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I just caught a glimpse of the advance news summary on TV3.
There was a shot of Peter Dunne taking a seat in front of microphones, a fat report in his hand and the commentary ‘the big plan for child support and how it affects you’ (or something like that).
This could be the plan he hinted at a week or two ago as being close. That’s all I’ve got – you’ll need to keep an eye out to get the rest: TV3 6pm.
From the Dompost :
A woman who fatally stabbed her partner in the chest with a kitchen knife has been sentenced to just eight years in jail.
Jacqueline Elaine Wihongi, 33, “self-medicated” with alcohol after a tragic “history of victimhood”, a court was told yesterday. She is believed to be just the second person to receive less than a life sentence for murder.
Wihongi was found guilty in June of murdering her partner of 17 years, Vivian Hirini. But in the High Court at Napier yesterday, Justice John Wild said it would be manifestly unjust to sentence the mother-of-six to life imprisonment.
Women’s Refuge has hailed the decision as “brave and right”, and the justice minister says there are no plans to review the law that allowed the sentence……
Police were often called to attend to their altercations, which were often physical. Mr Hirini had been stabbed by her previously and had lost an eye when she hit him with a bottle….
Crown lawyer Steve Manning said this was not a case of “battered woman syndrome” and Wihongi had directed significant violence toward Mr Hirini in the years leading up to the murder….
Women’s Refuge spokeswoman Kiri Hannifin praised the judge for considering the “appalling violence” Wihongi had suffered.
“Given the horrendous life she has led, we believe that it was valid to weigh up whether it would be manifestly unjust to impose the presumption of life and come to the conclusion it was not.
“It was brave and right to impose a finite sentence…
We keep on being bombarded with the “its not OK’ campaign that shows men beating women and children.
I say again – its not OK for a woman to be repeatedley violent to a man and get off in the justice system with a slap with a wet bus ticket!
Women’s Refuge clearly supports the position that domestic violence against men is OK and that it can be mitigated by women perpetrator playing the victim card.
This is a shocking sentence and this violent woman has been treated very differently than a man is in the same circumstances.
Either its not OK to be violent to your partner and justice is meted out equally or it is OK if you can play the victim.
Women’s Refuge -all I can say to you is Shame on you!
Felicity, my family and I feature prominently in the Sunday Star-Times today.
On the front page: ACC adviser silent on links to sex abusers
Special Investigation, section C: Conflicting interests?
The central message of these two stories; that Felicity was influential in the recent changes to ACC payments for sex-abuse counselling; is a fabrication, and will no doubt be corrected by ACC in due course. All the old dirt about Centrepoint is just that.
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Last Wednesday I received a message on my voice mail from TVNZ looking for someone from a men’s group to comment on a recent speech about Legal Aid in the Family Court by Justice Minister Simon Power. Unfortunately, I didn’t get back to them in time to make any suggestions about who to talk to.
Power’s speech, to Otago University Legal Issues Centre on 25th August, was titled Challenging Tradition.
Some of the issues raised by the Minister include:
Here is the section of Simon Power’s speech of most interest to MENZ readers:
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Across the world, the story is the same. Sex scandal. Media frenzy. Another prominent man caught with his pants down. So why do men take such risks for sex?
Sex therapist Bettina Arndt’s new book, What Men Want—in bed is all about why sex matters so much to men. Over 150 men kept diaries for her, talking about what it is like to live with that constant sparking sexual energy—relentless, uncontrollable, all-consuming.
Their painfully honest, confronting, often hilarious stories explain their quest for sexual adventure, their secret delights, the thrill of giving pleasure, why some men turn to pornography and men’s delight in the Viagra revolution.
With every second man over fifty dealing with erection problems, Bettina offers advice on the wondrous new treatments giving men a new lease of sexual life. Her diarists explain what it is like to pop the little blue pills, or inject their best friend, or face impotence after prostate cancer treatments. Extraordinary his-and-hers diaries reveal how partners react to this bumpy journey showing the fallout when a man seeks a new lease of sexual life when his wife just wants him to hang up his spurs.
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While this is Austrailian I suspect that similar happens here.
Fathers ‘stereotyped’ by Child Support Agency
Paul Bibby WORKPLACE
August 26, 2010
THE government watchdog responsible for overseeing child support payments has been unfairly focusing on parents who do not pay enough while ignoring those who are getting too much, the Commonwealth Ombudsman says.
In a report that might not be well received by some single mothers, the acting Ombudsman, Ron Brent, found that the Child Support Agency had at times been unduly influenced by stereotypes about fathers not meeting their obligations.
Plotting ex-wife gets 7-14 years in jail
Kristin Ruggiero will spend 7 to 14 years in state prison for what police say was part of a years-long ploy to use the criminal justice system against her ex-husband, who was thrown in jail and nearly lost his career during a bitter divorce.
Judge Kenneth McHugh said Ruggiero’s attempt to set up her ex-husband and use the legal system as a weapon was unlike any other case he has seen.
There has been a lot of debate recently on MENZ regarding the approach to solving the issues fathers/men face. A lot of it extremely negative and divisive.
Most contributors use what is caused a deficit research approach characterised by :
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A protest for men’s rights expresses a ……. strong reaction to the way father’s are treated through feminist anti father policy and procedure in New Zealand’s government departments, family and criminal courts and Child, Youth and Family Services (CYFS), ……… and a reaction against misandry – ‘the hatred of men’.
Men’s Rights Protesters protest ……….. as a way of publicly and forcefully making their opinions heard in an attempt to influence public opinion and government’s treatment on the nation’s men of all ages and ……… to undertake direct action in an attempt to directly enact desired changes themselves.
Because many father’s are wanting to protest in their own areas, leading protesters are touring the country. If you want to get involved in any area and need a lift – ask, if you need a place to stay – ask. It’s a team effort and men and women are happy to open their homes to protesters, drive them around, feed them and so on. If you’ve never been part of a protest – you’re in for a treat. Not only is protesting a great way of standing up for yourself, it’s a great release.
Dates, Times and Places.
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When I first separated my wife, my eldest daughter (12y at the time) had rejected me. Three months without contact, had broken me into pieces. Her two sisters and I had a great relationship.
I looked for help and stumbled across many articles on PAS. Some of you may remember me having uploaded my daughter’s inhumane and shocking hate mail on your sight. It attracted over 50 responses and I felt that I was not alone.
After nine months, I got a random call from my daughter, outlining that she wanted to be my daughter again. It was like a bad spell that had come to an end. My daughter was back. ..She called me “dad” again, after calling me by my first name for nine months. (Her mother actually supported this) It was uplifting for my soul. (more…)
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