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Pathways through Parental Separation

Last week Scrap made a post about the recent Families Commission funded study on non-resident fathers.

If you missed it, here is the Media Release from Families Commission

You can download the report Pathways through Parental Separation here [PDF, 557K]

Since then, there have been a couple of mentions in the media, and author Phil Chapman has been interviewed twice on Radio NZ.

Separation Painful for Fathers
Tuesday, 21 July 2009, 2:01 pm
Press Release: Relationship Services

“We agree that there is a need for support or coaching for parents who are going through a separation. It can make a big difference to their lives, and to their children,” said [Cary Hayward, National Practice Manager of Relationship Services].

The fathers in the report also believed that the counselling process seemed to suit women more. “This is something which, as counsellors, we need to be aware of.”

“It’s important that men find a counsellor they are comfortable with, that they can talk with”, said Mr Hayward. “Often men will find it easier to talk to a male counsellor.” A quarter of Relationship Services counsellors are men.

Stuff: ‘Isolated’ fathers need community support

Researchers David Mitchell and Philip Chapman said focus groups revealed men were unprepared for the separation process and their inability to find the right support when they most needed it.

The study contradicted many service providers’ view that they were present for all family members, Mr Chapman said.

“That contradiction needs to be urgently addressed,” he said.

Radio New Zealand: Divorced dads
Wednesday, 22 July 2009.

Fathers going through relationship break-ups are not getting the same support as mothers, according to the latest report by the Families Commission.

Download Divorced Dads interview here [9.33 mins 3.28 MB]

Radio NZ Nine to Noon interview with Philip Chapman, Cary Hayward and Donald Pettitt
Monday 27th July

Are separated Dads getting the help they need for the grief and frustration they go through?
Cary Hayward, National Practice Manager of Relationship Services; Philip Chapman, Researcher; and Donald Pettitt, separated dad who formed Canterbury Mens Centre.

Download Nine to Noon interview with Philip Chapman here [15.19 mins 5.3 MB]