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The Consequence of Father Removal

Filed under: General — Ministry of Men's Affairs @ 2:49 pm Fri 13th September 2013

“Of course she loved the child”, and that’s why she tried to deprive her daughter of the father’s love and protection. And now “I’ve lost everything”. Poor thing.

Actually, it’s unusual for a woman to be held accountable for failing to stop someone else from offending. Unlike the case for men who are still legally held to blame for their female partners’ offending. (This is being further entrenched by another anti-male initiative from the jonkey government, making partners financially liable for their partners’ benefit fraud.)

And it may well be somewhat unjust for Ms Warrick-Deaves to be given much culpability for whoever (presumably her new boyfriend or girlfriend) actually murdered the child. After all, child protection agencies have long spread anti-male propaganda and treated fathers’ concerns with contempt. They don’t inform the public, and they probably try to deny, that children are many times safer in households including their biological fathers. They have promoted the idea that women and children are generally victims of men’s malevolence and that children are safer with women. These messages will have encouraged a sense of self-justification and self-entitlement in Ms Warrick-Deaves that led to this tragedy. Those agencies and the misandrist zealots employed by them should be in the stand. We can’t expect child-protection agencies always to make the right call and it’s important to support them in taking some risks for the greater good even though that will result in a few tragedies. But when their error arises from adherence to faulty ideology and a habit of gender discrimination, that’s when they need to be held accountable for the results.

Sydney mum says she loved her dead child
AAPSeptember 13, 2013, 12:23 pm
http://nz.news.yahoo.com/a/-/world/18907649/sydney-mum-says-she-loved-her-dead-child/
A mother who let her two-year-old daughter die has told a Sydney court “of course” she loved the child.
Donna Deaves, whose two-year-old daughter, Tanilla Warrick-Deaves, died from a number of injuries in August 2011, told the Supreme Court in Sydney on Thursday she was sorry for her daughter’s death.
“Of course I’m sorry,” Deaves, who seemed belligerent at times during her sentence hearing, said.
“I’ve lost everything.”
Deaves has pleaded guilty to the manslaughter of her daughter on the grounds of criminal negligence.
A co-accused, who can’t be named for legal reasons, will stand trial for murder at a later date.
Tanilla’s father, Adrian Warrick, told the court that because his daughter could no longer speak for herself, he would do it for her.
“I am her voice,” Mr Warrick told the packed court room in a choked voice.
“I am Tanilla Warrick-Deaves.”
The “smiling”, “always happy” toddler died after she was found with a number of injuries in a NSW house in August 2011.
Mr Warrick described how he came to Australia at the age of seven after being separated from his family in Colombia.
Tanilla was everything to him as a result, he said.
But after he broke up with Deaves, she constantly rebuffed his attempts to see the little girl.
After eventually spending time with Tanilla, he said he begged the Department of Community Services (DOCS) not to let her go back to Deaves.
“(I told them) ‘She’s my blood, help her’,” he said.
“But no, she was allowed to go back to her mother.”
“…I never saw Tanilla until the day we buried her.
“That’s how I got my baby girl back – dead.”
Mr Warrick implored Justice Stephen Rothman to consider his daughter’s short life.
“It breaks my heart to sit here today knowing the people who should have cared for and protected her did neither,” he said.
“She was let down by so many people.”
Tanilla’s stepmother Brooke Bowen said the toddler “seemed like the happiest girl in the world” when she was with them.
“The only time I saw her upset was when she was taken back by her mother,” her stepmother said.
“That was the last time I ever saw her.”
The sentence hearing continues.

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