What happened after meeting in Waitakere?
I am just putting this out there so others get a feel for what is going on and for the lesson that I have learnt and the support and how to get it and how you will not get it.
As we all know NZ is a small country and when you are considering moving in the political scene you become known and labelled pretty quickly. The same goes for the community trust scene.
Our meeting did come over strong to be anti feminist. That name/label ‘Anti-feminist’ is a very dangerous label and anyone with it is going to hit brick walls and the doors will shut fast one after another. This is what I am being told from a few good and worthwhile bigger palyers.
Most people are aware there needs to be change in NZ for males and women’s support is going to be a big asset. There are women already out there who deal with the violence on males and there are politicians and women in high places that are supportive. But it is not their job to make it work as they already have jobs that keep them busy full-time and in overtime with other commitments on projects.
It seems that some males here are barred from entering political offices (hehehe, that’s funny) and such and just the sheer mention of their name is enough to have you cut off at the knees. (so to speak) This is pretty much how it is in any business which does suck really. But it is a reality that has to be dealt with.
Anyhow, it seems that I personally have not cut myself out completely from the support of others but I am being looked at wearily and I can’t afford to make any mistakes.
So, basically, I am not going anti feminist because that is not going to achieve what I want.
However, I am aware that other groups who are anti feminist will still achieve what it is they are wanting. The two cannot combine unless it is sure there is control. These are the wise words that I have been given and I am not ignoring them.
However, there is a couple of males that I think CAN mellow out enough to work with prominent groups and politicians and the people so I am not cutting anyone out. Just so you know, we are making a committee as an arm of Auckland Single Parent’s Trust for fathers and their children. This has a 5 year plan to achieve a National Body for males and a Men’s Affairs in parliament.
Just putting this out there for anyone else who is wanting to learn from my lesson so as to make sure we achieve what we set out to do and don’t end up with wasting our time for the next so many years. I am aware many males may not agree with the way I do things and that is OK. But at least this way, we all understand.