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Thu 26th March 2015

Not Sure

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 5:23 pm

I don’t know how to title this post.

Story source

It does need some discussion!

The Police Dive Squad is returning to Invercargill tonight as they search for a missing 11-year-old boy and his stepfather.

Mike Zhao-Beckenridge and his estranged step-father John Beckenridge have been missing for around two weeks.

They’re thought to be in the Catlins.

Car parts connected to the disappearance have been found scattered along Curio Bay.

Inspector Kelvin Lloyd says dive team members will deploy an underwater camera in the bay tomorrow.

He says it’ll be attached to a helicopter, and they hope this will help get visual confirmation of what may be in the water.

Please recommend a Child Psychologist experienced with writing reports for the Court

Filed under: Child Support,Domestic Violence,Law & Courts — sharingiscaring @ 11:57 am

Hi guys,

Could you please recommend a Child Psychologist experienced with writing reports for the Court?

After being caught abusing my 5 year old daughter in the secluded corner of a car park in his new car, my wife’s Japanese boy friend threw my little girl across his car and then jumped out and assaulted me three times. My daughter witnessed his repeated assaults on me and was then forced to remain in his car as he drove off after my Japanese wife appeared on the scene and ordered him to depart.

This was vidoed and witnessed by a group of passerbys. A formal police complaint was laid, medical report of my injuries obtained, a doctors medical report of the likely damage inflicted on my daughter provided by the hospital and the Police have brought him in and obtained a suspect statement.

I was strongly advised to obtain a psychologist’s report on the traumatizing effects of his abuse and assault on my daughter in order to further strengthen the case for restraining orders so that he can never again abuse my daughter.

Is anyone able to recommend a Child Psychologist experienced in writing Court reports please?

Kind Regards,

Wed 18th March 2015

Search continues for missing 11-year-old

Filed under: General — goose @ 2:56 pm


Police say they have had no new leads in the search for an 11-year-old boy from Invercargill, missing since March 13.

Southland police are asking that everyone nationwide keep an eye out for the boy as he could be anywhere.

Detective Sergeant Mark McCloy of Invercargill said Mike Zhao-Beckenridge is believed to have left his Invercargill school at lunch time on Friday, and was not waiting for his mother at 3pm.

Police believe he is with his estranged step-father, John Beckenridge, 64, also known as John Robert Lundh, Knut Goran Roland Lundh, or John Bradford.

Beckenridge’s contact with the boy would be in breach of a parenting order, McCloy said.

Police said the pair were thought to be travelling in a dark blue Volkswagen Touareg, registration DUY263, and could be anywhere in New Zealand.

Mike is 1.65cm tall, and of solid build, and Beckenridge is 1.75m tall, medium build, McCloy said.

Anyone who has seen either Mike or Beckenridge should contact police immediately, he said.


since when was a “suspected” breach of a parenting order a nationwide witch hunt?

my son was taken to the west coast after the earthquakes and the police did nothing to attempt to find him, I did all the detective work for them and my son was ordered back to Christchurch with a court order, but it never made any sort of headlines. The police had no interest in finding them, a bailiff was sent to their address only after I insisted it was the right address with proof. (her parents address)

looks like another female has got headlines / attention of the media.

Tue 17th March 2015

Dear IRD…

Filed under: General — goose @ 7:42 pm

Dear IRD , you win, we lose, goodbye.

this will be on a number of peoples headstones from now on.


Ex’s Lawyer – Filed application to withdraw as counsel on record (Update of Revamp family court – Part 4)

Filed under: General — nzleagle @ 3:27 pm

Ok, so those who have been following my updates…. last post (http://menz.org.nz/2015/update-family-court-revamp-part-3/)

Have had a lot of activity on my case in the last 2 months, from a directions conference where ex’s Lawyer and Lawyer for child got dragged though the coals for this continuing to be going thought the court as it should be straight forward, and gave them 2 weeks to convene a round table to discuss contact, and if no agreement is reached, to file updated evidence within 4 weeks. A few days prior to the Directions Conference I requested contact at the end of February out of the region for a family function. This was briefly discussed prior to the judge arriving in the room at the Directions Conference, and was agreed to.

After the directions conference, it was obvious that the 2 week time frame was never going to work in with all 4 parties involved, I was available 24/7, ex was only available on Mondays, and the Lawyer for child and her Lawyer struggled to find time to suit everyone. It was eventually agreed for a Friday, but 2 days prior ex pulls out as she could not get the time off work, and put back to the following monday. (3 1/2 weeks after directions confrence) I also started to get asked about the contact I had requested, things that were irrelevant, and hare say that she had heard about who was and was not going to be at the function. So with less than 24 hours till the agreed contact taking place, still uncertainty I applied for a warrant to enforce the contact. While the file was before the judge I received confirmation that contact would go ahead. Court came back saying my application was denied, but the court has serious concerns as to why contact is not taking place, and maybe it needs to consider reversal of care. And notice of defence to be filed within 3 days and a further directions conference set down for the 24th of March.

The round table went ahead the following Monday, and rather than focusing on the issues, they just wanted to know what my proposal was, and found every excuse under the sun why it wouldn’t work. About 45 minutes into it they hung up (was via teleconference) to discuss things, and was told they would call back soon. An hour later I receive an e-mail saying that my proposal is very complicated, and my ex is considering it, and will be in touch soon.

The following day was the last day I could file my updated evidence without needing to get an extension, so after not hearing anything about my proposal I went ahead and filed my updated evidence, which essentially made negotiating impossible afterwards.

The next day my ex files for an extension to the following Monday as she only has Monday’s available to her, come Monday there is no sign of her filing anything, on the Wednesday the Judge approved the extension, and stipulated exactly what they wanted to see in the affidavit. The approval then was followed my a memorandum from ex’s lawyer saying that they were unable to file anything, and due to the work situation, my ex would now be looking for a new lawyer.

Today I filed my Directions conference Memorandum, which was followed by my ex’s lawyer with an Application to be removed as Counsel on the Record, with her affidavit saying she has not heard from my ex since the 2nd of March.

Now my question…. Can this be used as a delaying tactic by fronting up to court saying she has no lawyer, and has no idea how to represent herself, then spend another few months trying to get another lawyer…..?

Sat 14th March 2015

Penis transplants

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 7:16 pm

Successful operation although it may not be quite what you think.

South African surgeons have performed the world’s first successful penis transplant.

The nine-hour operation was performed on December 11 on the 21- year-old recipient, who made a full recovery and regained all functions in the transplanted organ, the South African university said.

The patient, whose identity wasn’t disclosed, had his penis amputated three years ago in order to save his life when he developed complications after a traditional circumcision. There are an estimated 250 penile amputations each year in South Africa stemming from circumcisions, the university said.

“Our goal was that he would be fully functional at two years and we are very surprised by his rapid recovery,” said Andre van der Merwe, head of the university’s Division of Urology, who led the team during the operation.

It is the second time this type of operation was attempted and the first time that a successful long-term result was achieved, the university said.

“There is a greater need in South Africa for this type of procedure than elsewhere in the world, as many young men lose their penises every year due to complications from traditional circumcision,” said Van der Merwe.

Thu 12th March 2015

Is Fatherhood A Wise Choice?

Filed under: General — triassic @ 6:41 pm

This article provides a wealth of wisdom for any male who contemplates having children. If after reading this you still have a desire to proceed, please visit a therapist first.

Whilst children have the potential to bring great joy and meaning to your life, this article clearly shows that the social structure now exists for that potential to turn into the most excruciating pain you can ever imagine. There is more to enjoy in life than off-spring and you may just need help in seeing the alternative meaning to life.

Tue 10th March 2015

Do you want to know what a REAL MAN is?

Filed under: General — goose @ 12:57 pm

Do you want to know what a REAL MAN is?

A real man does not get into a situation where he has to pay tens, if not hundreds of thousands of dollars to lawyers just to see his own flesh and blood on a regular basis. A real man does not subscribe to the mentality that the mother gets custody of the kids post break up or divorce and resign himself to the fact that he will see his kids only every other weekend. A real man assumes from the beginning that no one has to pay child support or alimony because both parents share equally if the relationship ends. Shared custody is the only way to begin the post-relationship parenting process. A real man files for divorce FIRST when he finds out his partner broke the marriage contract and cheated. A real man does not play defense…he plays offense…because he loves his children more than a woman who cheated, lied, stole, was abusive or was in the partnership for reasons other than a long-term equal partnership.

THAT is a real man.

A real man is responsible. A real man is honorable and loyal. A real man loves his children unconditionally. A real man chooses a woman after a long courting process and quickly eliminates any woman who has not had a good relationship with her father–he does not need a woman with daddy issues, he needs a wife. A real man does his due diligence to find out a potential mate’s past dating history and spot patterns before he falls head over heels in love; therefore not allowing sex to cloud his judgement. A real man kicks a woman out of the house when she is violent or emotionally abusive and is not afraid to call the police at a moment’s notice. A real man works hard on his own life to make it better for himself and his children. A real man does not cower in fear when some women tell him he is being “misogynistic” when he points out inconsistencies in extreme radical feminist ideology. A real man loves his female children, his female sisters, his female girlfriend and even still cares about the well-being of his female ex-wife…..therefore making the “misogynistic” rubbish spewed at him look silly.

THAT is a real man.

The assumption that real men pay child support is as outdated as a woman at home in the kitchen barefoot and pregnant; bringing her husband his slippers and newspaper after work every day. It’s 2015, not 1953!

Child support has NOTHING to do with children. NOTHING!!!!!! It’s all about supporting and subsidizing mothers. It is all about the transfer or wealth from fathers to mothers. It is a system that does not take into consideration the accountability for how the money is spent to care for the children. It’s also a massive game between the Federal government and the states that is only getting more and more convoluted. It is a subsidy for single motherhood.

Mon 9th March 2015

Hike in Child Support upsets a female

Filed under: Child Support,Gender Politics,General — ashish @ 8:33 pm


However hard I try not to appear sexist, the mainstream media gives me no options.

The article is an epic proof of the fact that if you want to make something happen, make a female upset.

Hundreds of complaints by males are just ignored by media. One woman gets upset, and the same issue makes headlines.

I barely managed to get one into readers report last year – but that too after disguising it with the famous sorry-to-be-a-man Labour leader David Cunliffes compulsory Kiwisaver policy.

Looks like we are going to have some interesting times ahead.


Men Should Become Feminists?

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 5:04 pm

Emma Watson

Watson, 24, a goodwill ambassador for UN Women, used International Women’s Day to add impetus to the HeForShe campaign that was launched in September last year and encourages men and boys to join the fight for equal rights.

So far around 240,000 men have pledged their commitment online, according to the HeForShe website, including US President Barack Obama and actor Matt Damon, but there is a target to mobilise one billion men and boys by July this year.

Fri 6th March 2015


Filed under: Domestic Violence,Events,Men's Health,White Ribbon Campaign — MurrayBacon @ 8:52 am

One In 3 Campaign Poster

Training Program
Friday March 20 9.30am – 4.00pm

Cancer Society New Zealand, 52 Riddiford Street, Newtown, Wellington

Flier for convenient printing

Thu 26th February 2015

Gender News Update

Filed under: General — Ministry of Men's Affairs @ 1:18 pm

Here’s a female psychologist suggesting that men should be complaining as much as women about being parents. She thinks men should be as self-centred as women rather than being grateful for their blessings and having a strong commmitment to their duties. Interesting stuff especially the readers’ comments. (more…)

White Fibbin’ at it again

Filed under: General — Ministry of Men's Affairs @ 8:59 am

Here is the latest email campaign from the anti-male hate speakers of the White Fibbin’ Campaign. Note the statement “..our mission to end men’s violence towards women”, making their sexist, unbalanced agenda clear.

Sadly, it’s futile to try to reason with the White Fibbers. If you try to point out that violence is not exclusively a male issue, that forms of violence more commonly committed by females can be extremely harmful, or that men are in fact the most frequent victims of domestic violence and by far the most frequent victims of violence in our society generally and that even though much of that violence is committed by other men, male victims should not be treated as unimportant in any anti-violence campaign, the White Fibbers will simply delete your comments, block any further debate then justify this by denigrating you and telling lies about what you said. Given that kind of violence, you can be sure that behind the scenes the White Fibbers will be keeping records about anyone who disagrees with them, and at some stage we can expect feminist thought police to kick in our doors and imprison us on some manufactured charge. (more…)

Fri 20th February 2015

Book Launch of Murder that Wasn’t – the case of George Gwaze

Filed under: Law & Courts,Sex Abuse / CYF — JohnPotter @ 10:25 am

Last night we held the official launch for Felicity Goodyear-Smith’s new book: Murder that Wasn’t – the case of George Gwaze.

Felicity Goodyear-Smith at book launch of Murder that Wasn't

Felicity Goodyear-Smith at book launch of Murder that Wasn’t – the case of George Gwaze


Is the Ban on Using Force in Discipline Working?

Filed under: Boys / Youth / Education,Gender Politics,General — Ministry of Men's Affairs @ 9:32 am

The anti-smacking law (actually the anti-use-of-force-in-discipline law) was based largely on feminist ideology. The idea that male characteristics of size and strength should be allowed to be used to exert ‘power and control’ was anathema to feminists, and they projected their sense of injustice on to the matter of raising and disciplining children. State-sponsored sole parenthood often involved rejection of male influence in raising children and the anti-smacking law was an extension of this.

Instead of using any physical force in discipline to teach children some fear of consequences and that adults will take control where necessary, adults such as teachers now are allowed only to call police and/or to use female-type violence such as ostracizing (through suspension and expulsion), labeling as ‘bad’ or ‘sick’ and manipulation of children in an effort to have them feel guilty and unacceptable.

Is the current law serving our society and the next generation’s development? Having removed rights from adults to use force and leaving such rights exclusively with agents of the state such as police, is this benefiting our society? Are our children becoming less violent as we follow the principle of ‘not modelling violence, power and control’ in the way we manage our children? (more…)

Thu 19th February 2015

Mojo Mathers MP Spreads False Propaganda

Filed under: General — Ministry of Men's Affairs @ 10:40 am

A Community Group because successive governments have neglected the voice and welfare of New Zealand men

PO Box 13130, Tauranga 3141
Contact Hans Laven (07)5712435 or (0274)799745; or Kerry Bevin (09)4247762; mmainnz@gmail.com

19 February 2015

Hon Mojo Mathers MP
Parliament Buildings
Sent via email to Mojo.Mathers@parliament.govt.nz

Dear Ms Mathers

In the context of debating the composition of the Intelligence Committee, you were quoted in the NZ Herald today as stating that “every day skilled women found themselves overlooked for jobs or promotion, or competing with men with far less experience and ability”. (more…)

Family Hero Falls Ill

Filed under: General — Ministry of Men's Affairs @ 10:10 am

A Community Group because successive governments have neglected the voice and welfare of New Zealand men

PO Box 13130, Tauranga 3141
Contact Hans Laven (07)5712435 or (0274)799745; or Kerry Bevin (09)4247762; mmainnz@gmail.com


19 February 2015


Ministry of Men’s Affairs spokesman Kerry Bevin says that many kiwi men and their families will be saddened by Jim Bagnall’s terminal prostate cancer. (more…)

Tue 17th February 2015

A Great loss to NZ

Filed under: General — triassic @ 12:04 pm

Celia Lashlie passed away today after suffering from cancer. She was a very wise woman and a great advocate in the education of raising healthy young males in our society. She will be sorely missed and I salute her for her brave stance in our matriachal ideologically driven society.

Four Yorkshiremen on Divorce

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 9:09 am

1. My ex got 90% of all assets after separation!

90%. Sheer luxury. Sheer bloody luxury.

2. I only got 5% and all the debts.

3. You guys don’t know how lucky you are.

All I got was me gumboots.

You guys just don’t know how lucky you are.

4. Gumboots. You got your gumboots.

I was kicked out of house, naked, with no clothes on.

It was middle of bloody winter …

1. Sorry to interrupt, but now that I have, I’m going to take advantage of that.

That’s nothing. Now I …

Put your one-up in the comments.

Sun 15th February 2015

Systematic Discrimination Against Fathers

Filed under: Gender Politics,General,Law & Courts — Ministry of Men's Affairs @ 10:08 am

Unbelievable Duplicity Story number 73,456,864: “International tug-of-war in custody fight”. In order to pursue her own career, this mother deliberately abducted the daughter to the USA against the wishes of the girl’s father and denied the girl a meaningful relationship with the father for some years. She arranged a fake contact visit with the father to distract him from her real plan to leave the country, then took off with the child while the father waited to see his daughter. She then failed to honour agreements concerning returning the child to NZ. (more…)

Fri 13th February 2015

Fifty Shades of Grey

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 8:40 am

Source Article:

Lloyd, who engages with victims at the point where they require or have obtained a protection order against their alleged abusers, said the issue for the court was whether what took place was domestic violence.

“The legal argument is about whether there was domestic violence given there was consent,” she said.

“Well, how can you say whipping someone with canes and chains until they’re bleeding raw, is not violence?

“In the Family Court, when you’re looking at whether a protection order is needed, a judge must be satisfied there has been domestic violence. It doesn’t mention consent.”

Conservative Christian lobby group Family First NZ this week called for the public to boycott the film and donate the admission fee to a local women’s refuge.

For anyone who is old enough to remember the railing against the likes of the musical ‘Hair’ and the film ‘Last Tango in Paris’ by the religious sector of the community, this becomes interesting reading.

If you take away the circumstances that surround this argument, and put it between the sheets generally, it becomes a case of even though there was consent, the manner of sexual participation may or may not be domestic violence depending on a ruling from the Family Court (by examination of a woman’s evidence) when a protection order is applied for.

There’s something to think about.

Wed 11th February 2015

Is Valentines all about women?

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 9:53 am

First what’s it all about?

As much as I am a little cautious about referring to Wikipedia, this seems reasonable enough.

There is no evidence of any link between St. Valentine’s Day and the rites of the ancient Roman festival, despite many claims by many authors.[15][37][notes 1] The celebration of Saint Valentine did not have any romantic connotations until Chaucer’s poetry about “Valentines” in the 14th century.[21] Popular modern sources claim links to unspecified Greco-Roman February holidays alleged to be devoted to fertility and love to St. Valentine’s Day, but prior to Chaucer in the 14th century, there were no links between the Saints named Valentinus and romantic love.[21] Earlier links as described above were focused on sacrifice rather than romantic love. In the ancient Athenian calendar the period between mid-January and mid-February was the month of Gamelion, dedicated to the sacred marriage of Zeus and Hera.

Have the boys been conned here?

I always felt this Valentine’s stuff was a bit of a one way street. I am yet to meet a bloke that said, he’d got a valentine out of the blue from some female – or I am just the unlucky one here? (more…)

Mon 9th February 2015

UK Barrister: Rape and Consent

Filed under: Gender Politics,Law & Courts,Sex Abuse / CYF — Pete @ 9:23 pm

Barrister David Osborne caused outrage with his blog She was gagging for it (the blog has been changed due to public outrage, but the original is included below) where he went as far as an wrote:

I have a very simple solution which I hope you will agree is fair. If the complainant (I do not refer to her as the victim) was under the influence of alcohol or drugs, or both, when she was ‘raped’, this provides the accused with a complete defence. End of story and a victory for fairness, moderation and common sense!

While I disagree with this particular solution, it must be seen in the context of the debate (if there ever were one). So on the one hand we have David Osborn’s “solution” and on the other the feminists who are basically demanding – so far almost unopposed – that the definition of rape should include “sexual activities with a woman who is drugged or drunk“. This solution is every bit as misandristic as Osborn’s is misogynistic. If only for the reason of bringing some balance into the debate, I applaud him for the courage to write these things.

The original blog follows:

I have been following the latest machinations over rape allegations with some interest, as they have serious consequences for all red-bloodied males who are out on the rut. For the past ten years or more, a politically driven agenda has been thrust down the throats of court users about the deplorably low percentage of rape allegations that lead to conviction, and successive governments have been enjoined to do something about it.

My considerable experience tells me that there are basically two defences to an allegation of rape: either “it wasn’t me gov”, or “she was gagging for it”. It is also correct in my own experience that most of those accused of rape are acquitted, not simply as a result of the brilliance of my advocacy, but because the jury did not believe beyond a reasonable doubt that the victim did not consent.

Into this squirming sack of grubby emotions steps Ms. Alison Saunders, who is apparently the Director of Public Prosecutions, so she should know better. And is it just me, or are women taking over the world? And is it just me, or do you share my dislike for the prefix ‘Ms’? It’s all to do with political correctness, or so they say, but speaking for my wife, and I suspect millions of other wives, when she agreed to marry me, convention dictated that she took my name and became Mrs. Osborne. She does not wish to be referred to as Ms. Osborne, nor does she wish to be known as my partner. It’s insulting!

Anyway, back to Ms. Saunders and her camp followers. She has decided, or rather it has been decided for her, that anybody who makes an allegation of rape must be believed, and everything possible in the trial process must be bent towards the conviction of the accused. Rape trials from now on are no longer to be prosecution led, but conviction led, and when you add into the mix that prison sentences for rape are getting longer and longer, the opportunities for a serious miscarriage of justice are self-evident. Or should that be ‘ms.carriage’?

Sarah Vine, or more properly Ms. Sarah Vine the journalist, summed up the feelings not just of red-bloodied males but also the legions of fair minded people. Like me, she deplores the so-called ‘vagenda’, the all men are rapists brigade advanced by vocal feministas like Harriet Harman and the ‘femi-fascist’ twitter mob who increasingly seem to hold sway in public policy. Predictably, Ms. Harman, and I use that form of address advisedly, replied to Ms. Vine’s comments with the usual ‘feminista’ clichés, defending Ms. Saunders for trying to ensure that victims of rape get justice. Gawd help us!

I have always found it distasteful and unattractive the suggestion that as the victim was blind drunk she therefore unable to give her consent to sex, or more to the point, she gave her consent which she would not have given had she been sober. In my book, consent is consent, blind drunk or otherwise, and regret after the event cannot make it rape as Ms. Saunders and Ms. Harman seem to be advocating. Save us from the Mssss!

I have a very simple solution which I hope you will agree is fair. If the complainant (I do not refer to her as the victim) was under the influence of alcohol or drugs, or both, when she was ‘raped’, this provides the accused with a complete defence. End of story and a victory for fairness, moderation and common sense!

Sun 8th February 2015

Men seen as Actors – Women seen as Acted Upon

Filed under: General — Lukenz @ 9:07 am

A short video clip to show why men are treated poorly. It details why some men choose to end their lives.

Fri 6th February 2015

Isn’t this just typical NZ reporting ….

Filed under: General — golfa @ 5:36 pm


Nowhere in this “report” does it say the attacker was a girl. Oh, it says that the victim was a girl, but the gender of the attacker is conveniently omitted throughout. Sexist ? You betcha !

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