I have gained so much information and insight from males on this site and I want to tell you as many other people may do or forget to do, “Thank-you.”

From having the opportunity to sit with the North Shore mens group, I can see you really help not just a father and child but a person to find a way to have a chance to be what is important, being thier own life.

I could tell each one individually how special you are but it is what you do together that makes such a difference. You guys don’t do what you do for money, for you do things in your own personal time which you have a right to be selfish with.

What was so impressional to me was the fact that you do not lay blame, for you ask others what their part was and challenge thier fathering role. Not only that, but you give reality to men that may want to deny their women are serious and willing to use the Domestic Violence as a weapon.

Oh my God, you have taught me that I have brought upon myself the reactions I received from my ex-husband. I never saw my actions as encouraging violence until now. I used to put things down to outside influence like alcohol and drugs thinking that you and I were from different worlds but I now see that having a male come home to a house where his woman says, “You can’t come in, because I don’t want you here” is so outrageous. How would I feel working hard and being told in an instance that I am not allowed to enter my home, that I should sleep in my car and somehow in an instant start a life all over again. And then on top of that a huge chunk of my money is taken away from me. You are better than the best for continuing on against all the odds. You put up with us women and I can’t believe that you even want to know us.

I know I am a woman that you guys would normally see as the enemy but I have changed my thinking and I intend to change other women’s thinking.

What was so outrageous last night is that I was under the impression that I had cancelled last night and a friend who has never been into religion said to me, “Maybe God has something in plan for you.” A higher power is neccessary in addiction problems but not God. And then a knock on the door. If that sounds out of it then you know how I feel. But I received more than I hoped for.

So I want to thank you Paul C, Jim Bagnell, Jim Bailey, Dave L, Kerry, Murray, John P, Bevan, Stephen, Intrepid, Starr, Leon, Paul M, Mark, James and the all of you that care for mens issues because without you 300,000 children are without their fathers today and my boys won’t have even the slightest chance.

julie