How embedded is female priviledge in NZ?
Female privilege is so embedded in our social and political landscape that many of us don’t even see it, our attentions being inclined toward the unusual rather than the commonplace. Establishment power doesn’t see it, nor do many women.
Some men see it, many sense it, and a few have felt the full force of it.
Just this weekend gone I read and used 2 articles for another site and if I hadn’t of known about female privilege and how DV uses the Duluth method which is non scientific but based on men are perpetrators and women are victims, I wouldn’t have noticed how we are accepting men as violent and women as the meek, sweet sex who would only hurt a male because he forced her to as a victim at almost infancy.
In both articles which are used on major sites and used by other groups the boys are bad and the girls are victims. For instant the first article was about tantrums. Every time the professional writer spoke of the child throwing a tantrum, she used the word “He” Never once did she speak of a girl throwing a tantrum. And the other article was on bullying. The bully was always a ‘he’ and the victim was always a ‘she’. And this is toddlers and primary school children we are talking about. This show that the schools must also be using this formula for the programs they have to try and stop bullying.
Then recently, I spoke with rape crisis. You know that they are soon to be their own national group like a commission. I asked them if they had any group that spoke with them on behalf of males being raped because they told me they use the women centres for alot of information. “One”, they said is involved and this one is for males who were raped as children by their fathers. So I asked, “What if a woman rapes a man?” Well, it seems that does not happen in their eyes and this is at the top. Even in drunk situations. It is men who are purposely getting women drunk by buying them drinks.
So what help is available to men? The said that there is “one”, (only one) counsellor representing ACC that can deal with claims. Now that is a definate worry.
But it got me thinking, who represents males being boys, youth and/or men in the Families Commission, the Children’s Commission and so forth. No wonder the Human Rights Commission doesn’t know what to do. They rely on these other commissions and the Ombudsman which I might add doesn’t hear about male problems very often.
Makes one wonder if in fact it is all feminist’s fault? (not including radical feminists here) Or if somehow men’s rights have been taken for granted until men themselves find they are a victim to the system?
It is a bit strange how Judge Boshier refuses to meet with the Father’s Coalition yet speaks out publicly that the men need to change things at a political level. Could it be that he is asking for some representation in commissions and the like? Could it be that when he said publicly, “Fathers need to show me they are important to their children’s lives” that he is asking for documented proof because that is how everything seems to work these days.
BTW, This is outside the protesting. Protesting is important to keep lawyers and judges accountable. They need to stop corrupt behaviors when dealing with children, dads and mums. These are just thoughts.