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Another Dreary Night on the News

Filed under: General — Rob Case @ 1:50 pm Wed 4th April 2007

Ho Hum. Another day like any other on the TV news. Last night’s TV3 late edition high-lighted two stories, one on the Basley report, the other on a growing difference between men and women’s incomes 5 years after graduation. Of all the stories that can be presented, of all the wrongs that can be righted, yet again it is men behaving badly and women coming off the worse. I can’t think of a single news story in the past 30 years that chastised behaviour that only women were guilty of, or featured women seriously acknowledging any of the many ways in which they obtain advantage over men.

We know they are more likely to abuse children and more likely to abduct them with no serious consequence to themselves. We know they’re not going to be harmed or killed doing the very worst of jobs that need to be done, and that they will live longer by at least 5 years. They get the hog’s share of government funding, be it health, education, welfare or? superannuation. Drive through any affluent neighbourhood and a significant number of the houses will be occupied by older women on their own. On the other hand, take a look at all the homeless people, and they are mainly men. As earners, wives, widows and beneficiaries of trusts, women control a significant majority of the country’s wealth. I can’t put an exact figure on how much they collectively control, because that information is not really available. Unlike the figure for salary differences between men and women 5 years after graduation.

Consider the method being used to fashion an increasingly women-oriented world. One by one the stories are trotted out, one after the other. Each is relatively innocuous, common-sense almost. How could anyone defend the actions of police in the many cases in Basley’s report? What isn’t innocuous is the filter. When will there be a Basley report on the number of times police have arrested the male victim of a female abuser? Or a report on the extent to which women use false sexual accusation for personal advantage, and the attendant social cost? On the whole issue of sexual exploitation, ask any bouncer who guards rock stars who they get the most trouble from. Ask any young man conned into being a parent to a child he didn’t sire. Ask Paul McCartney.

Interesting also is the personal interest taken by the mother of our nation in this latest affair. She doesn’t often step in to matters that are usually handled by the judiciary. I don’t recall her taking any public interest in David Dougherty’s plight, locked up as a child rapist when DNA evidence proved conclusively that he was innocent. She may well have sympathised, but how many votes are in that? And votes are what she’s all about this time. For the first time as PM, she’s facing a real threat in John Key. Without a block female vote at the next election, she’s toast.

We men are not all virtue, and women not all villain. But we are at the raw end of a society that exists emphatically for the benefit and protection of women and children only. Society may want our labour, but we are on our own.


  1. Yes Rob,
    Totally on target mate.
    We are indeed on our own. Except for the handful of morally active woman we have been abandoned by the so called ‘caring sex’.
    We’d better get used to it, and feather our own nests methinks. Forget supporting women and their issues until they start to care about us is my motto these days.
    For it’s been my sad experience of decades now that the number of women who’re prepared to listen to men’s plight, let alone lift a finger to help men attain rights they take for granted is miniscule.
    Not only that but some of those who do understand a bit about how men are marginalised resort to the shaming double standard of saying it’s all up to men to save themselves on their own – as they insist women did.
    They overlook that many men, myself included once called themselves pro-feminist and worked hard to push the feminist agenda which has become our collective behemoth nightmare.
    They also refuse to give up any of the privileges they have attained in order to share power with men.

    Comment by Stephen — Wed 4th April 2007 @ 2:15 pm

  2. Well said Hard Case.We are the butt end; the sewage pond ; the arsehole of society.Without us society falls over.We are a necessary nuisance.Besides all that;I spent 3 years in the family wrought to get more access to my young daughter.I succeeded about 18 months ago; but now find my interest waning ;I wonder why ;and now my ex is harrassing me to give my daughter more access to me.What a waste of time and money proving my rotten character to be pretty good.Karma has struck;ha ha!

    Comment by keith — Wed 4th April 2007 @ 4:15 pm

  3. the number of women who’re prepared to listen to men’s plight, let alone lift a finger to help men attain rights they take for granted is miniscule.

    I first learned the truth of this back in 1993 when the country was celebrating the 100th anniversary of women’s suffrage. I casually made the remark amongst company that I couldn’t recall any similar observance 14 years earlier to mark the first 100 years that all men had the vote. The atmosphere immediately froze. There was a coy smile on the face of one or two men, but they were all silent. The women were a horror to behold. Shock turned to outrage and I soon got the full earfull of our guilt as men in the subjugation of women throughout history. My partner of the time was no help and fell in with the sisters.

    Comment by Rob Case — Wed 4th April 2007 @ 11:33 pm

  4. I succeeded about 18 months ago; but now find my interest waning ;I wonder why

    A very observable phenomenon among separated fathers. After a few year a large number of dads just loose contact with their kids.

    The cause I suspect is probably a type of post traumatic stress disorder caused by a system that sets one parent as custodial and one parent as a visitor who pays for the privilege.

    For your daughters sake don’t let the interest wain keith.



    Comment by Scrap_The_CSA — Thu 5th April 2007 @ 2:18 pm

  5. Yep; true; thanks scrap;I believe the years of 10 to 13 are very important for girls to have a good relationship with their fathers.I will have to rise above the x’s bullshit.I love my little 10 year old ;as us blokes do.Keep up the good comments man.

    Comment by keith — Thu 5th April 2007 @ 4:35 pm

  6. Stay Strong Men – Only DADs can do DADs Job – Onward – Jim

    Comment by JimBWarrior - HandsOnEqualParent — Sun 8th April 2007 @ 6:39 am

  7. Good one Jim;way true.

    Comment by keith — Sun 8th April 2007 @ 2:05 pm

  8. And now scientists in Britain have successfully managed to synthesise female sperm.

    This means that (to quote the scientists) “lesbian couples will now be able to sire their own daughters” (it is impossible for them to sire sons because that requires a Y-chromosome).

    Bring on the Great Darkness!

    Comment by Sparx — Thu 26th April 2007 @ 6:42 pm

  9. RE: female sperm.They can literally go f… themselves.But what happens if they have a problem with the sperm donor;it would be hard going to report yourself to the IRD to pay child support.Bring it on,may save men a lot of money.They can really have their OWN kids then and live in a special part of the city together and form their own truly deviant narcisstic culture.

    Comment by keith — Fri 27th April 2007 @ 4:45 pm

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