Unprofessionalism.
If you have just read Peters Comment, in the previous post “Signs of Change”
1. Feminazis are responsible for this tragedy and Miss Clark should be hung for endorsing child abuse. My advice to men get the hell out of this cess pit country as the childless bitch PM and her dumb arse cronies have destroyed this country and made it one of the most dangerous places in the world for vulnerable children and heartbroken Fathers. The silent media have blood on their vile hands too!!!
Comment by Peter Burns – Thu 20th April 2006 @ 8:56 am
You might be making judgements based simply on what he said, without asking yourself how he ended up in this space, who actually dealt with him along the way. It has been not only my experience but my observation that a single act of duplicity can leave Fathers feeling, isolated, betrayed by society, and trapped between loss and lack of accountability, unable to undo the damage that has been done, by other people who have the power to be as unprofessional as they choose to be on the day.
If the North and South article “Our Shame” reminds me of anything it is their previous attempt to undo the myth of failure, in their article “Family Court of Injustice” Reality is that the public just simply doesn’t believe that this is happening. It is just too absurd to be true. It can’t be true if you do not see anyone being held accountable for their behaviour.
I’ve have helped a few Fathers to climb over the wall of deceit and unprofessionalism.
(If that is a new concept them I would intend it to mean a group of people that never allow any of their number to be held to account, so their level of professionalism devolves to the lowest denominator.) In one particular case, where a counsel for child had misled the court, he wouldn’t even show up on the day of the hearing. In fact he had the mother’s solicitor lie to the court and state that he was in another part of Auckland. I knew damn well he would be in the Judges Chambers. I had been a McKenzie friend that day, and I got out of the court room just in time to see the coward, scurry off the bottom of the stairs and out the door of the Manukau Court House.
The Judge in this case Judge Adams, features as a speaker on issues for children in the NZ family Court, Novatel Saturday 22nd April. It wouldn’t surprise me if there was a protest outside. This piece of dirty legal laundry was appointed a family court Judge in 1995, and has since been promoted to administrative Judge for the Northern Region.
It wouldn’t surprise me if the father was a protestor there, because Judge Adams made damn sure this case got buried, and banned the father from further proceedings. He still doesn’t see his children.
There is nothing that would bring you to tears quicker than a dead child, but reality is for every one of those dead children, there are a thousand abused by the State.
Thank you Bevan
People are quick to stereotype and categorise fathers alienated from our loved children as deadbeat’s, volatile, obsessive, vexatious men who deserve to be locked up in the nutter’s cupboard. It is much easier to be critical than to be correct. The corruption and prejudice I have experienced that originated with cyfs & family court is beyond belief and it is some relief to know that I am not alone, as the problem is widespread throughout the country. As a forced respondent in the family court I quickly became a bewildered dad. I feel sorrow and despair at the hopelessness of the situation as I have lost my sacred primal priority my loved children. After a time the children become badly affected by PAS and they don’t care for reconnecting with dad. With the bond between dad & daughter broken the family court immediately wipes it hands of your case and eagerly looks to destroying the next innocent father.
Comment by Peter Burns — Fri 21st April 2006 @ 12:49 pm
Thanks for this post Bevan, I found it well written, sober, and sobering. Your last sentence, referring to the thousands of abused, is very true.
I can understand Peter’s anger, because I share it. It’s made worse by the fact that people everywhere are oblivious to the truth, which seems so absurd as to be impossible. Like many members of the public, I wouldn’t have believed or given much thought to what goes on in so called ‘family law’ until I found myself on the wrong end of it.
As a relative newcomer to the ‘family court brothel’ I wasn’t aware of the 2001 North & South article. I look forward to reading it and learning more about the past history of injustice.
Comment by PaulM — Fri 21st April 2006 @ 3:09 pm
Thanks Bevan.
The scurilous methods of CYFS and the over eagerness of lawyers to win the case for their client, right or wrong, contributes greatly to a Judges decision for a Judge often relies on the testimony from these people to make his or her findings.Well fashioned and case tested affidavits are the start of our woes as fathers, at least in the interim where a judge will often make a snap ruling on Ex-Parte and protection issues in favour of the mother. As you know once in the system we are mince on toast.
I have written a subject chain on restitution and how is being applied in a Florida Child and Family court. You may want to comment. Go to the panic web site and forum (just written it)
Comment by DavidM — Fri 21st April 2006 @ 5:33 pm
The Judge in this case Judge Adams, features as a speaker on issues for children in the NZ family Court, Novatel Saturday 22nd April.
WHY THE HELL HAVE WE NOT GOT INVITES ?
(seriously, what hypocrites…, think i’ll ring novotel now, see you guys there maybe)
Comment by cwb — Fri 21st April 2006 @ 6:51 pm
novotel
ph: 529-9090
72 – 112 greenlane rd, east, Ellerslie
i left a message for mr adams to call me back
Comment by cwb — Fri 21st April 2006 @ 6:57 pm
I have to agree. Every Dad that that has been dicked by this family destroyers court should be there outside this confrence on how to stuff up families. At 72 GREENLANE ROAD DONT LET THEM FORGET what they done to our children and us, WE OWE IT TO THE KIDS.
C.U.THERE 8.30am onward.
Comment by DAVE L — Fri 21st April 2006 @ 8:44 pm
Thank you for telling the people what really happens in the family [women’s] court. It was disgusting to hear the lies Stuart Cummings said under oath which helped to block me from seeing my children.The Family Court and all associated with them can go to hell as far as I’m concerned.
I havent seen my boys for 4 years thanks to these people
Comment by Mike Paterson — Mon 24th April 2006 @ 4:40 pm