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Paternity Fraud – Are you a victim

Filed under: General — Scrap_The_CSA @ 10:02 am Sat 22nd July 2006

Are a New Zealand dad and a victim of misattributed paternity?

Would you be prepared to share your story, this can be done anonymously, with a reporter from a major New Zealand daily news paper?

Email [email protected] with a brief summary and your contact details.




  1. Only n/z men can participate or else where if that pse advise an d i submit

    Comment by davidssebaduka — Sat 22nd July 2006 @ 8:50 pm

  2. Scrap,

    Can you please elaberate on what you are looking for?
    I think you are looking solely for dads that got the test done to prove otherwise and were found not to be the dad. And how they were almost paying out alot of money.
    But this might not be the case so that’s why I ask.

    Comment by julie — Sun 23rd July 2006 @ 8:38 am

  3. Julie, Thanks for your comment.

    1) If you are a Kiwi dad and believe that paternity has been misattributed or know that it is and have had or want to have a DNA test thats what I am looking for.

    2)Money, although relevant, is a sexondary concern. Its really about the impact in all areas of the kids and dads life that this deciet has.

    Hope that carifies



    Comment by Scrap_The_CSA — Sun 23rd July 2006 @ 10:51 am

  4. 3 years too late for this. Would have loved to take part in this as I have just been tagged for child support for a kid I supposedly created 13 yrs ago. I am now officially broke. Just the current support I have to pay leaves me in the negative. My loan and cards are all maxed and as I’m fighting this I have an ever increasing lawyers bill. (She gets legal aid of course, along with the dole shes been getting since 16, The DPB, Her partners income and the 2 cash under the table jobs).I have $21k in arrears that just got bumped up to 23K. I’m stressed, continually falling ill and have tried to kill myself.

    Comment by MyrddinEmrys — Tue 14th July 2009 @ 11:37 pm

  5. Hi MyrddinEmrys,

    Your story sounds familiar. I guess it is because menz is filled with pages upon pages or men going through the same scenario.

    It isn’t fair, it isn’t equity, it isn’t ethical and it isn’t law abiding.

    But your life is more valuable than any power, more valuable than any possession and absolutely irreplaceable.

    So many here and on other sites know your walk. It is good that you have opened up here. IMHO.

    I don’t know if you have help yet available? Do you?

    Comment by julie — Wed 15th July 2009 @ 8:25 am

  6. Hi

    My husband OR the ex-husband are the victim of Paternity Fraud and we have a VERY interesting story and would like to tell our story
    Please advise what we would need to do

    Comment by Name Removed — Tue 5th February 2013 @ 6:03 pm

  7. Just start typing and share 🙂

    Comment by Too Tired — Tue 5th February 2013 @ 6:14 pm

  8. My husband OR the ex-husband?

    Surely one or the other????

    Comment by wtf — Tue 5th February 2013 @ 7:46 pm

  9. I thought you wanted to share your story here? I mearly meant type it here and ww will read it.

    Comment by Too Tired — Tue 5th February 2013 @ 8:32 pm

  10. @WTF one woman’s husband could be another woman’s ex husband.

    Comment by Down Under — Wed 6th February 2013 @ 6:33 am

  11. Obviously the male is being sued, for lying.
    Shaking my head, in disbelief.

    So the Japanese, have a right to know law.
    Which I support, as a child’s basic human right.
    So to get around it, she chooses a less safe method.

    Would she have named the father, on the birth certificate.
    Or would they have lied, and put the name of the husband.
    Did he even know, it was happening.

    Yes create a legal precedent, for lying.


    This is actually, a eugenics argument.
    Getting performing genes, must improve outcomes.
    Darwin argued only 1% better, is needed for evolution.

    But the time frame is huge, to make superhumans.
    Even humans, evolved for the Moon and Mars.
    Why stop there, evolved to travel to stars.

    Even with the tested good genes, one can create a low performing child.
    Even with the tested bad genes, one can create a high performing child.
    One only need to know, what are you testing.

    I have a sneaky suspicion, there is racism in this subject.

    Comment by DJ Ward — Thu 13th January 2022 @ 8:50 pm

  12. Things that are bad, can end up being good.

    So the story, I’m guessing is the common version.
    Maybe not the telling the truth, to the partner part.
    However there was already honesty, about affairs.
    It was inevitable, the partner would think of the possibility.

    So the female, desperately wants to be a mother.
    And it’s the partners intent as well, but he to is having problems.
    The story stereotyping an assumption, about males.
    That if it’s not his, he will abandon the partner.

    I have no doubt, many men would end the relationship.
    But would it not be different, in that the male could conceive.
    Not where the males choice, is being childless.
    That they can accept and embrace, being a father by another man.

    The question becomes, the child’s rights.
    Law does not accommodate, these situations.
    Where the biological father, is named.
    But another male, becomes the legal parent.


    The crime occurs, with dishonesty.
    In putting down something false, in a legal document.
    You struggle to forgive dishonesty, without accountability.
    Yet honesty can easily be forgiven, without accountability.

    How then would the tricked, and manipulated respond.
    Is the stereotyping, then justified.

    Comment by DJ Ward — Wed 19th January 2022 @ 9:46 pm

  13. I watched a documentary, on eugenics.
    Which can allow the elimination, of genetic conditions.
    Even my own illness, may be screened out.

    But it also applies, to all things under humans control.
    It can eliminate viruses, even more complex things.
    We’re the wolves killed off, or the parasite.

    Yet some things flourish, under humans.
    Has laws of logic, become the computer.
    Soon tablets and phones, will evolve consciousness.

    Will it be one with you, or you one with it.

    Comment by DJ Ward — Thu 20th January 2022 @ 10:21 pm

  14. I have a brother I have never met, from this part of the world.
    While I believe my fathers child, did end up in NZ.
    No idea, what the birth certificates says.
    All a result of our military, doing relief work.

    I actually like our military’s response, to this disaster.
    Recognising like war, you go anyway.
    And obviously an aid carrying container ship, is a great idea.

    My guess is the volcano vented, creating a void above the magma chamber.
    It breaches, with the sea flooding in.
    I heard it as I was outside, first thinking it was my dog moaning in its sleep.
    But the dog was silent, itself waking to the noise.
    There will be stories, of it being apocalyptic.
    Just as there are other historic stories, of the apocalyptic.
    They exist, due to lived experience.

    Comment by DJ Ward — Fri 21st January 2022 @ 2:44 pm

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