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Gary makes some intersting points in relation to Child Support and speaks of men he knows who could not afford to pay child support who have left the country.
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The show sounds so familiar. A person earns money, pays child support and then is not able to support themselves.
Comment by phillip — Fri 1st August 2008 @ 11:04 am
Yes Phillip.
I pay my ex $441 a month. I care for my 11 year old boy much more then 50% of the time as well. I buy him clothes, give him pocket money, but I am forced to pay for his casual and school clothing while he is my care.
On top of that I am forced to pay the more expensive items, such as new bike and a necessary cellphone. I take time off work over school holidays to prevent him going into child care.
Yeah, the total cost so far this year to me has been prohibitive. I am not saving for my own future, and I should be saving for my sons future…his education.
It totally sucks that my ex wife works, lives with a high income earner, that they have a lovely home with sky TV, she has a new car, she smokes, they go out for expensive meals, plan overseas trips and so on.
And yet…my boy prefers to stay with me at every occassion.
I just dont get it …he stays with me more than half the time, and I pay most of his expenses, yet I still have to give my ex $100 a week.
Its like I have to pay a fee to enable my son and I to see each other.
Comment by Morris — Sat 2nd August 2008 @ 5:37 pm
Morris,
it looks like my future too, will be one of poverty.
Comment by phillip — Sun 3rd August 2008 @ 11:21 am
why haven’t you applied for a admin review, it’s a numbers game, if you can prove you have the child 50% of the time legally they are required to adjust what you pay to that, the IRD have a formula that they must take into account
Comment by Karen — Tue 5th August 2008 @ 1:25 am
Karen, I definitely care for my son well over the 50% margin – more like 60%, however the IRD have already adjusted the CS cos of the shared Care. I am a high income earner, so its all based on my Income rather than the needs of the Child.
I am however informed by IRD that if my ex does not care for my boy more than 43% of the time, she will lose her CS, and instead have to pay me. She exploits this situation to great advantage knowing that I fall short by about 12 days annually.
Tomorrow is D day. Ex & I meet together with our sons Court Appointed Lawyer.
The unsigned deal is that I will care for my son a 50/50 basis, based on a 8 day week. He will have the right to otherwise stay with me on any occassion if he feels the need or is in more strife when in his mothers care – her partner is abusive. I will additionally care for him during each school holiday term.
I will agree to cover all of my sons educational costs and his clothing costs. I will also bank a minimum $200 a month for 8 years into an account toward his UNI education, an account which will be monitored by my ex. (and untouchable)
Ex now agrees to reliquish her right to Child Support in favour of this Agreement.
What do you think? I would value some input here.
Comment by Morris — Fri 8th August 2008 @ 1:03 am