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Fri 27th November 2015

The Pussy Pass Remains Alive and Well

Filed under: Gender Politics,Law & Courts,Sex Abuse / CYF — Ministry of Men's Affairs @ 11:09 am

While we have more recently seen occasional examples in which female offenders were given sentences comparable to those given to males, the pussy pass is still evident in most cases.

This female manager behaved violently towards a subordinate, then repeatedly boasted about and celebrated her violent bullying on social media. She was found guilty of possessing an offensive weapon (even the minimized charge represented a pussy pass given by the prosecutor), then was DISCHARGED WITHOUT CONVICTION! because a conviction would have cramped her style in her future management career. Her name suppression was also continued and she was given an opportunity to make this permanent. No male who behaved as she did, taking all her bad behaviour into account, and expect such leniency. (more…)

Sun 25th October 2015

Media may be recognising the public mood

Filed under: General,Law & Courts,Sex Abuse / CYF — Ministry of Men's Affairs @ 5:30 pm

This editorial from the Herald on Sunday expresses criticism of Welsh police handling of an allegation against Mils Muliaina, in a rare departure from our media’s usual white knight feminist propaganda. It deserves some supportive comments we think.

Thu 15th October 2015

Trust in professionals

I have often commented about my views on the professionalism and skills of the peoples working in familycaught$. Although occasionally complimentary, most of my comments suggest that there might be room for improvement. My views are only those of a poor axe murderer, so I have little social credibility for my poor judgements.

I have just read a book about one particular medical misadventure. I was fairly shocked at the fanaticism of the central medical professional. However, what struck me on looking through the book a second time, was that the horrific outcome was only able to occur, through the weaknesses of the many other professionals involved.

In fact, I think that is the important conclusion. All of us make serious mistakes at some point in our lives. Nothing ventured, nuffink gained.

But what really affects our life outcomes, isn’t the number of mistakes made, but the quality of the process by which they are brought to our attention, the quality or how quickly we can sweep it all under the carpet, or turn around and constructively address these mistakes.

Mon 1st June 2015

False accusations of abuse in the UK

Filed under: General,Sex Abuse / CYF — JohnPotter @ 5:43 am

I spent yesterday in Cardiff, where Felicity was speaking at the annual conference of FACT – Falsely Accused Caregivers and Teachers. The United Kingdom is currently experiencing a wave of sex-abuse hysteria.

Fri 20th February 2015

Book Launch of Murder that Wasn’t – the case of George Gwaze

Filed under: Law & Courts,Sex Abuse / CYF — JohnPotter @ 10:25 am

Last night we held the official launch for Felicity Goodyear-Smith’s new book: Murder that Wasn’t – the case of George Gwaze.

Felicity Goodyear-Smith at book launch of Murder that Wasn't

Felicity Goodyear-Smith at book launch of Murder that Wasn’t – the case of George Gwaze


Mon 9th February 2015

UK Barrister: Rape and Consent

Filed under: Gender Politics,Law & Courts,Sex Abuse / CYF — Pete @ 9:23 pm

Barrister David Osborne caused outrage with his blog She was gagging for it (the blog has been changed due to public outrage, but the original is included below) where he went as far as an wrote:

I have a very simple solution which I hope you will agree is fair. If the complainant (I do not refer to her as the victim) was under the influence of alcohol or drugs, or both, when she was ‘raped’, this provides the accused with a complete defence. End of story and a victory for fairness, moderation and common sense!

While I disagree with this particular solution, it must be seen in the context of the debate (if there ever were one). So on the one hand we have David Osborn’s “solution” and on the other the feminists who are basically demanding – so far almost unopposed – that the definition of rape should include “sexual activities with a woman who is drugged or drunk“. This solution is every bit as misandristic as Osborn’s is misogynistic. If only for the reason of bringing some balance into the debate, I applaud him for the courage to write these things.

The original blog follows:

I have been following the latest machinations over rape allegations with some interest, as they have serious consequences for all red-bloodied males who are out on the rut. For the past ten years or more, a politically driven agenda has been thrust down the throats of court users about the deplorably low percentage of rape allegations that lead to conviction, and successive governments have been enjoined to do something about it.

My considerable experience tells me that there are basically two defences to an allegation of rape: either “it wasn’t me gov”, or “she was gagging for it”. It is also correct in my own experience that most of those accused of rape are acquitted, not simply as a result of the brilliance of my advocacy, but because the jury did not believe beyond a reasonable doubt that the victim did not consent.

Into this squirming sack of grubby emotions steps Ms. Alison Saunders, who is apparently the Director of Public Prosecutions, so she should know better. And is it just me, or are women taking over the world? And is it just me, or do you share my dislike for the prefix ‘Ms’? It’s all to do with political correctness, or so they say, but speaking for my wife, and I suspect millions of other wives, when she agreed to marry me, convention dictated that she took my name and became Mrs. Osborne. She does not wish to be referred to as Ms. Osborne, nor does she wish to be known as my partner. It’s insulting!

Anyway, back to Ms. Saunders and her camp followers. She has decided, or rather it has been decided for her, that anybody who makes an allegation of rape must be believed, and everything possible in the trial process must be bent towards the conviction of the accused. Rape trials from now on are no longer to be prosecution led, but conviction led, and when you add into the mix that prison sentences for rape are getting longer and longer, the opportunities for a serious miscarriage of justice are self-evident. Or should that be ‘ms.carriage’?

Sarah Vine, or more properly Ms. Sarah Vine the journalist, summed up the feelings not just of red-bloodied males but also the legions of fair minded people. Like me, she deplores the so-called ‘vagenda’, the all men are rapists brigade advanced by vocal feministas like Harriet Harman and the ‘femi-fascist’ twitter mob who increasingly seem to hold sway in public policy. Predictably, Ms. Harman, and I use that form of address advisedly, replied to Ms. Vine’s comments with the usual ‘feminista’ clichés, defending Ms. Saunders for trying to ensure that victims of rape get justice. Gawd help us!

I have always found it distasteful and unattractive the suggestion that as the victim was blind drunk she therefore unable to give her consent to sex, or more to the point, she gave her consent which she would not have given had she been sober. In my book, consent is consent, blind drunk or otherwise, and regret after the event cannot make it rape as Ms. Saunders and Ms. Harman seem to be advocating. Save us from the Mssss!

I have a very simple solution which I hope you will agree is fair. If the complainant (I do not refer to her as the victim) was under the influence of alcohol or drugs, or both, when she was ‘raped’, this provides the accused with a complete defence. End of story and a victory for fairness, moderation and common sense!

Wed 4th February 2015

George Gwaze murder case – Radio NZ Interview

Filed under: Law & Courts,Sex Abuse / CYF — JohnPotter @ 1:22 pm

Felicity Goodyear-Smith was interviewed by Kathryn Ryan on National Radio’s programme Nine to Noon this morning about her new book Murder that wasn’t – the case of George Gwaze.

Listen here:
Miscarriage of justice – the George Gwaze murder case

GP and forensic physician, Professor Felicity Goodyear-Smith, on her fresh investigation of the George Gwaze murder case – and why she says the crown got it wrong.

Order Murder that Wasn’t here:


Tue 27th January 2015

New book: Murder that wasn’t

Filed under: Law & Courts,Sex Abuse / CYF — JohnPotter @ 8:19 am

George Gwaze made legal history in NZ when he was tried for murder a second time on the same evidence, after the Supreme Court ruled that double jeopardy does not apply until all appeals have been exhausted. Both juries acquitted him.

A DSAC doctor wrongly concluded that Gwaze’s niece Charlene was analy raped then suffocated, and this misguided medical opinion coloured the subsequent police investigation and media reporting.

A new book by Felicity Goodyear-Smith titled ‘Murder that wasn’t – the case of George Gwaze‘ outlines the medical evidence that Charlene died of the HIV infection which killed her mother.

Wed 5th November 2014

Rape reform advocate & professor gets $701,500 to explore barriers to reform

Filed under: Sex Abuse / CYF — Lukenz @ 11:50 am

Criminologist Jan Jordan author of “The word of a woman” has just been awarded $610,000 + GST to explore barriers to rape reform.

Sun 2nd November 2014

Quality of the Decisions made in Preparing the Domestic Violence Act

Filed under: Domestic Violence,Gender Politics,Law & Courts,Sex Abuse / CYF — MurrayBacon @ 8:54 am

It is important to look back and see the quality of the decisions made in preparing the Domestic Violence Act.
Those who don’t know history, are forever doomed to keep repeating it…………
(Think Big, DV Act, Building Act, these alone total $100 billions of opportunity wasted and social self harm.)

The act was prepared based on off the cuff suggestions made by Sir Ron Davison, after he had reported on the Bristol murder suicide. His report was based on looking through a single familycaught$ file, but without looking at relevant medical records or taking any advice from medical people about the mental health issues involved and without taking any advice from people with criminology or sociology training. He accepted the familycaught$ file as gospel, without any checking, as is standard legal practice, certainly not sociological research practice and quite against common sense.

The largest single lesson is that legal practice does not necessarily give criminological skills. In fact where legal workers think that they are skilled criminologists, just without training, they are socially very dangerous. At no point was manipulation of the familycaught$ considered as a possibility. Such an omission sees naive and unprofessional from an experienced legal worker. The flow on effects onto all parties and in particular children, was given no thought at all.

Careful reading of the prior research shows that the NZ Domestic Violence Act was passed, quite against the lessons provided by the police arrest studies.

Thu 16th October 2014

Call to people caring for families involved with CYFS

Perhaps the main highlight of this website ‘MENZ’, for me, was the connection to men caring about families dealing with Child, Youth and Family Services aka CYFS.

Wed 17th September 2014

Who’s Lying, Who’s Self-Justifying? Origins of the He Said/She Said Gap in Sexual Allegations

Filed under: Gender Politics,Sex Abuse / CYF — JohnPotter @ 9:21 am

The Woody Allen sex scandal of 2013 triggered a national conversation on who to believe, with people lining up on each side as if they knew what really happened.

Based on recent research on how people navigate the often tricky waters of sexual negotiation, Dr. Carol Tavris shows that it is entirely possible in some sexual assault cases neither side is lying, but instead both sides feel justified in their positions.

This talk was considered one of the best ever given at The 2014 Amazing Meeting.

Mon 25th August 2014

Police abuse ‘No smacking law”

Filed under: General,Law & Courts,Sex Abuse / CYF — Julie @ 9:38 am

You see someone doing something excellent for people and then you see them hurting people ….. which matters to you?

Tue 15th July 2014

The Marlborough Express – A Paper with a Backbone

Filed under: Gender Politics,Law & Courts,Sex Abuse / CYF — Mana Male @ 6:42 pm

The Marlborough Express has today released an opinion piece that reveals just what’s at stake with regards to the Labour Party’s proposed changes to the our justice system. It’s refreshing to a see a newspaper refuse to be a dead fish in a populist tide.

If you have a Stuff account, be sure to leave a comment and let the Marlborough Express know we value their commitment to reporting things for what they are;


Sat 5th July 2014

Rolf Harris Assassination By Long Prison Sentence Seen As Obligation

Filed under: Law & Courts,Sex Abuse / CYF — Lukenz @ 12:57 pm

This site has strangely been silent over the fate of Mr Harris.

Even if Rolf has taken advantage of girls under the age of consent, is 5 years and 9 months a fair and right sentence for an 86 year old man and his 20 to 50 year old historical crime?

Sat 31st May 2014

Child Neglect – The Bomb in the Brain

As a country, NZ does need to address the protection of several hundreds of thousands of children. Their happiness is seriously being disadvantaged, their ability to manage and organise their lives is compromised and their ability to take up education is being wasted by missing the opportunity to have a proper developing upbringing.

Mon 26th May 2014

Quality of Care Standard for Children

Filed under: Domestic Violence,General,Law & Courts,Sex Abuse / CYF — MurrayBacon @ 5:05 pm

Although children in NZ are “protected”, it isn’t to any specified Quality of Care.

On the basis that no real duty of care is required for children, the NZ Government slipped off the hook for any accountability at all!

Other posts show how the Government is substantially failing to protect workers from serious hazards in the workplace (or in the marital relationship too), this post unfortunately illustrates that children are the most dangerously unprotected of all.

For all of the great marketing performance of NZ Government, Clean Green and A great Place to Bring Up Children, the realities in NZ are as dangerous as in any other banana republic.

It is important to note and respect that Judith Collins acted for the child, now adult Prince.

For NZ to move forward into realistic protection of children, it is necessary that minimum standards of care for children be clearly specified.
This will naturally lead to a specification of the skills and resources required by parents (singly or as a couple), for children of various ages.

Sun 25th May 2014

Fighting Corruption overt and covert

Playlist: Depths of corruption

10 talks · 2h 22m · Curated by TED

Corruption manifests itself in many ways, some subtler than others. From anonymous companies to bribes to unjust electoral systems, these talks take you deep into ethically murky territory … and offer bold ideas on what we can do about it.

Thu 8th May 2014

CYF caregiver found guilty

Filed under: Sex Abuse / CYF — Bruce S @ 7:56 pm

CYFS demonstrates, yet again, their complete and utter incompetence by placing kids in the care of a rapist! When will the New Zealand public demand the dissolution of this gaggle of amateurs? I fail to understand how anyone with one ounce of compassion can see how CYFS benefits our children and our community. If the judgement of CYFS is so impaired that they cannot identify safe homes for the children CYFS have “adjudged” need care; then should we not be questioning their competence to adjudicate the removal of children from their parents in the first place?

As usual; CYFS go through their hand wringing ritual and hollow apology routine; but they’ll just carry on as usual; no consequences so a free license to just do it all over again! Disgusting!

As reported in Stuff today (8 May 2014)

A Northland Child Youth and Family caregiver has been found guilty of sexual and physical assaults against children in his care.

In the High Court in Whangarei today, the jury returned 21 guilty verdicts and 2 not guilty verdicts against Taite Hemi Kupa, 57. They deliberated for two days. Guilty verdicts on three counts of rape, one of attempted rape, six charges of unlawful sexual violation by sexual connection, and one sexual violation were by majority verdict, 11 to one. Ten guilty verdicts on charges of assault were unanimous.

Kupa was found not guilty on two counts of sexual violation. The assaults were against six different children in his care all aged under 15, and the rape and sexual assault were against two girls under 15.

Kupa was remanded in custody until sentencing in June.

The jury was shown video recordings of interviews with the two female victims who suffered sexual abuse. One girl told of Kupa doing “sexual things” to her and him telling her never to tell anyone. One night when she was half asleep Kupa entered her bedroom and raped her, she said in the interview. “He told us not to tell anyone. It stressed me out, I didn’t know what to do,” she said. Kupa would kick the children in the bottom, pinch their ears and stand them against a wall forcing the other children to hit them, as discipline the court heard. When one child misbehaved at night he sprayed her and her bed with a hose.

He would discipline children by withholding food, feeding them grass sandwiches and serving them plates of stones.
In her video interview the second girl said she had been hit lightly with a broom by Kupa. “He said I wasn’t allowed to tell anyone what happened here and I’ve been keeping that promise ever since. This is the first time I have told anyone,” she said in the interview from February 2013.

Conservative lobby group, Family First, said the verdict revealed systemic issues in CYF and called for an inquiry into its policies and procedures. “There is obviously some huge flaws in the vetting system of caregivers, and in the level and frequency of care and communication between social workers and children in care,” national director, Bob McCoskrie, said.

Child Youth and Family expressed their sorrow and promised ongoing support for the children and their families. “We are devastated this abuse happened to children and young people in our care,” Marion Heeney, Child, Youth and Family Regional Director, Te Tai Tokerau said

“It’s our hope that the verdict will bring some closure at least to the victims of Mr Kupa’s crimes.”

Wed 7th May 2014

Ideology and Dysfunction in Family Law canada by Grant Brown

By Grant A. Brown | May 6, 2014 For several decades now, fathers have faced significant, widespread bias in family courts across Canada. But as author Grant Brown shows in this free e-book, many of the popular prejudices behind this bias simply have no basis in law or fact. In Ideology And Dysfunction In Family Law – How Courts Disenfranchise Fathers, Brown shows us why dads are getting such a raw deal – and what can be done about it.

Download Now Epub PDF

Legislation and Policy Changes for this Election?

Filed under: Child Support,Domestic Violence,General,Law & Courts,Sex Abuse / CYF — MurrayBacon @ 8:13 am

Work Required to Change to Open Marketplace for Parenting Plan Certification Services

Below is a list of areas of legislation needing to be changed. This has been taken from my Submission to Review of Family Court.
Please add points left out into comments.
Where suggestions I have made are unrealistic or unfair to women or childless persons, please make appropriate comments.
If you wish to make suggestions or discussions confidentially, please contact me privately.
This list is presently only aimed at familycaught$ and child protection. We need to consider men’s physical and mental health too.

Tue 6th May 2014

womens election agenda march 2014 final.pdf

A 100-point Women’s Election Agenda Aotearoa 2014 has been released, calling for action on violence against women and many other issues.
I don’t think there is a page in it, that wouldn’t breach the Human Rights Act, but for the Government exception. mcb.

womens election agenda march 2014 final.pdf
The link above was hurriedly password protected and later closed down completely.
Just read the text version presented below in the comments.

Wed 9th April 2014

Prosecution Quality versus Corruption and Incompetence

Filed under: Domestic Violence,Gender Politics,Law & Courts,Sex Abuse / CYF — MurrayBacon @ 11:13 am

Here is an article about a Washington State policeman, who was framed by his supervisor (who was also having an affair with his wife).

Clyde Ray Spencer article from National Parent’s Organisation website
Clyde Ray Spencer article from Glenn Sacks website

Washington State’s Wrongfully Convicted article from Seattle News about the investigating detective who found the evidence to exonerate Clyde Ray Spencer. There must be many cases which should be resolved, but where the evidence cannot be found 2 or 3 decades afterwards.

The cruellest point made in these articles, is that in almost every single one of these cases where exoneration has been the outcome, the perjurors have never been prosecuted or disciplined in any way.

This is a close echo of false complainants extremely rarely being prosecuted.

The other common thread, is prosecution not honouring the accused’s right to discovery of all information held by the prosecution, in particular information which might support a conclusion of innocence.

Fri 4th April 2014

UK proposing new offence – emotional cruelty to children

Filed under: Domestic Violence,Sex Abuse / CYF — JohnPotter @ 10:08 am

Erin Pizzey is concerned that British families are under threat as never before from the Nanny State.

A proposed new law would introduce the new offence of ’emotional cruelty to children’. Parents judged to be unloving, though not physically abusive, could face jail. The evidence could rest partly on the testimony of the children.

Thu 3rd April 2014

Women research sexual coercion of men

This story was brought to us by Family First:

Posted by Editor on Monday, March 31, 2014
FoxNews 27 March 2014
A huge proportion of young men say they have ended up submitting to unwanted sexual advances—and 95% of the time, a female they knew was the aggressor, according to new research.

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