Hi folks.

I’m separated for almost 3 years. There are two children who spend 5 nights every fortnight with me. their mother and I have a toxic relationship. We are attending FDR and still going through family court.

Against my wishes, my daughter was given an iPhone 12 a year ago by her mother, she was 12 years old then.

Her mother told her never to let her dad have the passcode to the phone, she told her ‘do not trust him’.

Over a year on and I’m just realising the damage this has done.

1 – Am I wrong in thinking I should be able to see what goes on with my 13 year old daughters phone?

2 – Does anyone know if the court can make the mother give up the password to the phone?

My daughter continues to threaten to go back to her mums house if I confiscate the phone.

This just touches on the ongoing alienation that their mother subconsciously installs in my kids.

Thanks for your thoughts.