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Wed 10th December 2008

Perth: Archbishop Barry Hickey laments lost fathers

Filed under: General — Vman @ 8:04 pm

THE absence of fathers is the biggest family and social problem in our society, according to Catholic Archbishop Barry Hickey.

Delivering his pre-Christmas message on Friday, Archbishop Hickey said the absence of dads was a bigger problem than drugs.

“If Father Christmas was offering me gifts, I would ask for peace in every family and a father at the heart of every family,” he said.

“The absence of fathers is the biggest family and social problem we face today. It is the biggest cause of lifelong difficulties for fathers, mothers and, most of all, for children.

“The absence of fathers is bigger than anger, aggression, alcohol, drugs, crime and under-achievement by children because it is the biggest single contributor to all of them.

Cosby speaks to legislature’s Task Force on Fatherlessness

Filed under: General — Vman @ 7:00 pm

Bill Cosby speaks to legislature’s Task Force on Fatherlessness

“I believe the reason I’m here is to get these fine servants of the public to feel and understand the pain that goes with the sadness when one is abandoned.”

In 2006, more than a fifth of Connecticut households with children under 18 were headed by a single mother.

Yale Child Psychologist Kyle Pruitt says the state has already laid some groundwork to improve those statistics. There are child support debt forgiveness programs and parenting education for prison inmates. What’s needed now, Pruitt says, is a cultural shift within state agencies to change the focus from children’s mothers to a sustained concentration on both parents’ involvement.

The Families Commision has become hostile towards fathers.

Filed under: General — Vman @ 4:58 pm

Rather than being simply apathetic towards fathers, the Families Commision has become hostile towards fathers.

“The Families Commission has accepted the political reality of having a new minister and scrapped plans for a $200,000 conference.

Social Development Minister Paula Bennett discovered plans for the conference in a briefing paper, released publicly yesterday.

She got in contact with the commission to say it was inappropriate in tough economic times and encouraged it to reconsider.


The conference was to be held in Auckland in February bringing together 150 “leaders and decision makers”.

Among attendees expected were The Warehouse founder Stephen Tindall, Principal Family Court Judge Peter Boshier, public sector chief executives, sector and business groups and unions.

The Families Commission was a United Future Party initiative.”

As far as I know not a single father’s group was invited.

Tue 9th December 2008

Mum ‘slit her five kids’ throats’

Filed under: General — Vman @ 3:46 pm

By Philippe Siuberski in Nivelles, Belgium

December 09, 2008 11:05am

A WOMAN lured her five children upstairs one by one and slit their throats before trying to kill herself, a court has been told.

Belgian woman Genevieve Lhermitte, 42, is on trial for the murders of her four daughters and son, aged from three to 14. (more…)

Restorative Justice and Intimate Partner Violence

Filed under: Domestic Violence — JohnPotter @ 12:01 pm

Last night I attended a presentation at Men’s Centre North Shore by PHD student Anne Hayden. She came to public prominence recently by taking the Herceptin petition to Parliament.

The meeting was attended by 19 men and 2 woman. Although passions ran high at times, the discussion which followed was ably chaired by Jim Bagnal.

Anne’s past experience as a Victim Support worker was that in many relationships it really is a case of “it takes 2 to tango”. Talking about the Mutuality of Violence publicly made her unpopular with feminists, for whom this concept is heresy of the highest order. Anne told us she has been permanently removed from at least one friend’s Christmas card list! (more…)

Sat 6th December 2008

Attack on Male Principals

Filed under: General — Scrap_The_CSA @ 10:21 pm

Illiterate, sexist and anti-intellectual school boards are appointing poorly qualified school principals, says a researcher with 15 years experience working with boards.”



World Festival of Magic

Filed under: Events — Julie @ 10:48 am

The ‘World Festival of Magic’ has been running for 20 years. It’s a magnificent 90-minute family orientated show and has been touring in over 70 cities in Australia and New Zealand. (more…)

Wed 3rd December 2008

No Progress Evident

Filed under: General — Ministry of Men's Affairs @ 8:55 am

Our new government seems to be off to a good start. Instant protection orders to ensure thousands more children are disconnected from their fathers, DNA to be taken from anyone arrested on suspicion of a crime, and more prisons to be built to throw men into.

Sun 30th November 2008

HELP for “When mother hurts father” – UK style

Filed under: General,Men's Health — MurrayBacon @ 2:56 pm

In NZ, the debate about domestic violence hasn’t got past the “90% of domestic violence victims are women, so provide support services only for the women”. (The values are wrong AND the statistics are wrong!)

In NZ, 90% of serious assault victims and murder victims are male.

In UK, there are working helpline services which do offer support, counselling and assistance to men!

If there is a need, buy a telephone card, remember the time zone difference, practice your accent and make a call.

When mother hurts father

There is help available, even for NZ men.

Alternatively, remember that one of the best ways to save yourself, is to give a little bit of help to others, who are momentarily in a harder situation than yourself. There is a real need for support givers in NZ. Add a bit of your energy to these support givers.

Cheers, MurrayBacon the blood spattered axe-murder.

Sat 29th November 2008

Politicians showing concern for childrens upbringing

Filed under: General — MurrayBacon @ 12:18 pm

For me, it is sad that the conditions around our children’s upbringing, did not receive much discussion during the recent election campaign.
Issues include:
almost complete absence of men among preschool and primary teachers <10%
relatively few men among secondary school teachers <25%
Unskilled familycaughts failing to make care decisions based on the real life environments around disadvantaged children.
Govt provided incentives for breaking up families, causing as much problems for children as it solves
eg DPB
Domestic Violence Act which has large potential for abuse and no controls active on such abuse
together families taxed harder to subsidise the types of families that deliver poorer outcomes for children

These types of issues were discussed in NZ, but gained very little media traction and relatively little public interest.

In England, such issues are receiving wider discussion.

Tue 25th November 2008

Auckland Woman tourtured and murdered baby

Filed under: General — Vman @ 4:11 pm

An Auckland woman has been sentenced to life imprisonment with minimum non parole period of 17 years for the murder of ten month old baby Jynia Te Awa.

Tiana Kapea, who was the child’s minder, has also been sentenced to three years jail on a cruelty charge – that is to be served concurrently with the life sentence. (more…)

Lesbian murderers not being separated in jail

Filed under: General — Vman @ 2:04 pm

Two young lesbian murderers are defying the wishes of a Supreme Court judge in Perth by spending recreational time in prison together, Attorney-General Christian Porter said yesterday.

In March, Judge Peter Blaxell sentenced 21-year-old Jessica Stasinowsky and 19-year-old Valerie Parashumti to life in prison for the wilful murder of teenager Stacey Mitchell.

Their friend of three days was bludgeoned to death and strangled with a chain before the two women kissed over her body and threw it into a wheelie-bin. (more…)

Mon 24th November 2008

Woman so obviously lying case is struck out

Filed under: General — Vman @ 4:52 pm

The case was struck out but (a) it should never have gone to trial in the first place and (b) what about perjury?

From http://www.abc.net.au/news/stories/2008/11/21/2426849.htm?section=sport

Rape charges against New Zealand Warriors NRL player Michael Crockett have been dismissed by a Sydney court.

Crockett, 25, fronted a committal hearing on Friday at Sydney’s Downing Centre Local Court on three sex charges.

The diminutive winger was accused of raping a 19-year-old woman whom he met at a nightclub during after-game celebrations in August last year. (more…)

Sun 23rd November 2008

Men and Domestic Violence

Filed under: Domestic Violence,Law & Courts — Julie @ 4:32 am

Hans made a good point in one of his comments stating that the Domestic Violence laws in New Zealand are biased against men.

Canada has a solid Men’s Movement and since the 80’s have tried to find fairness for fathers, men and boys as well as stop the bias and hatred feminism tries so hard to hold on to. But after all the years they found a way to gain care for male victims of DV. (more…)

Fri 21st November 2008

The Family Court’s weakest point.

Filed under: Law & Courts — Vman @ 5:28 pm

Many people don’t appear to realise how vulnerable the NZ Family Court is. The weakest point of the NZ Family Court is public confidence in it. Once the public confidence in the Family Court drops below a certain level the Family Court looses all power and authority. This is the greatest threat to the family court.

Public confidence in it is very low and weak yet there is a certain degree of implied confidence in it. New Zealanders are very law abiding in general. So newly separated fathers feel they have no realistic option other than to enguage in the Family Court process. Thus some commentators refer to it as the Family Caught.

Many men and fathers groups have tried for a great many years to bring about change to the Family Caught in NZ. Their frustration at the lack of progress is palitable. I can’t think of a peaceful approach that someone or some group have not tried. No matter what approach they take they are criticised. Usually this criticism is directed at them in the form of a personal attack. Yet for all this work and effort the outcomes for fathers and children appear to be little or no better. (more…)

Wed 19th November 2008

Nia Glassie’s siblings doing well with Dad

Filed under: Domestic Violence,Law & Courts — Vman @ 3:41 pm

Nia Glassie’s siblings are thriving in Tokoroa with their grandparents and father as their mother and others implicated in  their sister’s death face jail.

Lisa Kuka, 35, was found guilty of two charges of manslaughter in the High Court at Rotorua yesterday after a month-long trial that revealed shocking details of months of abuse that ended in  her three-year-old  daughter’s death.

Kuka’s partner, Wiremu Curtis, 19, and his brother Michael, 22, were both found guilty of murdering Nia. A cousin of Nia’s father, Glassie Glassie jnr, who asked not to be named, told the Waikato Times Nia’s three siblings from Kuka’s relationship with Mr Glassie, aged 12, 11 and 9, were thriving.

“The kids have an awesome relationship with their grand-parents, dad and the extended family,”   the cousin said. (more…)

Does the new government speak with forked tongue?

Filed under: Domestic Violence,General,Law & Courts — Vman @ 1:06 pm

I don’t know how to go about it but I think this is an opportunity to press for the state apparatus to support father involvement. Fatherless children are at risk children.

Tariana Turia states “Families need to stay strongly connected so that they are able pick up on any issues that arise.” So now is the time to ask her what she is going to do to combat the Family Court to stop their culture of creating barriers to separated fathers being connected with their children. (more…)

Mon 17th November 2008

Reactions of women compared to men.

Filed under: Law & Courts — Vman @ 6:23 pm

My story is pretty bad but so are many fathers.  One thing I learnt years ago is that there is always another father with an even worse experience than yours.  Mine is a bad one all the same.

When I tell people about my story with my ex, the family court and so on,  I find that women at least at first find it hard to believe, whereas men believe it.  Also I find that women are much more shocked that a mother could behave that way whereas men aren’t particularly surprised.  I find this observation holds up pretty consistently. I think it is says a lot about women and society.

My question to you fathers is: do you find a similar pattern to the reactions when you tell people about your situation/story?

Brisbane woman charged with torture

Filed under: Domestic Violence,Law & Courts — Vman @ 2:07 pm

Nov 16 2008

A Brisbane woman has been charged with torturing a two-year-old boy admitted to hospital with serious injuries.

Queensland Police charged the 29-year-old woman from Regents Park, in Brisbane’s south, with one count each of torture, cruelty to a child and two counts of assault occasioning bodily harm.

She was arrested after police were called to the Mater Children’s Hospital in Brisbane on Saturday to investigate injuries sustained by the toddler.

Police say the boy has been admitted to hospital and is undergoing treatment for serious injuries.

The woman will appear in the Beenleigh Magistrates Court on Monday.


Can you imagine a woman in New Zealand being charged and convicted of torture? Yet that is exactly what should happen in many cases.

Sat 15th November 2008

Crying Wolf – 60 minutes documentary

Filed under: Events — Julie @ 1:37 pm

For people who are falsely accused of rape, the extent goes much deeper than a bad reputation. Lost spouses, lost jobs — lives left in ruins.

But the damage doesn’t stop with them. There are people who are not receiving police attention because the valuable police resources are tied up with these false complaints. Genuine victims of sex crimes suffer because of the false claims made by others.

So just how many complaints are fake? On one side you have the politically correct feminists, saying almost none. On the other side you have the men’s groups, who say the majority are made up. Which is true?

Please note correction of date. It is the 17th not the 24th November.

Date and Time: Monday 24th November, 7:30pm

Video: Crying Wolf is available on the TV3 website here

Fri 14th November 2008

Men’s intuition good enough to be used as caught evidence!

Filed under: Child Support,Domestic Violence,General,Law & Courts,Sex Abuse / CYF — MurrayBacon @ 10:50 pm

It seems that men’s intuition is more than good enough, to be used in familycaught, as evidence?

Interestingly, scientific checking shows that women’s intuition is less sensitive and less accurate.

Men’s suspicious minds better at spotting infidelity

Suspicious dads spark surge in sales of DNA kits

Is this a bit of a turnaround from the familycaught’s “processing” of Domestic Violence complaints? where the familycaught accepts women’s intuition over men’s, even though at a macro level – the hospital admissions records totally puts the lie to the number of “protection orders” issued by these clowns!

Protection orders – the quantitative figures See #7, 10 and 17.

Anyway, I hope you can enjoy a laugh at these [judicial] clowns and not let them get under your skin, or waste your taxpayer dollars.

There is a catch of course, its not Political Clowning.

If we took it seriously and wanted to minimise the Government’s losses from refunding [spousal and] child support (without recovering it from most of the mothers), then we just need to sort it out correctly just after the birth. This is the cheapest and safest [and most honest!] approach, why don’t we just do it?

We have to face up to the leaky creaky condoms crisis, or it will cost us more in the long run. Its funny how the ripoff artists always want to bite the deep-pockets, who can’t run away. I always thought that you couldn’t get a woman pregnant, while you were looking the other way.

Ah, evidence – its such a complex subject that the average man on the street couldn’t hope to understand the finer points…. I would trust them more than a “clown in a gown”, lost and confused by sympathy and stupidity.

Cheers, MurrayBacon.

Thu 13th November 2008

Stratergy Conference Call

Filed under: Domestic Violence,General — Scrap_The_CSA @ 4:25 pm

If you are interested in joining a Skype Conference Call to discuss planning a thorough and complete stratergy to respond to the proposed on the spot protection orders please email jnicolle@paradise.net.nz

·        You need to have skype

·        You need to be committed to action


Alleged Gender Gap

Filed under: General — Ministry of Men's Affairs @ 11:58 am

An organisation called the World Economic Forum has released a report on how much the world’s countries have closed the “gender gap”. New Zealand ranks fifth behind Iceland and the Nordic countries. Here is an excerpt from their web pages:

New Zealand (5) and Australia (21) continue to perform well in the rankings. Both countries have fully closed the gap on the educational attainment subindex and both perform well on economic participation indicators. Between 2007 and 2008, both countries show gains on economic participation, educational attainment and political empowerment. Sub-Saharan Africa
Lesotho (16) takes over the top spot in the region, holding once again the uppermost spots on health and education, while also showing improvements in economic participation and political empowerment. It is followed by Mozambique (18) as the only other African country in the top 20.

I note that the Radio NZ news item today suggested the report showed many countries were slowing their progress towards reducing the “gender gap”, but what I have seen of other descriptions and releases about the report did not give that impression at all. Our media seem to feed us the propaganda feminists love. (more…)

A request for Gender Equality

Filed under: General — Tigerseye @ 10:31 am

This is a draught of the letter to be sent to Mr Key, please read over it and comment about what changes, additions or subtractions you feel are necessary. A week from now I will circulate for signatory from men’s groups.

Dear Prime Minister John Key,

Congratulations on your appointment to Prime Minister of New Zealand, your success has certainly shown that New Zealand is wanting change. To wit I am writing to you on behalf of a number of Men’s groups around New Zealand regarding an ongoing concern on gender equality. (more…)

Wed 12th November 2008

Good luck

Filed under: General — UF @ 3:10 pm

I have taken a keen interest in family law and men’s issues. I worked with Judy to draft and get the DNA bill on the order paper, where it now languishes because United fell 0.3% short of getting Judy Turner back into Parliament. (more…)

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