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Triple P Parenting or PET

Parenting training is often seen as an insult.

This is unfortunate, as parenting skills are vitally important to the welfare of our children. Good parenting skills would also help negotiating skills, which alas may also be useful in making the best from being forced to separate. Parenting skills help with negotiating, which can also help in being a good employee.

Smaller families make it much more difficult for children to have a substantial amount of experience in caring for younger children. This is an important element in developing parenting skills. More importantly, it can help our children to make better informed decisions about when (or even if) they want to have children.

When parents have good skills, then parenting is less like hard work and much more enjoyable, for child and parent alike.
Parenting training is seen as an insult, only by the people who would benefit the most and their children would benefit the most too.
When parents separate, if anything they will need a higher level of parenting skills than ever before, if they don’t want to disadvantage their children by their separation decision.

NZ familycaught$ favours Triple P Parenting. Courses for Parents Auckland

I have found it very hard to find out exactly what Triple P Parenting is about. The little material that I have been able to access, has seemed to encourage parents to act authoritatively, to their children. There is a place for this, but the familycaught$ often (even usually?) depowers parents, in their dealings with their children. Is the familycaught$ deliberately setting up parents to “fail”, so that they can reap financial$ rewards?

In my own looking around, I have preferred the Parent Effectiveness Training system of Dr. Thomas Gordon. He emphasises negotiation, rather than power dynamics. This is practical, sustainable, ethical and sensible for “together” parenting. He emphasises that before parents can use their coercive powers on children, they must negotiate respectfully with each other and know where they stand with each other. My only complaint is about the USA accents…..

In particular, for “separated” parenting, where the non-custodial parent is generally quite depowered, the PET approach is about all that can sensibly be used.

Family First have recently highlighted some Australian criticisms of Triple P Parenting:

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Can anyone provide further information about the good and bad sides of Triple P Parenting?

Why did the familycaught$ decide to support Triple P Parenting?
Does anyone agree with me, that PET is a more appropriate set of training than Triple P Parenting?

Best regards, MurrayBacon – axe murderer.