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Christchurch a ‘living hell’ for Asian brides

Filed under: Domestic Violence — JohnPotter @ 9:35 am Wed 8th June 2005

Christchurch has become a “living hell” for some Asian women married to abusive Kiwi husbands, a Chinese-language newspaper reports.

iBall, a bilingual, weekly paper, says under the headline “Living Hell” that at least eight Chinese women were assaulted by their Christchurch husbands last month.

It published harrowing first-hand accounts from two women, brought to New Zealand after meeting their husbands over the internet or through a dating agency, about being beaten, and in one instance being forced to have sex with other men.

The eight women in the report had contacted the Shakti Ethnic Women’s Support Group for help.

The group then approached the newspaper to help it to publicise the women’s plight. Even the limited number of copies already distributed had prompted more Asian women to complain to the newspaper, Tan said.

One woman complained she had no control over money in her relationship with her New Zealand husband, and another woman was not allowed to associate with other Asians.

A spokeswoman for Shakti said the police were dealing with the issue case by case.

“The only thing we can do is work with the women,” she said.

“This is a relationship with two consenting adults.

“We can’t do much more than educate women about their rights.”

Christchurch police Asian liaison officer Rakesh Naidoo said he was not personally aware of any cases of domestic violence by New Zealand men on their Asian wives, but added: “If it’s taking place in one particular community, we would have a chat with them.

“If there are women who are being abused, it’s serious,” he said.

“We’d like to hear from them.”

Police family violence co-ordinator Pegeen O’Rourke said the problem had to be seen in the context of Christchurch police attending more than 400 incidents of domestic violence a month.


  1. More hatemongering uncorroborated accusations. Gotta hand it to the sistaas. They sure know how provoke folks with thier bilious propoganda scuttlebutting Kiwi guys.

    Odd that a woman claims she was sexually assaulted by her husband and his cronies can’t simply walk into any copshop, get screened and prove what she’s claiming is true.
    I suppose her excusers would say she wouldn’t do that as back home the cops are all misogynist patriarchs blah, blah, blah, blah, blah…..

    Nice touch at the end there too – linking 400 ‘incidents’ of domestic abuse to the rest of the article. Someone’s obviously been doing thier femthink 101 homework.

    Comment by Stephen — Thu 9th June 2005 @ 12:30 pm

  2. I am a victim of Domestic Violence – i was 4 months pregnant when i had to stand up for my right – i had been very quiet about the verbal, physical abuse, mental torture i was going through but last December i gathered the courage to call 111 when i was strangled and punched by my ex-husband (indian). he was arrested and is now been convicted; as he initially pleaded not guilty!!! I now have a beautiful son who is 7 weeks old and is my custody – the father of the child had not been there since we parted in December last year. Unfortunately i had not gone to the press but Vivina – the WOmens Refuge Ctr had been very helpful in terms of moral support and being there for me while taking a stand in the court. I am now living with my brother and his family. I came here on a work permit and applied for Residency under partnership and during the domestic dispute, my husband had withdrawn his sponsorship (which his family backed him 100%) – now the New Zealand Immigration tells me to go back to my home country and they have not accepted my Residency under DOmestic Violence. How fair is that? A NZ Citizen abuses a foreigner and NZ authority tells me to leave the country in a months time. And my ex-husband is walking free and i wont be surprised if he re-marries (the third) time and will ruin another innocent women’s life. If i had my way – all abusive men will be castrated. He is now on DOmestic Purpose Benefit – eating tax payers money…. He should be the one told to leave the county. At least i am working part time and feeding my child and getting his needs fulfilled unlike him – not giving me a single penny. I hope one day justice is done.

    Comment by Ali Zah — Thu 14th July 2005 @ 1:42 pm

  3. Hello Ali,
    I sympathize with all folks – men and women who are victims of domestic violence.

    However I’m horrified at your wanting all abusive men castrated. My God! What barbarism!

    When I hear that kind of extreme response I can’t help but wonder if the abuse in your relationship wasn’t both ways.

    Comment by Stephen — Sun 17th July 2005 @ 3:08 pm

  4. Thats actually quite sad that this is happening. I myself could never imagine doing things like that to anyone…

    Comment by Brad — Mon 19th September 2005 @ 12:12 am

  5. Why are all these feminists putting false posts using phoney names ? They must be feeling very threatened. Men are much more clever than them however.

    Comment by Kiwi in thailand — Tue 29th June 2010 @ 4:45 pm

  6. Theo i agree but they are very greedy and milk you dry. Kiwi men are regularly fleeced of their life savings here

    Comment by Kiwi in thailand — Tue 29th June 2010 @ 4:50 pm

  7. Gavin,
    you say –

    i like asian women because of their exotic looks and mild mannered personality

    I’ve lived and traveled in Asia for several years and don’t see many mild mannered women.
    Coquettish yes, but when push comes to shove they’ll erupt like women anywhere I’ve been to in the world and women from any of the hundreds of nations I’ve met.
    Many if not most of the more modern women there take feminist notions as a given enjoying such spoils whilst admittedly not being so openly strident as their western sisters.
    I haven’t seen a bra burning in Tokyo or Bangkok yet! And try crossing a woman in Seoul or Shanghai. Oh my god! Duck!

    Comment by Skeptik — Mon 23rd August 2010 @ 11:57 am

  8. Gavin has never lived in an Asian country, I suspect. Thailand is not the world centre of penis reattachment surgery for nothing.
    Asian ladies – you must be very very careful of.

    Comment by Kiwi in Thailand — Mon 23rd August 2010 @ 5:17 pm

  9. now the New Zealand Immigration tells me to go back to my home country and they have not accepted my Residency under DOmestic Violence. How fair is that

    Very fair. Residing here does not gaurantee residency. If domestic violence became a ground for residency the floodgates would open and the dyke is leaky enough already.

    Domestic violenece is wrong but should never be a ground for residency.

    Comment by Scrap_The_CSA — Mon 23rd August 2010 @ 8:31 pm

  10. i would love to marry asian women eventhough they are not as sexy as western women. asian women have great manners and prioritizes the family so much “,

    Comment by Pedestal Table — Sat 4th December 2010 @ 8:50 pm

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