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Key steps to take to reduce anxiety, worry, unease and nervousness during reunification of child victims who have been subject to relentless parental alienation for years.
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After some 40 years there is increased recognition of parental alienation.
Although this is a gender neutral conversation if you watched the video you no doubt visualised a man walking along the beach with his child rather than woman.
Sadly what we see here is that men have no feelings and if they do those feelings can be ignored and their reality is invisible.
If the alienating parent is still hard at work, then the child is still being affected. The featured situation only works were those people talking can in some way intervene.
What is not considered here is that the children even by the time they are adults don’t understand their own alienation.
This doesn’t take into account fathers who don’t want to see their children hurt in this way or don’t want to participate in allowing that to happen.
What also isn’t recognised here is second generation or grandchildren alienation.
Even when fathers do get custody and a mother doesn’t have access in some difficult cases it only takes a Facebook conversation to destroy years of good parenting.
Essentially what we are seeing here is not a conversation about alienation it is a conversation about repairing the damage done by court intervention after a mother’s unfounded allegation being hailed as a professional solution to parental alienation.
It would be understandable if many fathers saw this as a Tuis Add for parental alienation.
Comment by Busby — Wed 16th April 2025 @ 2:32 pm
An ongoing destruction of family network that in many circumstances is designed to automatically include unborn victims into this tangle web of deceit.
Fraudulent behaviour from cash and property desperate women who market their horrific agenda pretending to be a casualty and ongoing sufferer of violence.
The presenter in the video clip advocates the supervisors rather than a judge should be the authority who decides when normal contact commences. The best you will get here is likely to be “take into consideration.”
The core issue is the legislator does not specifically identify parental alienation as violent. I am doubtful that will ever change while the obsolete ministry for women exists. Obsolete due to the statistic fact women are higher educated in vastly greater numbers than men. Indisputably in absolute dominance in education, medical and government employees.
What needs to happen is someone in government must legislate change of care against those who wish the destruction of child/parent relationships.
Comment by Lukenz — Thu 17th April 2025 @ 4:59 am
https://www.auckland.ac.nz/en/news/2025/01/15/uk-s-challenge-to-parental-alienation–a-lesson-for-nz-courts.html
Parental Alienation has become a topic of discussion at Auckland University:
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According to the theory behind parental alienation, children who reject a relationship with, or express fear of, one parent have likely been brainwashed by their other parent into doing so.
This alienation is allegedly perpetrated almost entirely by women (more than 90 percent of parents accused of alienating their children are mothers), and its male “victims” are disproportionately white and almost entirely higher socioeconomic status.
The council’s recommendations aim to reshape how courts address these fraught cases, offering a sharp contrast to practices in Aotearoa New Zealand.
Comment by Busby — Thu 17th April 2025 @ 10:23 am
In another post, alienation is 90% for child support payers.
If you get child support, you get more if they see the kids less.
It’s amazing what humans will do, if money is involved.
Then there is a whole industry, that needs allegations or conflict.
If you teach a child they are a victim, will they think they are one.
While we look at men as victims, look at what’s done to children.
Parental separation is no joke, it’s a crime against humanity.
Children banned from seeing parents, predominantly the father.
Was it on the balance of probabilities, or beyond reasonable doubt.
The alienator says things happened, the victim says it’s nonsense.
If that’s all the evidence there is, why so many alienated parents.
There is no punishment for lies, no punishment for a false witness.
Comment by DJ Ward — Fri 18th April 2025 @ 11:41 am
There is the reality of parental alienation and then there is the academic discussion.
The link I posted above from 2025 has a copy and past from this 2023 link also from the Auckland University discussion
I say discussion but it is more like another campaign.
https://www.auckland.ac.nz/en/news/2023/11/15/the-pseudoscience-of–parental-alienation-syndrome–.html
The tactic being used is adequately exposed by this quote.
arental alienation is not officially recognized as a clinical diagnosis in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5). However, it’s understood as a form of child psychological abuse, a phenomenon where one parent actively undermines or manipulates a child to reject the other parent. Clinicians often assess for signs and symptoms of parental alienation, particularly when a child exhibits strong rejection or hostility toward one parent without a reasonable justification.,”
What lawyers don’t like about the parental alienation argument is that the child is subject to a transfer of purpose which essentially means the mother is entitled to do what she likes with her property.
The father is excluded from the property of the child but the mother is entitled to the property of the father which is more likely in higher socioeconomic situations.
I’m not familiar with the current situation but it would appear that radical academics are frustrated that the New Courts have made some progress in the early intervention of cases with child alienation and that is frustrating some feminist organisations who expect arbitrary outcomes for women.
Comment by Busby — Fri 18th April 2025 @ 1:13 pm
That should be …
copy and paste
[“P]arental alienation
New Zealand courts
Comment by Busby — Fri 18th April 2025 @ 1:25 pm
The Universities are the seedbed of most bad ideas, rampant with leftist fools, God help us all if our policy makers are lead by these clowns
Comment by Jim — Sat 19th April 2025 @ 1:05 am
No doubt the Family Court experience is as traumatic for some families as it has ever been.
From past experience we know the level of suppression that occurred 20 years ago.
Rather than that occurring again one would hope that the number of difficult cases are better managed.
This legislation is not something I’m familiar with but could possibly be having a positive affect.
Quote:
Children’s Act 2014
The purpose of this Act is to:
– require the Government to adopt, publish, and review a strategy for improving the well-being of children
– ensure that children’s agencies work together to improve the well-being of particular groups of children
– require child protection policies to be adopted and reported on by prescribed State services and DHBs boards, school boards, and certain people with whom those services or boards enter into contracts or funding arrangements
– reduce the risk of harm to children by requiring people employed or engaged in work that involves regular or overnight contact with children to be safety checked.”
Another thought is the social changes around marriage and the different circumstances – we’ll probably never know.
Comment by Busby — Sat 19th April 2025 @ 9:24 am
@7 Agree Jim, we’ve seen some manufacturered garbage from universities to support feminist legislation.
Interesting that the Herald has a family court section.
https://www.nzherald.co.nz/topic/family-court/
Comment by Busby — Sat 19th April 2025 @ 9:32 am