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The Bad Dad List

is a book by Anna Kenna ( Illustrated by David Elliot)

Its published by Learning Media Limited

Dad is laid off and mum works full time so dad is an at home parent.

Dad is hopeless and his son makes a bad dad list.

This list includes: getting a speeding ticket, forgets to pack the kids lunches, a washing machine disaster….

Dad then does something good and the boys image of him changes. To quote “By the end of the year dad had turned into quite a good mum”

This book was given to an 11year old boy to read as homework from school

The portrayal of fatherhood in this book is full of sexist assumptions and I suggest a further example of the feminisation of the New Zealand Education System.

Boys (and girls) need positive portrayals of fatherhood not a Bad Dad List.

Regards

Scrap

Forty years ago there was one woman’s group fighting for women’s rights, now every woman is a woman fighting for women’s rights. You have to ask yourself why men don’t do the same. The answer probably is that until your rights as a father have been taken from you, you don’t realise there’s anything to fight for. You don’t realise that men’s rights are being chipped away in the most insidious way.

You only need to listen to some of the advertisements out these days and educated middle class commentators (male and female) to know that all men are either dopes or aggressive towards women or sex fiends. Women can dump their children at the nearest crèche, or organise before and after school care and trot off to pursue their careers, but they are still considered the nurturing sex. In the last few decades I’ve noticed that men have taken a greater interest in their children and a greater involvement in their lives yet they are still left out in the cold when it comes to primary custody.

Until men find themselves in the position of being a father who has been separated from his children, men still think it’s a man’s world. My advice is that men should start setting up groups for men’s rights in general, not specifically only when it’s about dads because by the time it gets to that stage, not too much we can do about it except to complain to each other. These groups may have to fight off a bit of derision, but women were ignored and their concerns were laughed at, at first but they stuck with it. Goes to show who the stronger sex is, doesn’t it?

My advice is – nip it in the bud. Whenever you hear or read or watch an advertisement that is obviously or subtly sexist towards men, write a letter of complaint. Letters are more effective than emails or phone calls. Get a group of you together and write a letter of complaint to the company selling the product and say you refuse to buy their product. Forward a copy to the newspapers. Do it at once and keep it up. There are a lot of women in advertising now. You might want to think that one through too. Don’t allow radio or TV commentators to imply in any way that women are somehow better than men. It’s not possible. We’re a two gender species. I’ve noticed that women will never – ever – criticise other women, not matter how obvious it is that there is something to criticise. It’s the sisterhood thing. Every woman may not speak about it openly but every woman knows about it. Take a leaf out of their book.

Finally, web sites like this are fantastic, but they only cater to men who have already lost their rights. Like women’s groups have done, we need to broaden our parameters and educate the public in general. We need to include ‘outsider’ men in this crusade.

Earlier this month Darryl Ward posted an article referring to the rebirth of Paul’s News e-mail list, which had recently disappeared.

Paul’s News Logo
For many years, MENZ has referred NZ fathers to this e-mail group if they live in areas where there are no support groups available. I believe it to was by far the best available source of information about the New Zealand Family Court from a male consumer perspective. I think list owner Paul Robertson deserve a vote of thanks from the entire NZ men’s movement for his efforts to support fathers affected by Parental Alienation Syndrome.

Problems with “spies” who joined the list to monitor their ex-husbands sources of information has meant that the new list is restricted to members approved by a moderator, so we can’t advertise the address. Since I removed the link to Paul’s News, I begin receiving e-mails every few days asking me for information about the Family Court, to which I can only reply that I have almost no personal experience whatsoever. Hopefully one day there will be funding available for support organisations to provide this kind of service for men.

Many of us have naturally been wondering why the list suddenly disappeared, and I personally became somewhat concerned when my e-mail to Paul went unanswered. Some recent reports in the Manawatu Standard appear to shed some light on the situation:
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Amidst tremendous turnout and support Presidential candidate Ron Paul (R-TX) was asked a question about the New World Order’s agenda for a one-world government during a campaign stop in Austin, Texas on Saturday.

Ron Paul responded, “The first President Bush said the New World Order was in tune– and that’s what they were working for. The U.N. is part of that government. They’re working right now very significantly towards a North American Union. That’s why there’s a lot of people in Washington right now who don’t care too much about our borders. They have a philosophical belief that national sovereignty is not important. It’s also the reason I’ve made the very strong suggestion the U.S. need not be in the U.N. for national security reasons.”

This is the agenda for the pacific Islands.

Eradication of poverty and hunger, accelerated but sustainable economic growth, better education, promotion of gender equality and the role of women, lower child mortality and better maternal health, campaigns against HIV/Aids, maleria and other diseases, and environmental protection.

But as Reporter of NZ Herald Greg Ansley writes,

Beneath the swaying palms of the Pacific a new power struggle is emerging. It is the best kind of power play, revolving as it does around billions of dollars to improve the lives of some of the poorest people on the planet.

But altruism is more than matched by national self-interest and a range of ambitions for a region that can provide real value to much larger players. This is competitive diplomatic sport.

None of these things will happen as they have not happened in their own countries. These countries are using the usual excuses to take over being poverty and terrorism but to these players there is a lot of wealth in the seas surrounding the Pacific Islands that they are interested in as well as the wealth from tourism and consumerism. Groups that already give aid are worried.

And New Zealand is one of the big players with America, France and Australia.

France has very recently voted Right Wing but to the amazement of conservatives new French President Nicolas Sarkozy named women to nearly half of his cabinet positions.

I wonder what is in stall for New Zealand after our next election.

Below is a very intersting site to learn a few things of why so many people believe in Conspiracy and as we are seeing it is spoken of publicly now. Have you noticed how Helen Clarke is not that interested in our countries affairs but in overseas affairs? Have you noticed how the ‘No Smacking Bill’ goes back to the UN?

We are just a part of the Pacific - Asian group. Yes, there are 3 groups that we will be devided into world wide. The American Union, the European Union and the Pacific Asian Union.

http://www.shuartfarm.fsnet.co.uk/politics/t-dunford/united_nations.htm

Male-female gap “bad for society”

This article ran in the Dom-Post this morning.

The implications for boys and young men of Professor Chapmans remarks reflect the danger of feminisation of the New Zealand education system and the lack of Male primary teachers.

Regards

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Here’s a useful booklet you can refer feminists to for debriefing. It will help them overcome their delusions, so you can get on with other important stuff.

There’s a poll being conducted at this site, where you can vote for your favorite blog in a number of different categories - one category being political blogs. Top of the voting so far with 300 votes is a feminist blog, but a Men’s Rights blog, AngryHarry, has made a sudden and fast rise and is now at 12 place with 47 votes. If you like his site, or want to make a statement of support, add your vote. You need to register and give an e-mail address, so it takes a few minutes.

Is it nearly over – the years of waiting for public perception and the reality of feminist fascism to meet eye to eye? There is an element of society that adopted a, wait and see how long it takes approach, without giving to much concern to social disorder and inter-generational damage, and that becomes increasingly evident. It also has to be said that they are the same people who were in the best position to understand and the best position to create change, but chose not to, and even now they mark time. There is an evaluation of damage that is yet to be written; something akin to a body count from a recent war, and the scars of economic and social disarray, generated by conflict, and yet to heal. The recovery however is not likely to be so quick. There is no surrender, no victory or defeat, no conclusion, and no celebration to signal the rebirth of peace, or a new hope.
It is likely to be a long meandering process without the determined extrication of those obstacles who stand unashamed at what they have been party to. There is a generation of bitterness and valuelessness that occupies the minds of many, both young and old which is likely to reflect in future behaviour and outcomes. It will, should truth not be a casualty, be a time upon which history does not reflect kindly, recounting the continuing capacity for cruelty in the nature of the human beings. It is not something that should be treated lightly, with just some degree of inevitability about an end result, but with a fortitude that is becoming more illusive and historic.
Despair is as infectious as any virus, and complacency just as contagious. It’s almost pandemic, an air of mutant though, and when you look around you can certainly see the symptoms of this veracious disease, and the mess, who is going to clean that up – certainly not those that made it. And those that profited, do they owe us something, something more than the mess they left behind.

See Job Description.

Note some of the key details.

Child Support has a vision to be “A First Class Child Support Service”. We are committed to increased levels of customer satisfaction through improved service delivery by doing business in a way that suits our customers. Child Support will continue to evolve and shape as society increases its acceptance and perceptions of the need for the absentee parent to financially support their children, voluntarily.

Collection of arrears from specific Non Custodial Parents who are deemed to be self employed with an assessed child support debt (excluding penalties) of

greater than $2000

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This current vacancy is to replace the team leader for the legal support team. While no legal qualification is necessary, experience in preparing legal documentation and/or a penchant for legal work would be an advantage. While the successful person will lead the legal support team initially, it is expected that they would be able to lead any Child Support team.

Regards

Scrap

A terrible shame that this anonymously written piece of onesided femspeak DOESN’T OFFER ANYTHING AT ALL OF MEN’S PERSPECTIVE. Important issues like false rape accusations are glibly overlooked in the push to demonise our japanese brothers.
And note how the article normalises the unconstitutional behavious of an accused being able to see their accuser.

Yes the lace curtain works it’s sinister ways yet again.
Hiding behind anonymity whilst throwing mud at men.

Gutless scumbags.