Violence in Intermediate Schools around New Zealand
If Intermediate boys hit each other they do not generally get seperated as an unspoken rule but left to fight it out. After this they get sent to the office and talked to from the principal about what they did and they keep both of them in the office until someone owns up (boys unspoken loyalty to being boys) and then the boy responsible or both get detention.
If girls hit each other they get separated by the teachers who struggle sometimes as the girls are fighting as hard as the boys. After this they get sent to the office and talked to from the principal and one or both get detention. Their loyalty is not on a parr with the boys yet it is increasingly changing to such so generally they are easier to crack and are not kept in the office until someone owns up.
If a boy hits a girl he gets sent to the office and suspended for a week.
If a girl hits a boy nothing happens. Unless it is major assault????
Does this seem right to you???? Does this not seem sexist??? Does this not seem as if we are telling our boys that they have to be tougher while we tell them they are monsters for being tough? And then don’t forget we will lock them up for using this toughness over the age of 17.
This is from our kids. One of the girls tells me that this is the way it has to be because boys have more muscles than girls. So I asked, “What if the girls tease the boys?” She says, as she shruggs her shoulders that, “The boys just have to take it because they have to.”
So I challenge them as they need, “Is it the boys fault he was born with harder muscles than girls?” Oh, …. now we are having a great converstation. See how easy it is to manipulate our young girls.
Naughty, naughty society.