I was 21 and had been living in the UK for a couple of years when I got a letter from my father in Australia. He was writing to tell me that he was very happy and that he would soon marry a local woman who he had known for a just few months. They […]
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Ideas from the Fathering Forum 2006 [Authors name not included, due to possible privacy issues.] This document was salient in 2006. In the years that have gone by, I believe that it is just as salient today. I guess some progress has been made in some areas, but nothing like what should have been. In […]
A rock music training day for teenagers of all genders except heterosexual males. Is this ok? Isn’t gender discrimination unlawful? Radio NZ (which should change its name to Feminist Radio) states the following:
Hi, my name is Sebastian Nunez and I’m a Psychology Honours student at AUT. As part of my dissertation, I am exploring the perspectives of stepfathers on building positive relationships with their stepsons (with the help of my supervisors Rhoda Scherman and Warwick Pudney). As a stepson myself, I found the information on the topic […]
Media have given publicity to a NZ Family Violence Clearinghouse paper recently prepared by Dr Melane Beres called “Preventing adolescent relationship abuse and promoting healthy relationships”. The paper is an opinion piece citing various research papers of varying quality in support. This may have been lost on journalists who attributed various statistics to the ‘report’s […]
OK here’s an ambiguous one thanks to the shit legislation. My child will be 18 in a few months and has yet to graduate from high school. She’s a very bright kid but unfortunately her mother has deliberately held her back and she would have graduated by now if it wasn’t for her mother’s own […]
Not sure how much use this is to you weaklings who read menz.org.nz? Is this meeting going to hit any useful spots, or is it just more irrelevancy? I wonder what the value for money is? (Sorry for my irreverency.) Raising Fathers To Save Our Children!
For those who are lucky enough to have their children this weekend, or any who seek comeraderie in positive activities for families… Father and Child and Family Start Manukau offer free fishing on Sat. off the old Mangere bridge 10am – 2pm – free bait and a few free lines.. Plus Fathers’ Day BBQ / […]
Female teacher sex with pupil The most telling piece in the whole article The woman, whom the Otago Daily Times has decided not to name, could not be reached yesterday. I wonder if the ODT’s stance would have been the same if it was a male teacher with a student.
I was listening to a group of people talking about the difficulties to obtain support for a charity, that gives them support. I had heard similar discussions on several occasions, over several months. After hearing the same type of conversation for the 4th time, it really hit me how harsh their situation was and how […]
He will arrive on Thursday 15th October and expects to be in NZ for about one week. I am doing research on fathers, shared/continued parenting, as well as related areas. I have been working in this area for about 26 years, mainly in Canada, the UK, and US. I am now looking at the Global […]
1. Michael Murray sentenced to life for murder of Connor Morris It’s difficult to imagine anything more provocative than seeing a P-addled gang member bashing the shit out of your brother with the real possibility of death or permanent brain damage. That doesn’t mean it’s ok to have a slasher with you and to swing […]
The anti-smacking law (actually the anti-use-of-force-in-discipline law) was based largely on feminist ideology. The idea that male characteristics of size and strength should be allowed to be used to exert ‘power and control’ was anathema to feminists, and they projected their sense of injustice on to the matter of raising and disciplining children. State-sponsored sole […]
NZCER was contracted by the Association of Boys’ Schools of New Zealand (ABSNZ) to undertake an analysis of student achievement in New Zealand boys’ schools, and to identify approaches and strategies used by high-achieving boys’ schools. In 2012, 28 percent of boys leaving school came from boys’ schools: a total of 7,439 students, increased somewhat […]
Perhaps the main highlight of this website “MENZ’, for me, was the connection to men caring about families dealing with Child, Youth and Family Services aka CYFS.
My 15 year old daughter was taken to Canada by her mother a few months ago. The Courts allowed this because they allow mothers to do most things don’t they, but I don’t know where she is now.
Chief Coroner Judge Neil MacLean today released the provisional annual suicide figures for the year ending 30 June 2014. The total for the year was 529, which is the lowest number by two since the annual coronial figures were first produced for the 2007/08 year. There were 12 fewer suicides compared to last year, and […]
Yesterday the world reeled from the sudden death of Actor/Comedian Robin Williams. Today tributes will flow, and rightfully so, from all corners of the earth, from those who knew him and worked with him, to those who respected and enjoyed his immense talent – he was a rare talent that could seize any moment, and […]
4 Objects See: www.legislation.co.nz “¢ The objects of this Act are- o (a)to affirm the right of children to be maintained by their parents: o (b)to affirm the obligation of parents to maintain their children: o (c)to affirm the right of caregivers of children to receive financial support in respect of those children from non-custodial […]
As a country, NZ does need to address the protection of several hundreds of thousands of children. Their happiness is seriously being disadvantaged, their ability to manage and organise their lives is compromised and their ability to take up education is being wasted by missing the opportunity to have a proper developing upbringing.
Budget 2014 The Government has fairly successfully managed the costs and social upheaval associated with Christchurch Earthquake. The budget has addressed large tax cuts to the top end of earners and generally not addressed tax evasion, particularly by corporations and wealthy individuals. These problems pervade the western world, as a result of ownership of political […]
Recently, Downunder was discussing whether menz.org.nz had any persuasive power at all. Other people had suggested that it is a waste of time, as nothing ever comes out of these discussions (they were taking an unrealistic short term, focus). Downunder suggested that apart from the people taking part in the discussions, many other people kept […]
Every now and then, it is necessary to push aside all of the distractions and make sure that the main energy is focussed onto the most important issues. It is necessary to identify actions that should have been taken place but didn’t, as much as the actions that did take place. But what are they?