Am I doing the right thing?
I’d like some advice on my situation… it’s a tough one, but then none of the shit NCP’s put up with is easy.
I’m paying my child support and fair or unfair it has to be paid.Â My ex seems to put up all these brick walls and even though I am entitled to see my Daughter once a fortnight for 8 hours on a saterday she (my daughter) has opted to go home after just 3 hours because the ex decides to tell her about the exciting things they will be doing that day.Â Needles to say that my financial situation doesn’t allow me to do all those things…
I know most of you will be saying take it to the FC but who am I kidding?Â I don’t have the money to do that and no way of getting legal aid – same ol’ story and besides, what am I going to say to the judge when all they want to know is what is in the best interest of the child (read: what she wants not what she needs) and I’ll be back to square one.
So, instead of beating my head against one of many brick walls each fortnight I figured I would cut out the middle man (the FC) and tell my daughter that I’m here for her when she wants to see me.Â My hopes are that when she gets a little older (she’s now 8 ) she’ll see what the ex has been doing and want to be with me more.
I love my daughter so much but it doesn’t seem like there is any other choice but to forget about visitation and let her decide what she wants to do.
Your opinions, suggestions and advice would be much appreciated.