Police are on the front line when it comes to dealing with volatility in relationships so one would think that they would be given special training with regards to inflaming situations by making decisions that lack any intelligence.

This appears however, not to be the case. I have found that whilst the police do not have the power to convict they do have the power to abuse their position. Driven by bigotry and prejudice they can make your life a misery. They know that putting you into the system, by laying charges , is going to cost you money and stress over a considerable length of time. Without any evidence and in a situation where it is evident that a complainant has been involved in previous false allegations against me, a police woman, Constable Low from the Manurewa Enquiry Section, proceeded to charge me with threatening to Injure.

In April last year my ex wife lost her fight to have our prenuptial over turned ( this is a story in it self and it cost me over $150K to defend) She immediately moved away from Auckland to another town against my and the courts wishes.
I filed for my Childs return and went to serve the papers on her. Her new boyfriend became aggressive towards me and threatened me in front of a witness.

Months later in July, only a few days before the case was heard, I was advised that a complaint was made to CYFS that I had sexually abused my child. This was dealt with efficiently by the court through Judge Clarkson and I was cleared by CYFS. (Its so easy to write this but difficult to explain the emotional impact)

The court directed that my child was to live back in Auckland. And an appeal was lodge by her mother. We did change overs in MacDonald’s. In October, despite the previous confrontation with her boy friend my wife sent him on his own for the change over. He was rude and aggressive with me and my daughter became upset and did not want to go with him. It broke my heart to see her in this state. I rang her mother and suggested that her boyfriend should not be present at these changeovers.

Two weeks later at the changeover he was present again, sitting at a table with my child. Her mother was 15 meters away getting coffee.. Rather than to make a scene I decided I would get the court to stop him so I approached the table happy to see my daughter. When my daughter saw me she became distressed and crying said she did not want to go with me. She ran off crying to her mother. I was saddened and outraged at the same time. I reiterated to the boyfriend that he should not be there and he answered with some sarcastic remark.

I became enraged with his actions and my wife’s acceptance of it. I went up to the table he was sitting at and, controlling my wish to knock his block off, I gave him a piece of my mind expressing to him what I thought of him in the strongest terms I could get my mouth to speak, but I did NOT THREATEN HIM WITH INJURY. He in fact threatened to hit me if I did not move away from him. I then went over and picked up my child and left. As I left MacDonald’s he was laughing and yelling at me.

I heard nothing from the Police or anyone regarding this matter for nearly three months. Then, a few days before the court case in January, Constable Low came to my home and said she wished to interview me regarding this matter. I asked that the interview be videotaped.

She advised me that the boyfriend had made an allegation that I had threatened to “…. deal to you that you won’t see another day” He said that he and my ex wife were distressed and frightened at the time.

I vigorously denied that I had made that remark and told Low the history of the case. She appeared to be oblivious to anything I put forward. I told her that I had transcripts from the family court showing that he had been involved in false allegations. She proceeded to tell me that the family court has a lower level of proof (don’t we know it) and she therfore would only listen to facts!!!! (Helloooo anyone home) She told me that there was a witness to the incident, however, as he was deaf he only saw me leaning over the complainant. Low then stated that due to me having a firearms licence she deemed she had justification in assuming that I would carry out the alleged threat. Realising that this interview was 3 months after the alledged threat I became aware that either Constable Low was a complete moron or she had a hidden agenda. She then formally charged me.

The following day I was in family court on the relocation issue. My wife was in the witness box giving evidence when we had a morning break As I walked out of the court room I heard my ex say “Drop these proceedings and M*** will drop his”
I mentioned it to my lawyer and he questioned her on the stand. She denied saying anything to me at first but under intense pressure by counsel she eventually admitted the statement.

Constable Low rang me a few days later and I pleaded with her to reconsider laying the charge. She refused to do so and I then asked her if she was driven by an agenda, was she a feminist? The phone went dead for a few seconds then a torrent of anger came out. She said “you may be use to bossing women around but this is one you won’t” and she hung up the phone.

Now I knew my suspicions were correct….. My wife and she must have had some good sessions together and once again my wife had managed to convince some good hearted moron to take her side. The last one cost me $150K. which has left me financially exhausted and about to lose my home. The court decision has left my child (whilst temporary) in the another town. This means I don’t see my child as much. I will probably be convicted of this charge because it will be turned into a domestic situation (Man vs Woman) and this conviction will be used against me when a rehearing on custody is made.

I have lost faith in the system. In the last 4 years I have been thrown out of my home illegally. Forced to defend a prenuptial against absolutley ridiculous claims, twice. I have been accused of perpetrating violence against my child and wife with no substantial proof then when I want to defend, the charges are withdrawn. I have undergone humiliating allegations of a sexual nature against my child. I am now defending false allegations of threatening behaviour issued by the NZ police (and sanctioned by senior officers) whilst in reality I was just defending the rights of my child to have safe and undisturbed transitions between parents. (Even passive Jesus lost his cool when he saw traders desecrating the temple )

I have a friend who fought the fight for 14 yrs and the damage done to him is frightening. His children have told me that they wish he wasn’t so depressed all the time as it affects them.

In ignorance I believed NZ was a country that held the values of family as sacred. I was wrong; it is built on the values of feminism.

If I remain in NZ I can see more trouble for me, and worst of all terrible heartache . I have decided that my child will be better off with me being alive when she is a teenager than a depressed or a dead zombie. I have fought a good fight but I think I am too old for this shit.

It’s ANZAC day tomorrow and it saddens me that so many men died to defend this country because they believed that it provided a place for them and their children’s hopes and dreams which were almost always built around family. My Uncle will turn in his grave if he knows what has happened to me.

Men today are pariahs once they are separated from their wives.