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Mother’s privacy more important than child safety

Filed under: Domestic Violence — JohnPotter @ 3:13 pm Wed 12th December 2007

Dads not happy with mum’s violence challenge
By JOHN HENZELL – The Press | Wednesday, 05 December 2007

A fathers’ group is outraged Christchurch police have been challenged for informing a dad that his children had been present during a domestic-violence incident between their mother and her new partner.

The father learnt of the incident more than a year later when his son mentioned fighting and that they had been “in a police car” when they were taken to the safety of their grandmother’s home.

… Darrell Carlin, spokesman for the Union of Fathers, said it showed once again that the authorities were failing to make children’s rights the priority.

“Fathers need to be in a position to protect their children (but) it happens quite frequently that fathers don’t get to see what’s going on,” he said.

“He could have gone through the custody case and the court wouldn’t have been notified that this had gone on because it didn’t involve both (the mother and father).

“This case was about the mother’s dignity and feeling of humiliation, but we’ve got to bring it back to the kids and what it’s like for them and what it’s like to be taken out of their house in the middle of the night in a police car.

“To keep the checks and balances, fathers definitely have the right to know whether their children are likely to be in any kind of danger.”


  1. Who is the area representative for the Union of Fathers in the Christchurch region. Is it still Steve Flynn ?

    Comment by dad4justice — Fri 14th December 2007 @ 9:30 pm

  2. Felicito, me parece esto el pensamiento admirable

    Comment by cubrikaska — Sat 3rd October 2009 @ 9:22 pm

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