Avoiding ex-parte Protection Orders
If you think there is a possibility your partner may apply for a protection order as a tactic to separate you from your children, send the following letter to the Family Court (more details below).
(Local court name) Family Court
Your telephone number
I have reason to believe that a protection order will be taken out by my wife/partner, (her name) against myself. There are no grounds for this order. I have never been violent or abusive during our relationship.
There is no necessity for an ex parte order and I wish to appear if any application is made.
“Ex parte order” means a protection order being given without you being present and able to put your side of the story forward.
Copy this letter, add your own details and print with extra-wide margins.
Take it to the Registrar of the Family Court nearest to where your partner is living. It is a good idea to take it to other Family Courts in the area because this letter will only work at the court at which it has been presented.
When delivering the letter to the court, have them photocopy and stamp it so that you have a record of the letter having been delivered.
I know this has worked in the past for several men. However, I have recently received feedback that the Auckland Central Family Court refused to accept a letter following this model.
It is important to note that this is not an official document, and Courts are not required to accept it. You will need to be courteous and polite. Make it clear that all you are asking for is to be allowed to tell your side of the story before a Protection Order is issued.
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