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Filed under: General — Jerry @ 7:03 pm Thu 24th May 2007

Forty years ago there was one woman’s group fighting for women’s rights, now every woman is a woman fighting for women’s rights. You have to ask yourself why men don’t do the same. The answer probably is that until your rights as a father have been taken from you, you don’t realise there’s anything to fight for. You don’t realise that men’s rights are being chipped away in the most insidious way.

You only need to listen to some of the advertisements out these days and educated middle class commentators (male and female) to know that all men are either dopes or aggressive towards women or sex fiends. Women can dump their children at the nearest crèche, or organise before and after school care and trot off to pursue their careers, but they are still considered the nurturing sex. In the last few decades I’ve noticed that men have taken a greater interest in their children and a greater involvement in their lives yet they are still left out in the cold when it comes to primary custody.

Until men find themselves in the position of being a father who has been separated from his children, men still think it’s a man’s world. My advice is that men should start setting up groups for men’s rights in general, not specifically only when it’s about dads because by the time it gets to that stage, not too much we can do about it except to complain to each other. These groups may have to fight off a bit of derision, but women were ignored and their concerns were laughed at, at first but they stuck with it. Goes to show who the stronger sex is, doesn’t it?

My advice is — nip it in the bud. Whenever you hear or read or watch an advertisement that is obviously or subtly sexist towards men, write a letter of complaint. Letters are more effective than emails or phone calls. Get a group of you together and write a letter of complaint to the company selling the product and say you refuse to buy their product. Forward a copy to the newspapers. Do it at once and keep it up. There are a lot of women in advertising now. You might want to think that one through too. Don’t allow radio or TV commentators to imply in any way that women are somehow better than men. It’s not possible. We’re a two gender species. I’ve noticed that women will never — ever — criticise other women, not matter how obvious it is that there is something to criticise. It’s the sisterhood thing. Every woman may not speak about it openly but every woman knows about it. Take a leaf out of their book.

Finally, web sites like this are fantastic, but they only cater to men who have already lost their rights. Like women’s groups have done, we need to broaden our parameters and educate the public in general. We need to include ‘outsider’ men in this crusade.


  1. I agree. And have considered some of your points myself. but it is true people don’t really care until it happens to them. And suddenly they realise just how bad things are out there.

    Comment by wendy — Fri 25th May 2007 @ 10:23 am

  2. “…write a letter of complaint to the company selling the product and say you refuse to buy their product. Forward a copy to the newspapers. Do it at once and keep it up.”

    I agree with you absolutely on this one. Targeting the sponsor companies will be way more effective than writing to media alone.

    To influence New Zealand specific media, we need a list of companies that we are unhappy with as men consumers, quoting the objectionable material they use to promote their product.

    I would be happy to set up a blog for this purpose.

    JohnP, can you advise of any legal pitfalls to look out for?

    Comment by Rob Case — Fri 25th May 2007 @ 10:57 am

  3. With all due respect many have recognised the value of inspiring the masses – I think most have found that winding up the APATHETIC is rather a bewildering thankless task

    Most DEMOS I have been on receive ABUSE from the very people that need us most

    Bring as many Stories to the PUBLIC thru our own MEDIA is a risky business or have you not noticed Paul-R’s fall and the now 3 personal attacks on me and know doubt others who stand at the front line

    We NEED a lot more solitude to show strength and support to the **Outsider** FOLK as they fall on the sword

    Add your story-/-video to the BOTHERED Stories at and the many other sites listed to open the net wider

    Offer your successes on the **McKenzie Coalition** as help to others be another productive way ahead

    Onward – Jim

    Comment by JimBWarrior - HandsOnEqualParent — Sat 26th May 2007 @ 3:30 am

  4. Rob asks:

    JohnP, can you advise of any legal pitfalls to look out for?

    I’m no legal expert. I’m happy for people to publish anti-male material here so that consumers can avoid those companies.

    I hope no MENZ reader ever patronises the Body Shop!

    Comment by JohnP — Sat 26th May 2007 @ 1:21 pm

  5. John,

    What’s up with the Body Shop?

    Comment by Rob Case — Thu 31st May 2007 @ 12:59 pm

  6. What’s up with the Body Shop?

    Major financial supporter of Women’s Refuge and promoter of antimale propaganda.

    Comment by JohnP — Thu 31st May 2007 @ 6:52 pm

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