts, protests, gender politics, and male health.

Wed 3rd June 2015

It’s so easy to get political change? DV

Greg Andresen, of Men’s Health Australia, is a persistent and sharp political operator.

I have heard many men in NZ complain “Why doesn’t someone [else?] talk to the politicians and get everything sorted out?”.

If I have tried to explain what is required to communicate well to politicians, I have been attacked as defeatist and being too negative in seeing many challenges ahead. My critics mainly have been people who have never done more than make one telephone call, or Saturday visit to an MP. Then they complain that nothing positive happened!

I have suggested that men read How to Make Friends and Influence People, by Dale Carnegie and Dr. Brian Edwards and Judy Callingham’s book about How to Deal with Media. But these critics don’t have time to read it, they just want to jump straight in to making a submission or talking with a politician. Then they wonder why they don’t seem to have achieved anything? (Note: I am not saying they have achieved nothing, as such a judgement needs to be made over several years, not just a few days.)
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Sat 25th April 2015

Man shaming and victim blaming by Karen Woodall

Filed under: Gender Politics — MurrayBacon @ 10:48 am

Man shaming and victim blaming: an A-Z of male suicide
https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/man-shaming-victim-blaming-a-z-male-suicide-karen-woodall
Apr 14, 2015
I caught the end of the Panorama Programme on male suicide in the UK last night. Whilst I know something about the statistics around male suicide and understand some of those things which stack up against men, causing loss of hope and a spiral into despair, even I was shocked that 100 men are killing themselves every week in the UK.

100 men every week. It is the leading cause of death for men under the age of 50. It is happening in our country right now and yet, apart from the exhortation to ‘talk about it’, we have, as yet, no national strategy, no national awareness of what is happening and no real idea of what to do about it other than telling men they need to talk about it.
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Mon 9th March 2015

Hike in Child Support upsets a female

Filed under: Child Support,Gender Politics,General — ashish @ 8:33 pm

BRILLIANT!!!

However hard I try not to appear sexist, the mainstream media gives me no options.
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Fri 20th February 2015

Is the Ban on Using Force in Discipline Working?

Filed under: Boys / Youth / Education,Gender Politics,General — Ministry of Men's Affairs @ 9:32 am

The anti-smacking law (actually the anti-use-of-force-in-discipline law) was based largely on feminist ideology. The idea that male characteristics of size and strength should be allowed to be used to exert ‘power and control’ was anathema to feminists, and they projected their sense of injustice on to the matter of raising and disciplining children. State-sponsored sole parenthood often involved rejection of male influence in raising children and the anti-smacking law was an extension of this.
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Sun 15th February 2015

Systematic Discrimination Against Fathers

Filed under: Gender Politics,General,Law & Courts — Ministry of Men's Affairs @ 10:08 am

Unbelievable Duplicity Story number 73,456,864: “International tug-of-war in custody fight”. In order to pursue her own career, this mother deliberately abducted the daughter to the USA against the wishes of the girl’s father and denied the girl a meaningful relationship with the father for some years. She arranged a fake contact visit with the father to distract him from her real plan to leave the country, then took off with the child while the father waited to see his daughter. She then failed to honour agreements concerning returning the child to NZ. (more…)

Mon 9th February 2015

UK Barrister: Rape and Consent

Filed under: Gender Politics,Law & Courts,Sex Abuse / CYF — Pete @ 9:23 pm

Barrister David Osborne caused outrage with his blog She was gagging for it (the blog has been changed due to public outrage, but the original is included below) where he went as far as an wrote:

I have a very simple solution which I hope you will agree is fair. If the complainant (I do not refer to her as the victim) was under the influence of alcohol or drugs, or both, when she was ‘raped’, this provides the accused with a complete defence. End of story and a victory for fairness, moderation and common sense!

While I disagree with this particular solution, it must be seen in the context of the debate (if there ever were one). So on the one hand we have David Osborn’s “solution” and on the other the feminists who are basically demanding – so far almost unopposed – that the definition of rape should include “sexual activities with a woman who is drugged or drunk“. This solution is every bit as misandristic as Osborn’s is misogynistic. If only for the reason of bringing some balance into the debate, I applaud him for the courage to write these things.

The original blog follows:

I have been following the latest machinations over rape allegations with some interest, as they have serious consequences for all red-bloodied males who are out on the rut. For the past ten years or more, a politically driven agenda has been thrust down the throats of court users about the deplorably low percentage of rape allegations that lead to conviction, and successive governments have been enjoined to do something about it.

My considerable experience tells me that there are basically two defences to an allegation of rape: either “it wasn’t me gov”, or “she was gagging for it”. It is also correct in my own experience that most of those accused of rape are acquitted, not simply as a result of the brilliance of my advocacy, but because the jury did not believe beyond a reasonable doubt that the victim did not consent.

Into this squirming sack of grubby emotions steps Ms. Alison Saunders, who is apparently the Director of Public Prosecutions, so she should know better. And is it just me, or are women taking over the world? And is it just me, or do you share my dislike for the prefix ‘Ms’? It’s all to do with political correctness, or so they say, but speaking for my wife, and I suspect millions of other wives, when she agreed to marry me, convention dictated that she took my name and became Mrs. Osborne. She does not wish to be referred to as Ms. Osborne, nor does she wish to be known as my partner. It’s insulting!

Anyway, back to Ms. Saunders and her camp followers. She has decided, or rather it has been decided for her, that anybody who makes an allegation of rape must be believed, and everything possible in the trial process must be bent towards the conviction of the accused. Rape trials from now on are no longer to be prosecution led, but conviction led, and when you add into the mix that prison sentences for rape are getting longer and longer, the opportunities for a serious miscarriage of justice are self-evident. Or should that be ‘ms.carriage’?

Sarah Vine, or more properly Ms. Sarah Vine the journalist, summed up the feelings not just of red-bloodied males but also the legions of fair minded people. Like me, she deplores the so-called ‘vagenda’, the all men are rapists brigade advanced by vocal feministas like Harriet Harman and the ‘femi-fascist’ twitter mob who increasingly seem to hold sway in public policy. Predictably, Ms. Harman, and I use that form of address advisedly, replied to Ms. Vine’s comments with the usual ‘feminista’ clichés, defending Ms. Saunders for trying to ensure that victims of rape get justice. Gawd help us!

I have always found it distasteful and unattractive the suggestion that as the victim was blind drunk she therefore unable to give her consent to sex, or more to the point, she gave her consent which she would not have given had she been sober. In my book, consent is consent, blind drunk or otherwise, and regret after the event cannot make it rape as Ms. Saunders and Ms. Harman seem to be advocating. Save us from the Mssss!

I have a very simple solution which I hope you will agree is fair. If the complainant (I do not refer to her as the victim) was under the influence of alcohol or drugs, or both, when she was ‘raped’, this provides the accused with a complete defence. End of story and a victory for fairness, moderation and common sense!

Tue 20th January 2015

NSW Police acknowledge male victims of intimate partner violence

Filed under: Domestic Violence,Gender Politics,General,Law & Courts — MurrayBacon @ 8:25 am

One In Three Campaign

http://www.oneinthree.com.au/news/2015/1/19/nsw-police-acknowledge-male-victims-of-intimate-partner-viol.html

NSW Police today took the rare and long-overdue step of acknowledging male victims of intimate partner violence and their children with this post on their Facebook Page which is quickly going viral, with many supportive comments underneath it.
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Mon 19th January 2015

Fatherhood in Victorian Times

Filed under: Gender Politics — JohnPotter @ 11:56 am

A new study concludes that Victorian men were the original hands-on father, far from their image as distant and severe.
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Tue 9th December 2014

The Sexodus – Men giving up on women

Filed under: Gender Politics,General — ashish @ 1:06 am

This article is a very informative and critical analyses on why today’s males are giving up on women and how the feminist movement has played a major role in this imbalance of society.

http://www.breitbart.com/Breitbart-London/2014/12/04/The-Sexodus-Part-1-The-Men-Giving-Up-On-Women-And-Checking-Out-Of-Society/

Thu 4th December 2014

‘Active dads’ could tackle child poverty

Filed under: Child Support,Gender Politics — JohnPotter @ 7:11 pm

Murray has already drawn attention to this article on Stuff yesterday in a comment, but I think it deserves a post of it’s own. It is written by Rene Smit, who I met many years ago at the Dunedin Father & Child group. ‘Active dads’ could tackle child poverty.
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Sun 2nd November 2014

Quality of the Decisions made in Preparing the Domestic Violence Act

Filed under: Domestic Violence,Gender Politics,Law & Courts,Sex Abuse / CYF — MurrayBacon @ 8:54 am

It is important to look back and see the quality of the decisions made in preparing the Domestic Violence Act.
Those who don’t know history, are forever doomed to keep repeating it…………
(Think Big, DV Act, Building Act, these alone total $100 billions of opportunity wasted and social self harm.)

The act was prepared based on off the cuff suggestions made by Sir Ron Davison, after he had reported on the Bristol murder suicide. His report was based on looking through a single familycaught$ file, but without looking at relevant medical records or taking any advice from medical people about the mental health issues involved and without taking any advice from people with criminology or sociology training. He accepted the familycaught$ file as gospel, without any checking, as is standard legal practice, certainly not sociological research practice and quite against common sense.

The largest single lesson is that legal practice does not necessarily give criminological skills. In fact where legal workers think that they are skilled criminologists, just without training, they are socially very dangerous. At no point was manipulation of the familycaught$ considered as a possibility. Such an omission sees naive and unprofessional from an experienced legal worker. The flow on effects onto all parties and in particular children, was given no thought at all.

Careful reading of the prior research shows that the NZ Domestic Violence Act was passed, quite against the lessons provided by the police arrest studies.
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Sat 1st November 2014

Preparing Legislation with the same care as Drugs?

Filed under: Domestic Violence,Gender Politics,Law & Courts — MurrayBacon @ 10:58 am

Legislation should be prepared and implemented with care. This is known as “legislation quality” and although given lip service in many countries, including NZ, it is more honoured in the breach! For example Attorney General reports noting that legislation breaches basic human rights, but it is passed anyway, under urgency. Fools rush in, where angels fear to tread.

It is difficult to communicate why this is so, as most people expect legislation to work fully with desirable effects and have no adverse outcomes at all. Especially in the social sphere, it isn’t that simple. Maybe an analogy with introducing new drugs will illustrate these types of issues?

Drugs are meant to be tested for efficacy before being introduced. Then they are meant to be carefully monitored for adverse outcomes.

Similarly, the efficacy of new legislation needs to be checked before passing into law. After passing into law, it also needs to be monitored for adverse outcomes, with the same care as drugs. If this is not done, then problems that could have been stopped while they are small, progress on to be unnecessarily huge problems. Again, this concept is called “legislation quality”.

In the same way that this concept may be taken from medicine to law, disastrous examples can also be taken from medicine to law.
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Tue 21st October 2014

Who really murdered the “angel”?

Filed under: Child Support,Gender Politics,General — ashish @ 9:51 am

Cold case: Death of ‘angel’ devastates dad – National – NZ Herald News

The biggest crooks here are the IRD and everyone involved with the Child Support system.

The father in all faith would have complained to the Police, should he have had the slightest inkling of his daughter missing. But the Child Support system kept on claiming money. Coupled with the fact that the wife’s disappearance was nothing out of ordinary, there were no warning triggers that something was amiss. The father has to be applauded for taking the initiative to hire a private investigator despite being leeched by Child Support system.

The Police are quick to acknowledge the fact that a late complaint made the investigations late. They should be taking this time to review their policies of treating males as criminals, and making modifications to the system such that the Family Law is not looked upon as a threat and something to stay away from.

A woman separating from her husband and disappearing does NOT always mean that she has been abused or the man has been violent or abusive.

There are other factors that also happen, such as, the woman getting into extra-marital affairs, or the woman’s family inciting her to live less like a couple and treat the family unit more like a matriarchy. Yes, in-law influence is an unfortunate fact in many cases also.

And the biggest botch-up has been made by the previous leftist Government. Having made the solo-mum-by-choice lifestyle so lucrative through WINZ and other benefits, they have created heaps of solo mums by choice and investment children.

My thoughts are with the father. Poor guy, caught up in a culture clash from a conservative developing country and a “all rights and no responsibility” Western country. Having lost an “angel” through the crooked system at such a tender age.

There are a lot of male suicides that have happened by evil feminist-run Family Courts and Child Support system. This is not so much an issue as men usually have lived most of their lives, but the loss of a daughter at this tender age, having caught up in this mess, is too tragic.

This murder’s blood had not only tainted the hands of the two accused, but has also tainted EVERYONE that supports this messed up system setup by the feminist liberals to oppress ALL males regardless of whether they are guilty or not.

Thu 16th October 2014

Pater Invisiblis photographic exhibition

Filed under: Gender Politics — JohnPotter @ 4:26 pm

Carl Lea wrote:

I am a Photographer / Artist from Raumati, near Wellington.

I have an exhibition running that opened last weekend. “Pater Invisiblis”(invisible Father) is a photographic exhibition about my experiences as an absent father.

The exhibition is at the Bach Gallery, Waikanae Beach and only runs until 19th October.

Mon 6th October 2014

Report of a fault with this site

Filed under: Gender Politics,General — JohnPotter @ 6:38 pm

This message was recently sent to me via the contact form. I will advise Tammy to check the comments her message receives.
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Wed 17th September 2014

Who’s Lying, Who’s Self-Justifying? Origins of the He Said/She Said Gap in Sexual Allegations

Filed under: Gender Politics,Sex Abuse / CYF — JohnPotter @ 9:21 am

The Woody Allen sex scandal of 2013 triggered a national conversation on who to believe, with people lining up on each side as if they knew what really happened.

Based on recent research on how people navigate the often tricky waters of sexual negotiation, Dr. Carol Tavris shows that it is entirely possible in some sexual assault cases neither side is lying, but instead both sides feel justified in their positions.

This talk was considered one of the best ever given at The 2014 Amazing Meeting.

Sat 13th September 2014

No vote for New Zealand Prisoners

Filed under: Gender Politics,General,Law & Courts — Downunder @ 11:50 am

The subject was discussed recently in The Rights of Men (2)

Quinn’s Act passed in 2010 introduced a blanket ban removing the right of a prisoner to the vote. The law has been challenged by an Auckland Prison inmate, Arthur Taylor, as being inconsistent with our Treaty of Waitangi and our Bill of Rights.

A decision was released late yesterday NZ time by Justice Ellis as reported here by Radio New Zealand (RNZ). (more…)

Wed 10th September 2014

The right of the child to know

Many men who have visited the MENZ site will be interested in this decision which relates to birth certificates.

STUFF NEWS artice: the truth will shock boy

The complete article is quoted below: (more…)

Sat 30th August 2014

Research in Australia and New Zealand on shared parenting and related areas

Filed under: Gender Politics,Law & Courts — JohnPotter @ 9:15 am

Good Evening Everyone,

I am doing research on fathers, shared parenting, and related areas. I have been working on this area for about 25 years, mainly in Canada. I am now looking at the Global Shared Parenting movement and would like to do interviews with those in Australia and New Zealand. Please let me know if there are those you are in contact with who are interested in being interviewed.
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Tue 26th August 2014

Equality in New Zealand

Filed under: Gender Politics,General — Downunder @ 8:16 am

A Stuff Nation Assignment running at the moment – Are Women Equal in New Zealand poses questions about equality:

Maybe you think the fight for equality has gone too far the other way and it’s now men who are discriminated against in some areas…?

What do you think it would take, and what should we all be doing, for men and women to be seen as equals?

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Fri 22nd August 2014

A Feminist Party?

Filed under: Gender Politics,General — Downunder @ 9:08 am

When I saw this article the other day it confirmed my thoughts – the ones I’ve been sharing in recent posts – that we are now seeing an overt feminist political-position.

Internet-Mana is a feminist party. No I didn’t say that. They did.

Dr Pani Farvid, an Iranian-born psychologist at AUT, [The Party’s gender issues spokeswoman] proudly told a women’s election forum in Auckland last night that the Internet Party was “a feminist party”.

Any man in the party that had put his hand up for gender issues spokeswoman would have a big ‘D’ clearly visible on his forehead – it could only be a woman.

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Mon 18th August 2014

Reproductive Rights For Men

Filed under: Child Support,Gender Politics — JohnPotter @ 7:05 pm

The September 2014 issue of M2 magazine features several articles about fathers, “just in time for father’s day”.

One that is likely to be of interest to MENZ readers is by family law researcher Zoë Lawton titled “The Rights Of The Father“.
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Wed 13th August 2014

Robin Williams – A Great Men’s Advocate

Robin Williams

Yesterday the world reeled from the sudden death of Actor/Comedian Robin Williams.

Today tributes will flow, and rightfully so, from all corners of the earth, from those who knew him and worked with him, to those who respected and enjoyed his immense talent – he was a rare talent that could seize any moment, and turn it into theatre and laughter.

He will be remembered for his many roles, his ability to own the part, to make them unique likeable characters that only he could create.

But beyond this is another Robin Williams, a modern day Charlie Chaplin – both of whom are notable, not just because of their fame, but their political positions. (more…)

Mon 4th August 2014

I am going to meet with a woman politician. I dont believe she is a feminist.

Filed under: Domestic Violence,Gender Politics,General — dunnuffinwrong @ 7:33 pm

Yep I could be wrong but she seems very interested in mens rights. I dont want to sit around and wait and see what happens and create summaries when men get screwed by systemstic discrimination. If you want to sit there.. then ok, but you can still help. Can you add statistics… rephrase my questions?
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Tue 15th July 2014

The Marlborough Express – A Paper with a Backbone

Filed under: Gender Politics,Law & Courts,Sex Abuse / CYF — Mana Male @ 6:42 pm

The Marlborough Express has today released an opinion piece that reveals just what’s at stake with regards to the Labour Party’s proposed changes to the our justice system. It’s refreshing to a see a newspaper refuse to be a dead fish in a populist tide.

If you have a Stuff account, be sure to leave a comment and let the Marlborough Express know we value their commitment to reporting things for what they are;

http://www.stuff.co.nz/marlborough-express/opinion/10268063/Guilt-by-accusation

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