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Net brides lured and abused by Bay men

Filed under: Domestic Violence — JohnPotter @ 5:55 pm Sun 15th May 2005

White, middle-aged Western Bay men are luring poverty-stricken internet brides from overseas by lying about their income and occupation – and then using the women as virtual slaves after they arrive.

Tauranga Women’s Refuge currently has five internet brides in abusive relationships on its books – two Americans, one South American, one Polynesian and one from Thailand – and has dealt with a total of at least 10 in the past year.

Those numbers did not account for those who were too afraid to come forward.

The refuge estimates that in general three-quarters of internet brides have been sexually abused.

To escape their marriages and stay in the country, women must prove domestic violence or police involvement in their case which was a slow and difficult process, Miss McLean said.

Miss McLean is outraged the marriages are still legal and wants a blanket ban on them.

New Zealand law currently allows internet brides to be “purchased”. Once married, these women often depend on their husbands to stay in this country legally.

But under the Department of Labour’s “victims of domestic violence” policy, women can apply for special permits to stay in New Zealand without sponsorship if they can prove police intervention or domestic violence.

Five such applications have been approved for the Bay of Plenty, Waikato and Coromandel since 2001. One application has been approved so far this year.

Police family violence co-ordinator Detective Jason Perry was not aware of any reported cases of internet bride abuse in the Bay. “I’m sure it does go on but there’s nothing that has come to our attention. We know it’s out there but these people are more likely to go to those social services.”


  1. So What’s a Father to do, who is the victim of false allegations? The feminazi’s clearly enjoy destroying the family and creating lost children, who long to connect emotionally with their parents. How many more years is this terrible lie to continue??? Someone save our Children!!!

    Comment by Peter Burns — Sun 15th May 2005 @ 6:16 pm

  2. The feminist hate industry continues it’s campaign against men.

    Comment by Stephen Gee — Sun 15th May 2005 @ 9:00 pm

  3. “Women’s Refuge” that about says it all. Go away Aunty Helen and take all your funny-boys, funny-girls and “feminazis” with you. You are neither liked nor wanted in real New Zealand.

    Comment by Sparx — Mon 16th May 2005 @ 9:00 am

  4. This offers more objectivity

    Abuse stories ‘lies’

    Sunday Star Times 15/5/05

    FOREIGN WOMEN may be falsely alleging domestic abuse to gain residency residency or access to their children, men’s advocates say.
    Last week the Sunday Star-Times reported increasing numbers of foreign women were turning up at Women’s Refuge having been abused by New Zealand men they met on the internet.
    Since then, the paper has received several emails alleging women were falsely reporting domestic abuse to gain residency.
    Women who enter the country for a relationship and are then abused by their partner can apply to the Department of Labour for work and residence visas based on a domestic violence policy. Last year 37 applications applcations were made.
    None of the correspondents doubted domestic violence occurred, but said there may be cases of crying crying wolf to circumvent norma1 immigration channels.

    Comment by triassic — Mon 16th May 2005 @ 9:03 pm

  5. hmm, so objectivity == agreeing with what you think?

    Comment by damian — Tue 17th May 2005 @ 4:26 pm

  6. No Damian,
    Can you get past being feminist reaction and see that having objectivity means being able to see more than one viewpoint?

    Comment by Stephen — Wed 18th May 2005 @ 12:49 am

  7. point taken, i misread the connotations of the ‘this offers more objectivity’ statement.

    as context, i’ve had some contact with a number of very conservative weblog communities who would complain bitterly about the 12 or so media articles espousing one particular angle on a situation, and then find one which agreed with their perspective and point it out as a beacon of objective journalism in a world of media bias, seemingly unable to see that the article they claim as ‘objective’ has just as much bias as the other 12, it’s just biased in another direction.

    Comment by damian — Wed 18th May 2005 @ 2:58 pm

  8. My wife has falsely charge me with a threat to kill her(verbal) and male assault female. the police officer who made the domestic voilence report found no alchohol, no fire arm, no injury only her word against me. my partner is on work permit here which she qualified on partnership with me.
    she was previously married before but she married me as spinster. i am served with protection order and criminal charges.
    please help me what should i do

    Comment by DEEPAK — Sun 26th June 2005 @ 4:26 pm

  9. Hello Deepak

    The best thing you can do is to get in touch with other men who understand what you are going through. This is not the kind of situation that you should try and deal with on you own – it is far too easy to make stupid decisions when under emotional stress.

    Have a look for “local groups” on our support page, and get in touch with the one nearest you:
    NZ Men’s support groups.

    If there are no groups available in your area, you could join the Paul’s News email list, and request support and information there.

    Comment by JohnP — Mon 27th June 2005 @ 9:41 am

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