Been separated for 9 months now with a 5 and 9 year old and fighting for shared custody. I have picked away and gained a 40:60 split interim parenting order so far – wasn’t cheap going to court to get that. Now going for the full order. I have always made it clear from the start I want 50:50 and believe this to be in the best interests of the children who are happy in both houses – and it seems logical and fair – and i work from home so am always there even if they are not at school. Today at a settlement conference the judge basically tore me to shreds saying “it makes you look controlling if you want 50:50 as it gives you a change to take control” – (yes I or my lawyer have no idea what SHE was going on about either) and “you’d be wasting your time trying for 50:50 at a final hearing. Is this normal? I’d kinda assumed only my ex’s lawyer was so spiteful. Is it worth me fighting for 50:50 shared care or am I simply wasting my time and money.