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Thu 25th May 2017

Police and Protection Orders

Filed under: General — martin @ 4:26 pm

Last year, after my ex decided that she wanted another pound of flesh took my children from me under the guise of an interim custody order (I’m still fighting this in court). Prior to this (some 7 years ago and I’m sure no surprise to most) she obtained a protection order, which she then supported the removal off after 3 years. So remember “no current orders” other than the interim custody order.

While out at a bicycle race last year in which my boy was racing, his mother decided that she did not want me to talk to him or I guess intimidate him, and so she called the police. They arrived and spoke to my girl-friend who was in my car. They wanted to know where i was etc, but she had the thought-of-mid to ask them why they were here, to which they responded “there is a protection order”. “no there isn’t” she replied. “Oh yes there is” (I feel a pantomime coming on!). She insisted that there wasn’t, the policeman (yes I call a spade a spade) “yes there is, in fact i severed it on him myself not long ago”. “No you didn’t, what you are think of is the application for a protection order that she has just filed, which is before the court (who needs a lawyer when you have a gal like this 🙂 ). The policeman finally decided that perhaps she was right and needed to make enquiries with my ex. My partner ended the conversation by telling them that she was appalled that they would have the audacity to turn out to a family event and that surely this could have waited until later.

My point here, (apart from showing you how precise and careful the boys in blue are), is that somebody must have misinformed / misled the police when they made the 111 call that her ex was (and I’m giving her the benefit of the doubt) “here at a race with her and that she had a protection order, and that they needed to come immediately. What she had failed to tell them was that “had” mean used to have but no longer has, or “had” means “had requested one without notice” but had been rejected and put on notice.

Nowdays, I don’t see so much of the police (funny how things have changed now that they have been properly informed of the situation, however their domestic violence unit are actively trying to get one (a PO) put in place – I guess that will help them save face. In the meantime, I almost mis their regular appearance at my front door, accusing me of any event or bad fortune that comes before my ex. I don’t know why she is even called my ex, because I don’t seem to be able to get rid of her – you know like out of my hair!! But not to fear, as for the boys in blue, well I still get the occasional call, telling me that my car has been spotted driving up her (the ex) street, and I have to remind them, that I was unaware of it being her street, I thought she merely owned a house there! I tend not to worry about freedom of speech or global warming or Donald Trump these days. Rather I just watch as my basic human rights are now being eroded – my right to attend public events, my right to travel on a road or carriage way, my right to live without constant harassment from the boys in blue.

A Woman (Joanne Harrison) Offends, A Male is Found to Punish

Filed under: Gender Politics,General,Law & Courts — Ministry of Men's Affairs @ 11:12 am

The case of Auditor-General Martin Matthews appears to be another example of men being held responsible when women misbehave. Not much has fundamentally changed in attitudes since the era in which husbands were considered responsible for their wives’ behaviour and debts. (more…)

Tue 23rd May 2017

White Muddled Class Wail

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 10:55 am

I’m sick of ‘White Middle-Class Male’ arogance. Rohan Lord got the wakeup call he deserved.

Was he that politicaly naive, that socially disconnected, that remotely hopeful, that he could make any change by joining the Labour Party.

He got chucked (more…)

Mon 22nd May 2017

An island that doesn’t allow women

Filed under: General — Ministry of Men's Affairs @ 7:59 pm

Okinoshima, an interesting idea. Perhaps NZ’s two main islands could do the same.

Sun 21st May 2017

Pie in the Fluffy Sky with Diamonds

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 11:08 am

A kaleidoscope car appears at your door
Waiting to take you away
Climb in the back, with your head in the clouds
And (more…)

Sat 20th May 2017

Exclusion of Males Spreading

Filed under: General — Ministry of Men's Affairs @ 11:14 am

A previous post discussed the misuse of a publicly funded swimming pool by banning males and allowing only females at the complex for several prime hours each week. Now we read that a girls’ school netball tournament has been banning men from any presence or role, including the girls’ fathers. (more…)

The Social Graphic of Suicide

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 8:59 am

I really don’t think people get this, and it pains me to watch the chaos building around both the discussion and the prospective fix, which as I see it, is encouraging the problem, not helping it.

As a young New Zealander (more…)

Fri 19th May 2017

Family Court Costs

Filed under: General — martin @ 6:39 pm

I need some reliable info. I have been crippled for the last year in custody hearings at the FC and my bet is I’m going to come second again! My predicament is that the is to be a final hearing next month and while I am entitled to legal aid I don’t use it as it is merely a loan. My question is this – is there a way for me to bail out before the hearing and avoid paying costs? You see it looks like my ex-wife will ask for costs through her lawyer, so to add insult to injury, I will have to pay for her lawyer, while not being able to afford one of my one – they call that justice! It seems pathetic to me that she has stolen my kids, my health and my job and now intends to cripple me financially. I have a cylinder of helium close by just in case the mood takes me to finish it for good. Wishing you all a very good evening. 🙂

Women Marrying Themselves

Filed under: General — Ministry of Men's Affairs @ 12:04 am

This trend is quite something. Apparently it’s somehow related to being a feminist, or single, or something.

Thu 18th May 2017

Police Maintain Routine Sexism

Filed under: Domestic Violence,Gender Politics,Law & Courts — Ministry of Men's Affairs @ 11:38 pm

From a correspondent; we changed place names to respect privacy:

I picked up a hitch-hiker today even though he had no backpack. He told me his essential reason for needing to hitchhike and I encouraged him to share the rest of his story. I have changed the locations to respect privacy, but nothing else.

He had packed in his job in Auckland to move with his girlfriend to Tokoroa where her mother lived. His employer valued him and said he would keep the job open for him for a while in case he wanted to return. Within a short time he found the situation in Tokoroa wasn’t working out. He hadn’t found employment, his girlfriend’s mental health problems were aroused by the move and economic reality, and he found that he was valued mainly for his good car and being a chauffeur for his girlfriend’s and her mother’s frequent transport needs. His car was his only significant asset and his pride and joy.

Colin Craig and Cameron Slater

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 8:38 pm

If either were my child, I’d definitely want a God to pray to for an explanation.

Apparently they’re both in the Auckland High Court exercising their Christian principals and suing each other for defamation. They deserve each other, they’re a couple of spoilt brats, and equally a waste of good skin.

Colin Craig the former Conservative Party Leader and Cameron Slater better known as Whale Oil the blogger were both warned by Justice Toogood about the judiciary not being an endless expanse of time and money, and to get on with it.

Of course, (more…)

Autobiography of Dean Wickliffe

Filed under: Men's Health — Downunder @ 3:23 pm

At the age of 68 Wickliffe who has been paroled unsuccessfully in the past, has been released again for the 6th time.

He has twice escaped from Paremoremo, during his term of imprisonment for the murder, and has been responsible for significant offending while on parole.

I’m curious to know what is in this book and whether his late in life efforts assist in explaining an often uncanvassed dimension of the men’s experience in New Zealand.

Electronic Bail for Female Offenders

Filed under: Gender Politics,General,Law & Courts — Downunder @ 1:26 pm

This is something I have wondered about for quite some time – whether electronic bail is applied more liberally for the ‘fairer sex’ for the same crime?

A 29 year old woman, arrested yesterday, appeared in the Blenheim District Court this morning, charged with drug related offending and breaching electronic bail conditions.

The prisoner has been remanded in custody with further charges pending.

In a statement from police today we see:

Marlborough Police will not tolerate the supply and use of illicit drugs and will continue to work to reduce the harm on our community.

Is it the case that further offending and additional police work is caused by the biased application of electronic bail involving female offenders?

Wed 17th May 2017

And if it was an extraordinary guy…would they get a free pass

Filed under: General — pcObelix @ 8:52 am

What the hell…could you imagine a male getting the possible same treatment if the roles were reversed.

Aspiring heart surgeon who stabbed boyfriend in England may avoid jail because she’s ‘extraordinary’

Mon 15th May 2017

Do These Texts Show Partner Abuse?

Filed under: Domestic Violence,Gender Politics,General — Ministry of Men's Affairs @ 8:29 pm

This was a weird one. The heading was ‘Husband’s shocking texts reveal reality of domestic violence‘. Well we might have missed something but the texts didn’t seem shocking and there was nothing showing domestic violence happening or having happened. Is it we or they who are irrational? Or is it a cynical production of a false news story to cash in on the feminist fashion and cater to a market of unthinking bigots who will believe, without critical thinking or careful attention to the body of the article, any headline that fits their beliefs. The editor of the NZ Herald must also have fallen into that category. That list of women’s refuge and support groups must get quite good ratings because many opportunities are made to include it. (more…)

Fri 12th May 2017

I Don’t Want it to be a Secret

Filed under: General,Men's Health — Downunder @ 5:10 pm

I can’t get a link up at the moment.

The story is a Stuff news item, about the wife of an Australian doctor who committed suicide.

Wife of Australia doctor writes letter about his suicide to show ‘we’re not ashamed’ (more…)

Margaret Dodds

Filed under: Boys / Youth / Education,Gender Politics,General — Downunder @ 8:19 am

Serial offender.

Child abuser. (more…)

Wed 10th May 2017

Core Values

Filed under: General — Downunder @ 6:05 am

Can I start by giving ‘core values’ some definition: (more…)

Sat 6th May 2017

Immigration and our future

Filed under: General — rationalist1 @ 8:44 pm

New Zealand, like all Western nations, continues to import some of the worst people and practices that other nations have to offer. The resulting friction between good and bad immigrants, and politicians of every position regarding the matter attracts a significant amount of attention. (more…)

The genital mutilation then fame story of John and Lorena Bobbitt

Filed under: Domestic Violence — rationalist1 @ 8:30 pm

John and Lorena repeatedly partook in unethical actions. They seem to be disgusting characters and I have no interest in joining the majority who have apparently decided that one of them is better. (more…)

Real Estate People Profit From Separations

Filed under: General — Ministry of Men's Affairs @ 10:19 am

This article describes a video for property investors etc encouraging them to target ‘divorcees’ among others and to employ tactics such as working together with others to add credibility to low offers. While this is not exclusively a men’s issue, men should be aware of it.
Real estate people, property investors (including anyone looking to buy) and those wanting to get bargain chattels will fly in like vultures when they are alerted to a marital or relationship separation. Others such as tradesmen or workers employed to prepare a property, relatives, and of course lawyers may also seek to exploit the separated couple who will almost always be vulnerable and will have their judgment impaired through grief, anger and other emotions: (more…)

Sun 30th April 2017

Labour says a rape victim should be believed as a starting point.

Filed under: General — Lukenz @ 7:19 pm

I hate getting political. But when you read the news story below you just have no choice but to say something.


Stuff news story reports; (more…)

Sat 29th April 2017

Meat-Eating now Another Feminist Issue

Filed under: Gender Politics,Men's Health — Ministry of Men's Affairs @ 10:21 am

For your entertainment, here’s an interesting example of modern feminist analysis, this time by a vegan.

Fri 28th April 2017

Family Violence Tragedies Will Increase

Filed under: Domestic Violence,Gender Politics,Law & Courts — Ministry of Men's Affairs @ 12:40 pm

This Australian tragedy appears to be another example of the pernicious effects of feminism. An 18yo woman attacked and murdered her grandfather because he criticized her mother’s parenting skills. While we don’t know the details of the history etc, you can be sure that part of the picture involved feminist thought patterns demonizing men, beliefs that men have no right to criticize women or when they do it’s unacceptable patriarchal power and control. (more…)

workplace deaths all men

Filed under: General — Miles 64 @ 10:37 am

7 deaths in a 2 week period in NZ-all men.

And none of these jobs (forestry, construction, farming) have been adjudged as worthy of a payrise. The danger alone in these occupations warrants financial acknowledgement.

Yet when caregivers were compared to prison officers (another dangerous occupation) they were deemed as being discriminated against.

The logic (or lack thereof), and blatant disregard for male workers is appalling. It cannot be justified giving caregivers a raise when there are so many other worthy, indispensable, highly-skilled people oriented occupations that get squat!

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