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Tones of Fathers Day

Recollections of Father’s Day from older men might be a curiosity to younger readers.

For me, being the youngest in the Family, I recall the annual presentation of a white porcelain tea cup with pictures of old cars – we’re talking Model T Fords and Chrysler convertibles, just to be clear, not old bombs.

The modern perception of this annual religious fervour might have us as a bunch of tosspots following in some Old English custom. But it suited a man who didn’t like a lot of fuss, added to his valued collection, and reminded him daily his children had paid their annual respects in person.

Jump forward to 2017 and I am having a different discussion about Father’s Day.

What happened for you on the day?

Some men, although they are aware they have children, have never experienced personal contact on the day. Others experience some form of social media contact that expresses some acknowledgement of the day.

Where possible I asked men in this position to read their messages to me. I’m struck by two thoughts in this process as I listen.

First is, I’ve grown up now, a father is something you had back when.

What I am hearing is an acknowledgement of an historic personality present during the years a father was required.

Second is, it, Fathers’ Day. This does not require any input from us. This is the your day to go and do what you want. Have a happy day.

They remembered and recognised the day on the calender much as you might a Facebook birthday of a friend, rather than a date on the calender that required some action or personal participation.

I am seeing a very different perception and understanding of Father’s Day in the younger social media generation. I’m wondering if others have noticed anything along these lines?

Also, I am curious as to whether the same thing is happening with Mother’s Day?