Should we be encouraging men and women to represent themselves in the familycaught?

Surely, if we trusted the values and integrity of the “judges”, then legal workers wouldn’t be required at all?

By emphasising their unpredictability and unreliability, “judges” put massive pressure on to parents, to be fleeced by their junour brethren, the legal workers (who aspire to be asset stripper “judges” themselves).

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This looks awfully like being rewarded for incompetence, to my eye?

There are some distinct advantages to self representation – for example there is no risk of your legal worker saying things that are totally against what you have asked them to say. I have heard several people make this complaint, and with considerable pain, explain how much it cost to later try to rectify the situation.

Balancing this, there is the hope that a legal worker can present your case, to the “judge”, without getting lost in emotion, possibly to the detriment of the outcome.

Other people just say, if you are going to lose anyway, then you owe it to yourself and to your children, to lose cheaply.

For some people – the biggest issue is blackmail – they are being sold their own children, at the highest possible cost. Like all blackmail, will it ever end?

I guess such blackmail only ends, when the victim refuses to succumb, either because their money (and borrowing capacity) has finally been exhausted totally or they stand up to the secret caught coward that is trying to blackmail them.

Surely, the children’s interests would be better served by addressing the issues surrounding the options for caring for the children, rather than by fomenting adversarial dispute.

A major element in improving outcomes, is for better information about alternatives to be available to all parents and for parents to put in enough effort to understand them!

Certainly, the familycaught website does have some wise material, which sounds like it is heading in this direction.

Why then, is the day to day secret practice of NZ judges still firmly rooted in black and white – one party takes all – duel to the death?

Simply because this is in the paramount interests of the “judges” and legal workers.

If much of the financial resources of the parties has been expended, to resolve one small present issue regarding the care of the children (when no doubt through the next 10 or 15 years many similar issues will arise) then it can be seen that the asset stripping operations of the familycaught will never give long term service to families and their children.

We need to provide a familycaught system that can provide relevant, useful, competent services to families, at a price that doesn’t quickly destroy the family.

One element of this, in my opinion, is helping parents to represent themselves in familycaught (and at the same time to protect their assets for the parents and the children, rather than for the paramount interests of legal workers holidays and mistresses).

Integrity is doing the same when you are in private, that you do when you are being watched or reported on?

Do our “judges” have this sort of integrity?

Best regards, MurrayBacon.